Dear bloggers,
My name is Jabulani Ntazana Dhlakama. I was born in Zambia on the 9th of june 1987 under the name Ntazana Nchinga to my mother Martha Chitundu Bowa and the father I never knew, Richard Nchinga. He worked in lusaka at that period as an accountant but never married my mother.
Once seperated, my mother married a Zimbabwean, Dumisani Dhlakama who adopted me as his son and moved us to Zimbabwe. Please help me look for my father, brothers and sisters.
Yours Jabulani
Yes no 1
Abena Rich Nchinga limbi balidedwa.
Guys help this young man, now 21 yrs old. Wishing you all the best Jabu. I am sure somebody will recognise the details you supplied.
4th
Please thoso who may have an Idea where the father,brother and siters of this feller are.help him to find them.My brother I promise I will pray with you so that you can find your pipo.all things works for good for those who love the Lord.
Ntazani, try going to the Bomba where National registration cards are issued hopefully you might be able to trace which village your father comes from, hopefully with that information you can find out more about your father, and also other relatives. Zambia is not that big a country am sure some how you will trace his where abouts. Wish you all the best.
Where is your mother?
Am sure your mother can help you tell you some of the relatives of your father. Am sure she knows one or two.
Then you can start from there.
If not try the company he worked from, someone should know something.
Maybe one of these bloggers is your Father.
There goes another one..
Pa Zed no propa registration for citizens, once you loose someone`s address thats it, if you cant locate a bululu forget it,
hope you find your family
all the best dude
Oh my God!i finally find you son Ntazana… so where are???please tell me where i can find you
My friend, the man who adopted you is your father. I have watched documentaries here in Norway where children like you ‘look’ for their ‘real’ parents and end up being rejected. It can be painful.
I hope you have discussed this with your mum.
Number 12 is giving you some good advice dear sir. I hope for your sake you find your natural father, but keep in mind you have a father that raised you as well. Maybe your mother can give you more information. Just remember sometimes it is better to leave things as they are as some information can be too painful to know.
All the same,may you find out what you want to know and God bless!
go to ZNBC, you’ll have wider coverage.
21 yrs is a long time. Think Jabulani! Why did ur father abandon u in the first place? Appreciate the man who raised u as his own! The truth can be painful so u beta be strong. All the best in ur search!
Your mother and father never separated thats a lie she told you in order to make herself look as if you were not born out of wedlock. It’s a lie most women that have consensual sex thats ends up in pregnancy tell in order for them to morally justify their wrongs. I know this is harsh but your real father probably won’t want a relationship with you because if he did , he would have made some effort to get to you. Dumisani Dhlakama is the better man here for adopting you and seeing he has been your father so long, I wish most of us were like him. Anyway thats my advice
Young man what do you need your runaway father for? You have a father in the goodman who adopted and raised you. just work hard as a man and make it for yourself. your biological father knowz about you but has not cared about you, why should you care? forget him and concentrate on building yourself. Even tho life in zim is hard you can succeed if thats what you want.
I pray to God that he grants you success in your search!!! guys believe me its painful but Jabu seems to manage well and my bro your courage will be rewarded.
All the best and may God show his favour upon you and please dont give up.
Regards
Soon every Zimbabwean will withdraw their 1000 000 000 000 000 000 000 Zim dolar get K2000 kwacha and use the difference buy a bus fare to Zambia. On arrival they will claim they were born from Zambain father they never knew in Lusaka. FTJ Chiluba, Kabwe, and all those who are always in news papers for wrong reasons watch out. That is where these Zimbabeans will look first for a name to use to make these false claims. The young man is an economic refugee. Take him to a refugee camp.
Gentlemen and ladies, the young has not metioned that he is not doing fine, he just wants to know where the father might be or atleast some relatives and it ends there period. Blood is thicker than water. Who knows maybe he wants to help the father out of poverty somewhere in kalikiliki. Be positive
“Nine Chale” we miss your comments, can you please comment on this ba kalamba, nimwe twachetekelamo kuno kufyalo fyampepo.
