“If a man is lucky, there is no telling the possible extent of his good fortune. Throw him into the Zambezi river and he will swim out with a diamond in his handâ€
The desire to be lucky is universal. We all hope to be favored by the whimsical goddess of Good Luck. Is there a way we can meet her and attract, not only her favorable attention, but her generous favors?
This is what Kamwandi Nyakalenda wanted to know.
There was going to be a businessman’s meeting at the Protea Hotel in Chingola. Kamwandi, just had to be there. Rumor had it a wise rich man, whom everyone called uncle Alfred was going to be there. He was one of the tycoons of Solwezi. At such forums people were free to talk to Uncle Alfred like an equal.
As the sun rose to light up the Solwezi skyline, Kamwandi boarded the minibus that would take him to Chingola. Ironically today he felt lucky, there were no big trucks on the way that would have slowed the journey. Minibus drivers these days were scared of overtaking trucks after the fatal accident on the Chililabobwe/Chingola road that killed many people including his childhood friend.
“What shall we discuss this morning?â€uncle Alfred asked the 50 businessmen gathered in the conference room of the hotel. Kamwandi’s heart was beating fast; this was his only chance to voice what had been heavy on his heart.
He cleared his throat and said “I have a subject I would like to hear discussed yet hesitate to say lest it seems ridiculous to you my fellow businessmen.â€
“Mwaiche landa fye,†Big Jo shouted from the back of the room.
“Well this week I have been lucky. Among other things I found an envelope with K500 000. To continue to be lucky is my greatest desire. I suggest we debate how to attract good luck that we may discover ways it can be enticed to one.â€
“Gentlemen an interesting topic has been offered,†Uncle Alfred commented, “one most worthy of our discussion. To some men, good luck is a chance happening, that like an accident may come upon one without purpose or reason. Others believe that the instigator of all good fortune is the gods, who are ever anxious to reward with generous gifts those who please them. Speak up, gentlemen, what do you say, should we seek to find if there is a way by which good luck may be enticed to visit each and every one of us?
I think good luck exists through this formula
preparation + opportunity = good luck
Nay! no such a thing as luck,u only deserve what u claim
I a gree with inonge, If you prepare yourself adquatelly you may benefit when mother luck striks.
Inonge has the formula spot on! Theres nothing more to say.
we make our own luck !!
Then wat z luck? U escape an accident & claim u r lucky.
Wanzelu,anybody escaping an accident unhurt should consider themselves lucky either by design or fate.By surviving a car crash becoz of putting on your seatbelt can easily be considered making your own luck by virtue of making the conscious and responsible decision to observe seatbelt regulations!!
what do you say about a person who is constantly met with misfortune.All the horrid things seem to happpen to them and most not by their choice? Unlucky?
it is always darkest before dawn,Inonge!!Alot of self created problems are classified as bad luck.Nature does well at balancing good and bad luck, the problem has always been which of the two an event is attributable to luck!
Original Pundit,luck z anything that seems to happen by chance & not thru yo own efforts.So preparation + opportunity = goodluck z not Correct coz their z personal effort there not even the seatbelt thing.
Good attempt, #1.However,i think meaningful preparation presupposes a fixed number of situations. I know of people that escaped RTA’s exactly because they NEGLECTED to put their seat belts on. Luck is like probability; it exists!
I returned, & saw under the sun, that the race is not to the swift, nor the battle to the strong, neither yet bread to the wise, nor yet riches to the men of understanding, nor yet favor to men of skill; but time and chance happeneth to them all.
Ecclesiates 9:11
Interesting, yes chance happens to all.That probably explains why that “chikopo” in my grade 7 class is now a successful enterpreneur, making more money than those of us who spent hours studying.His chance came and he took it! Good for him!
Interesting, yes chance happens to all.That probably explains why that “chikopo” in my grade 7 class is now a successful entrepreneur, making more money than those of us who spent hours studying.His chance came and he took it! Good for him!
I believe there is no thing as luck. Its just seizing the opportunity when it comes. # 12(GLUCO)Has pointed it out so well. Time and chance happen to all what remains is for one to realise it and seiz it when it comes.