Zed is a christian nation. # 20 i salute your thinking. Surely zedians let us give this young man hope and gud advice in his search. Let us put ourselves in his boots. May the Lord Jabu be with u in your search.
During the 80’s life was very tough in Zed, for many women it was the only option to find a foreingn guy with money to help them feed their families. In Kitwe many ladies went to Shombe mines, to look for Ma senesene Senegaliase emerald illegal dealers, in Lusaka Addis Ababa Road was swamming with girls “stooping” for indians, muzungus and anyone with four wheels and cash to spare. Many children were born, during this time with names like Musa, Jawara, TsiTsi, Tambu, Ali etc..
Some mothers in C/B left their kids for months at a time, to serve their second husbands in the emerald mine in the bush…
Zimbabwe men are best. Stay with your Zimbabwean father. The reason why this Zambian father did not bother looking for your is that he did not want you. Just pray for your biological father and forgive him of his sins. Its a sin to bring a child on earth and you dont give him/her love.
I feel for you JABULANI, Nomally such parents as your father are normally irresponsible…buffuns .Don’t expect too much from him.The fact that he has not cared shows how irrevant he is your upbringing….He is just a father yes but not a parent.it takes wisdom to make a parent.Everyone like Richard can be a father.
Thats is why we street kids ,these children don’t drop from heaven some…Anyway for you JABU @ 21 you should even thank God.Good luck with your DAD search.
Naiwe Chi Richard …try to be responsible for once umwana uyo …busy muli CHIBUKU yakupula,ichimutwe,Iam sure you are in your 40+
“…the father I never knew, Richard Nchinga. He worked in lusaka at that period as an accountant but never married my mother. Once seperated, my mother married a Zimbabwean, Dumisani Dhlakama who adopted me as his son and moved us to Zimbabwe. Please help me look for my father, brothers and sisters.”
You claim your real father and mother never married, but somehow they separated. With this background, I need more details for surely my guess is that your mother might have known your father’s relatives before they two separated.
Anyhow, what was your fathers workplace then – when you were born? Where exactly were you born from in terms of a village, town or city? Any relatives who knew him?
It is nice to know the father but he may not be a parent like the one who brought you up. keep up with the one who has arised you into a son because the one who fathered you never bothered about your existence. As far as he is concerned you are still a baby and you will not grow. You have a father who has raised you into a man.
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27. your flag MAMA, while your advice makes sense, I beg to differ with you.
Recently, president Hakainde Hichilema’s father surfarced and HH has taken good care of his father whom he did not know properly from childhood to about now. So, Jabulani Ntazana Dhlakama is in order to search for his/her real father though the father-under-search acted irresponsibly by negelecting Jabulani though we have not been furnished with the full details of what exactly transpired.
Sad story but me hope it go get a happy end. Every bwoy needs to grow up wid a father, so dat when him soon become a man, him know how fi juggle de livity, becah him father set it fe him ahready and him just follow de tradition.
good luck
MAYBE YOUR MOTHER SLEPT WITH HER SISTERS HUSBAND THATS WHY SHE CANT TELL YOU WHO YOUR FATHER IS SORRY BETTER LUCK NEXT TIME
“A son who wants to find his rightful home”
The title of this story is wrong.
I’m here!
Kwela ndeke ubwele ku eu mwana wanga.
Aren’t you just running away from cholera in Zimbabwe?
Keep searching!
It won’t kill ya’…
Meanwhile,focus on the important things in life…
They won’t kill you too…You will find some lead….! Google is a good place to start…
#11 you are stilpet. Can you please this colleague serious. you probably dont know how it feels never to ever know your father or mother. lets be Zambian enough and do this young man a favour by not taking his request as a joke. so Ntazana as your name states, you shall find your father and siblings but i wish you had an idea where your father worked, this too would have really helped.
and please guys, do you think he would be searching for his father if his mother had the valuable information he is looking for? But suppose his mother is deceased? what is happening to the Zambian, well known over as the most friendly people? some of the comments are list expected,chabipa sana, plz symp
and especially 33, 34, Richard Nchinga you suck man!
Stop insulting teh young man and lets just help him. What would you do if it were you.
Ngelyashi iyo ati shani…..
Zimandola #21 I’m humbled by your laudatio, it is always my pleasure to comment on LT. As for the lost son Ntazana, I only hope his dad is still alive and finds him. Otherwise, this is a common case not only in Zambia but also in other countries too.
Is it the Zim economic crunchy that is making you think of your biological father. If your adopted father has looked after you as a son and brought you to this age it is may not be quite fair to start getting so concerned about a father you have never seen. There is no problem in tracing your roots but be careful not to bite the finger that has feed you.
find out what company he worked for and start from there
You real father is the man who brought you up.The man you are looking for never bothered to look for you. He has never been there for you. When were unhappy ,when you were at your lowest, when you were breaken ,who was there to encourage you. When you were sick, through your teens who was there.Don’t bother looking for such a heartless man. Why didn’t he have the hunger to look for you.He is not worth looking for, just pray for him that he has a change of attitude and thank God for the man who adopted you.Very few people are blessed with such good step parents
#31
I know a story like that.
Actually it was one of my cousins. She found out when she was 23yrs old. We all knew who her father was but we all kept it away from her. She thought her dad was dead when her real dad was the uncle she would meet in family gatherings. One of her aunties eventually spilled the beans and the first person she didn’t want anything do with was her mother for keeping such a secret for 23yrs.
Its best not to find out who your father is at times.
hey Jabu, fatherhood is a social construct. what will you biological father do for you that your step father has not done? you are 21,now is time for you to think about your life not father who has never been there for you
i strongly feel that u shud just give respect to he that raised u forget about yo fake o real dad nigger!
#45 its best not find who your father is at times lest you gorge out your eyes like Oedipus the king did when he found out he had unknowingly married his mother after killing a man who happened to have been his father
#19 You’re the type of person that give Zambians a bad name. Unless you are a clairvoyant #20 was right in asking you what made you think Jabulani is an economic refugee, he is only looking for his father. Expand your intellect and desist from idle chatter.
His adopted father has raised him but that doesn’t mean he is ungrateful. It’s a biological bond where people want to find their blood relatives. I just hope the poor young man isn’t disappointed. At least if he knows, then he can let it rest.
And #16 you weren’t there and you implying Jabulani’s mother was an adultress. You have no idea maybe the sex wasn’t consensual and reason why she’s reluctant for sone to make contact.
#48 Doubting Tomas
Do you what effects this has had on this 23yr old.
One of them is that she is just popping out children like mad with different dudes.
Ntazana! I hope you discussed your biological parental search with your father (the man who has brought you up) and your mum.
This might cause problems in your mother’s marriage. The man may think your mother doesn’t appreciate him for what he has done. If this man is stil alive you will trace him. But be ready for anything!!!!!!!! Rejection or may be he’s late. Good luck and God bless you.
Ba LT, why are my posts not coming up?
Tabwelanso nandalama,kuno niku lusaka!
why are u blocking my comments LT u also want friends or maybe u think we came here to look for friends clean up your act if you doing it purpose!
watever
guys let us help if we no da father
#54& 55 Shocking
What’s the matter today?
Do u want to have laugh, it might help.
‘LT u also want friends.’ ha!ha!Ha!
So what are the chances of this young man finding his Father and sis and bros.
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Nchinga met Jabu’s queen on Addisababa Drive . It will be difficult for him to disclose to his current wife.