Dee(15),choosing a lucky dip(this generates 6 random numbers for a lottery entry)won an Irish woman £77m.interest alone earns her £2.7m net per year.when she went to buy the ticket the gentleman in front of her(in the line) in the shop, gave her way as a gesture of respect to the elderly(rare in the uk!).after her he also purchased a lucky dip but won nothing at all.Dee,what opportunity was realised and siezed here??Can we just agree she was “lucky” and the respectful gent unlucky??
sorry people……… (16) was me !!
Hey 17, If this lady wanted she wud have refused the opportunity that this guy gave her to of moving in front. He gave her the opportunity of going first and she siezed it. Simple and straight forward. U can argue all u like but trust me there is no such thing as LUCK!!!!.Its just an opportunity realised and siezed.ECCLESIATES 9:11
Dee(18),….and the gentleman who exhibited good manners ???According to you… he realised and siezed the opportunity to miss out on £77m !!! You are joking aren’t you ??
Pundit #19
The race is not to the swift (the gentleman). That time and opportunity was for the old lady. There is only one winner, remember. I think even if he did not let give chance to the lady, he could have not won. I think those cards were also picked at random. Take for instance 2 similar wheel fortune where rolled with the same starting value. I guess the gentleman could have rolled it harder than the old lady giving two different values.
Inonge is spot on. Luck is alot of prepartion and being good at it. Lcuky as in the normal translation is as excuse for lazy people. No such thing as luck. Excellence will find you a place amongst Kings. Not luck. Yet to come across it.
things like lotteries are just luck or fate (whichever word you wish to use !!)you cannot prepare or be good at games of pure chance.you may apply theories of probabilities but there is still uncertainity which i choose to call luck,involved.if luck was alot of prep work and being “good at it” as Muntuza(21) assumes, casinos/lotteries would cease to exist !!
# 19….I think you have really missed our point here and you are taking it elsewhere.#20 has said it well, I don’t think I need to add anything more. If I was joking I would have said so,ha!ha!ha! Cheers!
Dee(23), knowing my “luck” ,in all probability and possible permutation,i have missed the point !!!LOL,cheers!
preparetion and committements are the kays and not forgeting prayer.chances and opportunities are always there in life not luck.
This topic is really interesting.
Ba 200k(25),chance+opportunity is what luck is. Put “definition of luck” in Google and you may see “luck” in a different light !!!
Born Rich…you ok ?? Been a while hasn’t it ? You have left me at the mercy of the “usual suspects” on the LT !!
#27. The Original Pundit (TOP),
I have been ok. I had a job change, so i deliberately decided to be quiet for while, doing alot of introspection; seeking to find out “The True Nature of Reality”; Seeking the ‘Why’ of things; Finding out the Cause back of Life……… so that i can ‘come back’ with renewed hope, passion, vision and all the 101 things that made life such a wonderfull adventure! Cheers!!!
There is no such thing as good luck just like there is nothing for nothing. It is rather the state of one’s mind that attracts fortunes or the lack of it. You choose whether to see the glass half empty or half full. You shift your paradigm to seeing things everytime from the favoured and advantaged point of view(positive thinking), the forces around you will re-organise accordingly and reward your expectations.
Very deep,very deep Ba Wampata(29)!!you may be right..just as you may be wrong…depends on how you look at it I suppose!!
Born Rich, there is no substitute for periodical introspection.I trust your system is now re-booted and running on Vista…..don’t throw away XP just yet…the devil you know etc etc !! welcome back mon ami !!
#30, The Original Pundit, Thanks.
On the issue of Luck, my thoughts are embodied in this quote.
But the thing a man does practically believe (and this is often enough without asserting it even to himself, much less to others); the thing a man does practically lay to heart, and know for certain, concerning his vital relations to this mysterious Universe, and his duty and destiny there, that is in all cases the primary thing for him, and creatively determines all the rest.
– Carlyle.
Like you guys have already indicated,” luck is seizing the right opportunity when it comes.” That is exactly what ka chiluba?
Hey Wampata very deep indeed. Also kind of like as a man thinketh so is he. The glass is either half Full or Half Empty. Ba Born Rich, mwabwelenipo mukwai. Chawama sana looking forward to your comments. So in your silence & introspection of things…what did you find out is the “True Nature of Reality” and what are the “Why’s” of things? Twebeniko naifwe limbi kuti twaishibako nokusambilila as well.(Hope you can understand Bemba).Cheers!!!!.