Jabu stick to the devil you know
Abena Jabu, 21 years yonse iyi mwali kwi? chilya mwafwa insala ku Zim elo mwaibukisha aba fyashi? nga nali wiso (richard)kuti naku tanfya mambala.
you guys please reason when you post your contributions. imagine it was someone suggesting such terrieble things about your mother or father. lets maintain the respect that we always behold for our elders. No 59 please,
ba lusaka times what has happened to my posting. it had answers for that poor boy
is this a true story or some fiction? if it is true then this boy is not serious with himself
young man just become a president and your father will surface. ask Chiluba he has first hand experience. so not all is lost
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This is one of the evils that men can do. Love them and leave them. Mothers at least care. You men out there, do not forget the children of your loins. God will not let such people go unpunished. I hope you men blogging here are not guilty. I hope the young man gets to find his father some day. Perhaps he does not even need help but just has the craving to see he’s biological father. We all need a father figure. Be it a father, husband or even a brother. Its only human. (Women have their ills too. Lest I be mistaken and open a hornet’s nest and send a pack of male chauvinists on my heels.)
It will be irresponble for us to assume that Richard man neglected the son. What if Martha decided to run away to Zimbabwe when she had problems with Richard. Lets be objective. Youngman you are doing a noble thing, you may even get answers to some questions you ask yourself.
a caring father looks after his children. i just hope u a not looking for a dad who will come and give u hell. keep the dad who brought u up rather than end up in a family were u will be called a child from outside coverage area. anyway u can post an ad in sangwapo of the post newspaper. this has wider coverage. u may even be a nephew to one of these noise makers around.
Number (67) what you have written, that too is an assumption. (Martha to have run away to Zimbabwe) Then it is irresponsible I suppose going by your own words.
No. 68, By law, an 18 or is it 21 year old is termed an adult They need not look to their parents any more to look after him. However I see your point. From Zambia’s own point of view. I once read of a 50 year old man who wanted to escape a jail sentence. He pleaded with the judge to be lenient on him as he was an orphan. funny and strange but true.
Princess-y you are right – it could be that he is only interested in knowing his biological father and nothing else. ma Zedians looks like you have had nasty experiences that makes you think every one that is out to seek a noble course is trying to get away from poverty. Shame upon you! we all need a father figure indeed and as for me, i would really love to at least know who my father or mother is. i pray that someone may come across Ntazana’s request and help him achieve his dream – to meet a father he has never known. God help the young man.
But # 60 tawakwata uluse chikamba.
In a way some of you or many of you are like Jabu’s father you have abandoned your own country and you are basking in the luxuries of foreign land. Shame! And yet you take courage in hauling all the salvo on the poor boy. blood is thicker than water.
Young man forget your biological father, he was just another Sperm Donor, like most Zambian men i know! There so many “fatherless”children around the world and always will be. Best thing is to carry on with your life without him, maybe its for the best, if he wanted to know about you he would have made the first move.. life goes own. I know a woman in Zed who was is married to a decent man, but she brought 8 “cuck cuck’s eggs” children from love affairs outside the marriage while she was pretending be a good wife and mother! These things happen. if you find the man you think is your dad, dont be surprised if he wants to have a DNA test.
In short LK wont take any comment from Russia? Or whats happening?
6 comments blocked why, why why ba TIMES?? WHY?
#76 AK-47 I am experiencing the same thing. No profanity but still.
What’s the problem with ba LT?
More over, the flag I am being given is completely wrong!!
#16, spot-on. That’s why as a kid, I never wanted to grow up to become a man. We’re lying, manipulative and irresponsible chaps sometimes.
Dumi, fatherhood is more than just coming inside a woman. A real father makes sacrifices and takes responsibility for his actions. Your ‘real’ father didn’t. Take it on the chin, they’re worse things in life.
Now that sugar and bread are unaffordable in Zim,,you want to be a known Zedian,,gudluck in your search,,Halla at my ‘DAD’ Tsangrai
FOR GET ABOUT THE MAN> YOUR FATHER IS THE ONE WHO HAS BEEN THERE FOR U> MOST ZEDS ARE LIKE THAT> JUST CONCENTRATE OF BUILDING UP YOUR LIFE AND JUST ENSURE THAT U DONT MAKE THE SAME MISTAKES> A LOT HAVE ABONDONED CHILDREN AND IN THE END THEY HAVE REGRETED> LOOK AT OBAMA HE IS AN ICON OF THE WORLD TODAY AND NOT JUST THAT A PRESIDENT OF A BIG STATE> WORK HARD MY DEAR THAT RICHARD CHAP MAY EVEN BE IN MISERY NOW> THERE IS ALWAYS TIME FOR EVERYTHING> GOD WILL HEAR YOUR CRY ONE DAY AND HE WILL REWARD U FOR THE PAIN U HAVE ENDURE> NUMBER SIXTY U R JUST A WRONG CHAP AND I HOPE U JUST GO FATHERING CHILDREN ANY HOW AN ABONDING THEM> AM NOT HAPPY WITH YOUR COMMENTS
Forget the bastard , afterall he abandoned u.
FOR HEAVEN’S SAKE #80 BE SERIUOS WITH THYSELF HELP JABU WITH SINCERITY
It is your mum who is not telling you the truth otherwise help would come easily. I am certain she does not want you to meet your father. let her tell you where your dad used to work as an accountant and that will give you a good start. Then call me on 26-95-5847034
Kwibisa.
am here
My biological dad divorced my and my siblings in 1977. My mum got married again and our step father brought us up the best way a father could bring up his children. I have the greatest respect for that man (may his soul rest in eternal peace) than for the man who caused me to be born, After all the neglect and the trouble that mum went through to raise us, biological father resurfaces and wants us to acknowledge him as father. For what and why now. Jabulani, you father is the name whose name you bear, the name who has seen you grow, the man who has been there. Forget Nchinga. Let him look for you and then he can answer your questions.
Thanks number 86 u have written sense!!!! God bless u.
Jabu just work hard. No farmer that plants a seed and that does not bare fuit would take trouble to go and havest and enjoy the produce. my advice is that work hard and become somebody in life and you will see how many fathers will resurfuace. May God take care of you.
JABU YOU ARE NOT ALONE,MY PARENTS WHO WERE LAWFULLY MARRIED DIVOCED WHEN I WAS TWO YEARS.MY MUM AND HER PARENTS RAISED US TO BE RESPONSIBLE CITIZENS,IM NOW 32 AND HAV A HAPPY FAMILY AND MY FATHER HAS RESOURFACED AFTER MY MOTHER AND GRANDPARENTS DEATHS,HE KNOWS WE ALL HAVE GUD JOBS AND HE CAN REAP WERE HE DIDNT SOW.IF I WERE YOU I WOULD RATHER REMAIN IN THE DARK THAN INVITE UNNECCESARY PRESURE.I ONLY PRAY YOU HAV FORGIVEN THE MAN BUT THERE CAN NEVER EVER BE A BOND BETWEEN THE TWO OF YOU,I KNOW WAT IM TALKING ABOUT,ANYWAY FOLLOW YOUR HEARTS DESIRE’
no 73 sperms are thicker than blood. this youngman is he doing something or he wants to meet the real dad so that he can eat with both hands?
remember at 21 you are an adult .dont cry over spilt milk. i now most accountants in lusaka through zica and zcas but this richard i presume is not even registered anywhere. finally boy dont fall into ur father’s ways . if u undress and father anyone in zim dont run to zed . once a nchinga always a nchinga
ok. iam richard. now what can i do for u that i never did all these yrs
This man will never be satisfied untill he shoudl find his father. That is love Jabu. May God help you to find him. BUt don’t shout at him when find him and have faith. Don’t mind about these people becaus ethey have biological parents that is why they can talk like that.