Ba #32, chashupa shani kanshi namufilwa ukubpwisha amashiwi yenu? Bushe mulefwaya ukuchita gang up on the bemba people olo chilishani?Pwisheni tunfwe ifyo mulefwaya ukulanda mwebaku Eastern Power.Cheers!!!.
Ba Eastern(32), the intelligence to recognize the right opportunity is what is important!!
original P bulishani? comment cava? I think luck has come my way but more of a blessing than luck.I guess a change of attitude and a change of my wardrobe did the trick!
hi inonge nice to hear from you. Its not only back the little things we now reflect our future. You can become a teacher or nurse if you dont study this field.
#33. Thanks Dee
Ati mulefwaya data? Ok. Nalamipelako iyi for the time being:
(1). All things are impossible
(2). All things are possible
All the two statements above are true ……….. to the extent to which you Believe,Know and Make them to be.
Cheers!!!
Happniess is a voyage not a destination
Ba Easy(39),your comment is spot on!!
Inonge(36),i trust this is good news ??Did you really have to overhaul your wardrobe to have lady luck shine on you again??Be careful..don’t allow the clothes to hide your true self because that is the only thing that lasts forever!!As always, whenever you are ready, give us some snippets to comment on!
I will speak in toughs.Where there is a will there is way so being lucky is just part of the game. So if you can have hurt feeling then they must be opposite of thÃs phenomon-Luck. Opposite sex, Even the basic principle of our computers work just like that either 0 or 1. The door is shut or open. A glas is either full or empty. Inonge our lozi woman its either you are happy or sad. Earth or heaven. Devil or christ Hey right or left. Remember what goes up comes around.
Ba Easy(41), i think it is “what goes up always comes down”……..personally i prefer ” everything like a good book…..comes to an end !!!”
Kwena bane mwalishama! Esther Phiri was LUCKY coz no one among judges (whatever you call the cheats) saw her being slaapped around the ring like a 13 year old. Ishuko! Heee!
Number 35! Then i guess we are all have the ability to note the opportunity? luck does not really count! it’s wako ni wako that counts.Ba webby chipili niba minister you tell me…. balimona opportunity? all balibapala for loyality…!
#38,like yo brief point and take on things.It’s true life is just how u take it and view things.
#40 original p have you ever seen the program ‘what not to wear? well this year my resolution was basically aimed at self improvement.I really needed to dress more lady like and stop hiding in unflattering denims!I also wanted to be a more friendly and approachable person and take interest in people around me.I had quite a serious look! So I smile more etc et voila I think I’ve struck gold( if the butterflies in my stomach are anything to go by)!
Inonge(46), Trinny and Susanna have indeed struck a chord with you !!I agree with the overall principle that you are what you wear.Alot can be assumed by your choice of everyday and evening apparel.Any comment on Trinny and Susannas’ latest campaign?Interesting that now they are focusing on how to look and feel without clothes!!?? Struck gold??? do tell !! i trust you are having a satisfactory ending to 2007 !!
Must say haven’t been up to date with the programme.The new campaign sounds interesting though.I guess it all boils down to ones self esteem whether dressed in rags or designer clothes.Oui j’ai tombee amoureux de quel qu’un.et il est decent no funny baggage.
clothes maketh the man !!! i’m not too sure if man is a generic term that includes our dearest womenfolk but the quote is right on the money!i agree its all about confidence,self esteem,self worth etc.My Mandarin classes start 10th Jan..i’m so excited.In a year i’ll hopefully be equipped to take on the Orient!i thought Patel in the next office was in with a shout..what happened??Whoever it is, i hope he treats you right and doesn’t have a cemetery in his closet.Bon chance mon ami!!
ah so you were serious about mandarin wow! I sat next to a woman I could have sworn was white with an adopted chinese kid.When she spoke I couldn’t believe my ears pure “mandarin” or whatever oriental dialect that was.Now i think shewas a chinese woman who had undergone plastic surgery!good luck with your lessons.Ah you still remember Patel.He is such a sweet fellow.His parents have organised a wife for him.They met last week and hes so excited.I don’t like chillis so it would never have worked
i wonder if arranged marriages work and the resulting couples are happy?I work with an Indian girl who is just fit to marry the Devil himself…she is so un Indian but when on the phone with her family she rattles off Gujarati like nobodys business!She is vegetarian but drinks&smokes like mad??!!I’m blessed with a good memory so every little detail we have discussed is still in my memory banks…..besides i could always go to the archives!!!!
I guess arranged marriages do work judging by divorce statistics in India vs USA!Ah good old archives! Sometimes I cringe with embarassment at the details I gave.I guess desperate times called for desperate measures.But this time round though I’m on cloud nine I’m very cautious.
cringe not mon ami,inviting opinions is often a good thing…being ones own counsel is a recipe for disaster at times!!NEVER throw caution to the wind!!For some odd reason…. i’m actually happy for you.I sincerely hope it all works out and when it does don’t forget me and Born Rich !!!hahahahaha!!!!
Ok I know this is not a helpline but I need advice from you (seemingly) wise people; I didnt know where else to turn to. I’ve been married for 10 years with 2 beautiful kids and what until 36 months ago seemed like a perfect marriage to a perfect man. That was until he met ‘the other woman’ and changed from an angel to wicked man overnight. We seemed to have a happy marriage before that, so as you can imagine, (CONTINUED ON NEXT PAGE, SORRY….)
I was at pains trying to figure out what my contribution to his wayward behaviour was (I still havent figure that out). N’way, after a year in an emotional hellhole, I kinda realised that he is not responsible for my happiness or sanity. I lifted myself up and crafted a ‘happy’ life for myself and my kids while hubby went on with his concubine as if me and the kids didnt exist. I thot of leaving him several times but damn its not as easy as it sounds.This went on for 2 more years…NEXT PAGE
then last month, from nowhere, hubby changed from being bad to being an instant saint. By then I had built an emotional wall around myself and it was kinda difficult to let him back in. Then last week I got an sms from his concubine saying “I will get him back from you, this is just a mere setback”. I asked him and he admitted that they had a row and he was done with her. My question is:SHUD I ACCEPT HIM BACK JUST BECAUSE HE QUARRELED WITH HIS MISTRES OR I JUST CONTINUE KEEPIN HIM OUT OF MY LIFE
desperate housewife, thats sad. I can give you a mouthful of how you should skit for him bla bla bla but matters of the heart are not that simple. Please find the book “Fascinating Womanhood “by Helen Andelin. It helped me turn my marriage around.Best of luck dear!
#56,it’s sad to read yo story.Like #57 has said, matters of the heart r not simple to deal with.What I will say to u is,this man has got no regard for u or yo kids.U are nt a woman who shud accept solitary rejects.When things r sour with the mistress then he shud come back?U nid to stand yo ground and tell him that in the first place he shud have thot of wat he was doing,this man will only cause u emotional trouble and pain.Who knows wat his gonna bring into yo marriage BED now that his back?
The other thing u nid to think about is when his sorted things out with his mistress and decides to go back where will that leave u again? U nid to continue moving on with your kids like u say u have cause u definately deserve better and this man ain’t it! Once a cheater, always a cheater.
PLEASE DO GIVE US FEEDBACK ON WHAT YOUR DECISION WAS AND HOW THINGS ARE WITH YOU AND THE KIDS!!Cheers.
Amama(54-56),you are not a toy to be played with then discarded,then picked up again nor are you a light switch to turn off and on.Either accept his philandering or tell him to get on his bike and ride into the sunset.No man or woman deserves such emotional torture and in these times of disease there can be only one conclusion!Do not be afraid to start over..you will not be the first nor the last.As said by others..the choice is yours and nobody elses!
Discard him like a finished USB flash disk!!!
hey guys educate us,why would a man married for 10 yrs with 2 kids do that to his wife #56,57?
# 63 thr z no education about that? Everyman z different.There are many reasons,social,economical,financial,exposure & plain stupidity.
contrary to common belief men were never meant to be monogamous……..even the bible/Koran is riddled with examples of men with more than one squeeze!!Monogamy is a personal choice and not a standard.The day we all accept this undeniable fact the easier it will be to understand the seemingly abnormal appetites of modern day man!!
ah I see. Now if thats the case why don’t you men mention such things to yr wife before the wedding and perhaps include something to that effect in the marriage vows, and let your father in law know you shall look after his daughter till your lustful apetites take over.While at it take your sons along with you to visit your mistress so he is educated in the “ways of men”.
as i said,monogamy is a PERSONAL choice which many have made but others haven’t.if monogamy is a problem, i am all for being truthful to all concerned rather than torturing umwana wabene!!some men actually do tell their wives and give them a choice either to stay or to go.In some tribes,from the onset of marriage discussions,the women are told of a possibility of “helpers” in the future!It is up to the woman to say yes or no.I too condemn “covert” polygamy,give a woman a choice I always say !!!
if you were to marry King Mswati why should you feel hard done by when you find out that every February he acquires another wife??In my own humble opinion, i think these are the unpalatable facts of life that for fear of being judged,nobody wants to talk about!!we can, or should, only consider whether it is right or wrong when someone has been deceived.Once deception is established only then do we have the right to judge someone.
hmmm
hi desparate,i thank sometimes it not good to let our feels control us,thank about it if you were the one who did this to him would he have forgiven you if you thank he was going to forgive you than forgive but what you should know this that HIV is there,you don’t know who else your husband’s girlfriend is seeing neither do you know her HIV status and dont forget you have children to look after for their sake be careful about what you go to do with your marriage
this particular thread dying confirms my earlier assertion that we prefer to hide our heads in the sand rather than confront certain topical issues!!!People prefer to comment on the actions of brain dead or has-been politicians rather than take a stand on “sensitive” and close-to-the heart issues !!
why do you suppose that hey? Is it cultural do you think? One observation I’ve made abroad is the bazungus seem to have alot of emotional or pschological problems.You find a grown man/woman suffering from depression, you find their kids are all ADD and on medication.I don’t remember such issues in zed.
zed is littered with clinically depressed people but we only react when a person starts eating newspapers outside Shoprite!!in zed pipo are too busy putting a roof over their heads,clothes on their backs and trying to educate their children…they don’t have time for luxury ailments like depression!as the std of living improves depression and its treatment will acheive recognition..for now its a luxury few can afford!!
in the west it is normal to spend 1 hour each week with a shrink but in africa you’d be considered a Chainama case!!Commercial psychiatry is unknown to the average African.We have psychologists and not psychiatrists!!it will take time but we will get there soon enough!!
you are funny.did you actually see that person eating newspaper outside shoprite! speaking of shoprite when it first opened in zed,there was, I’m told ,a man loitering around the entrance then when he felt no-one was watching he dashed in excited.later he boasted to his friends that” ninangena mahala”!
il n’a pas l’air de vous, inonge!! est incorrect je ?
pourquoi?
it just didn’t sound like you(comment #75)…maybe the all too frequent impersonations has made me paranoid!
But the thing a man does practically believe (and this is often enough without asserting it even to himself, much less to others); the thing a man does practically lay to heart, and KNOW for certain, concerning his vital relations to this mysterious Universe, and his duty and destiny there, that is in all cases the primary thing for him, and creatively determines all the rest.
– Carlyle.
The more you practice the luckier you will be
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if you were to marry King Mswati why should you feel hard done by when you find out that every February he acquires another wife??In my own humble opinion, i think these are the unpalatable facts of life that for fear of being judged,nobody wants to talk about!!we can, or should, only consider whether it is right or wrong when someone has been deceived.Once deception is established only then do we have the right to judge someone
i wonder if arranged marriages work and the resulting couples are happy?I work with an Indian girl who is just fit to marry the Devil himself…she is so un Indian but when on the phone with her family she rattles off Gujarati like nobodys business!She is vegetarian but drinks&smokes like mad??!!I’m blessed with a good memory so every little detail we have discussed is still in my memory banks…..besides i could always go to the archives!!!!
I was at pains trying to figure out what my contribution to his wayward behaviour was (I still havent figure that out). N’way, after a year in an emotional hellhole, I kinda realised that he is not responsible for my happiness or sanity. I lifted myself up and crafted a ‘happy’ life for myself and my kids while hubby went on with his concubine as if me and the kids didnt exist. I thot of leaving him several times but damn its not as easy as it sounds.This went on for 2 more years…NEXT PAGE