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Women activist advises women to respect spouses to reduce GBV cases

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A Women activist Grace Sampa has called on women across the country to respect their husbands to reduce gender based violence cases currently on the increase in the nation.

Ms Sampa said most cases of gender based violence are in most cases being perpetuated by un respectful Women towards their husbands.

She suggested that the general public should team up with the Zambia Police Service Victim Support wing in fighting gender based violence in the country.

ZANIS reports Ms. Sampa said this on the national television ZNBC programme dubbed “ The Reflection of Gender based violence” and monitored in Lusaka yesterday.

And Zambia Police Victim Support Unit representative Inspector Victor Ndemena said police are faced with many challenges in the fight against the vice.

Speaking on the same programme, Inspector Ndemena said many cases of gender based violence are withdrawn by complainants themselves making the work of officers challenging .

He said this has made the work of the Zambia Police Service difficulty when it comes to fighting gender based violence.

Meanwhile, Pastor Lesley Kapaya urged couples to love one another if their marriages are to be maintained.

Pastor Kapaya said love and tolerance between married people is no longer there contributing to increased gender based violence.

He noted that once married people learn to love one another, the cases of gender based violence will drastically reduce.

12 COMMENTS

  1. The same activists messages have been misunderstood by our ladies. Even women in churches have put aside the teaching in Ephesians etc and are heeding advice from feminists who are mostly failures in the area of marriage. Like the devil, they want to recruit as many women as possible to prove that their rebellious behaviour in marriage is justifiable. Mwandi, our women have really been confused by the quest for gender rights. Ask men who “made the mistake of helping their wives climb the ladder of success”. The stories are sad especially if those husbands suffered the misfortune of losing their jobs or reached retirement age while the wives rose in ranks or income status; that is if the marriages lasted, Aaaagh. These people, You would think they are parents to both men and women??

  2. This from a woman activist?! Shame on you. When poverty rises in a country, women get the short end of the stick considering A man’s pride is in providing for his family. And once he can’t do that, he takes it out on his spouse or children. Of course there are some disrespectful women out there but why should you knock someone’s teeth out just because they tell you “fuseke, kafwaye inchinto” when you come home drunk as a skunk while your kids are crying of hunger! A real gentleman knows restraint. Notice I said gentleman not man. If you didn’t find your wife in bed with your neighbor or best friend, you absolutely have no excuse for violence against your wife!
    Grace Sampa, I think you need to be b!cth slapped for making that statement!
    That’s all!

    • @Daliso, your last sentence nullifies the seemingly reasonable points you made above. Also your language does not support your reasonable points. “Fuseke” and “B!cth” are used on dogs and hurtful as you know.

    • You have a problem @Dalitso. Such type like you are the ones that are usually beaten because your thinking is very irrational.

      The lady has been very honest with her statement and i commend her for that. most of the times we solve this GBV issue not from the roots but from the branches. The real problem is rooted in the understanding btwn the two spouses. Surely some men are irresponsible, but also some women are irrespectful of their husbands, and that is the point the madam is raising, which many people want to turn a blind eye to. We want to solve one side of the problem and leave the other side unsolved. Your tone in your in yo comment, i quote “fuseke, kafwaye inchinto”, is already a problem. That is the concern of Madam Grace Sampa.

      Use yo brain not yo emotions.

    • Relationships in which insults and degrading language are used do not last. I haven’t seen one. Bloggers have you seen one that has lasted twenty years?

    • @Dalitso
      My dear I also felt the same sentiments you did – yes, even the last sentence.

      How can a woman activist display support of the mentality of “blame the victim”? Women are facing violence, therefore they should be more respectful???? That’s your logic Ms Sampa?

      How about strongly reprimanding any type of violence, providing shelter for women in these situations, educating BOTH in non-violent conflict resolution etc? You protect the victim, not blame them. Understand Grace? mmmmh? mbwekeshepo?
      You have no business being an activist, if you haven’t grasped this simple fact.

  3. Lack of employment pa Zed is the real cause of this GBV. Most households are being run by women and men are just drinking and watching football in bars. The real men we had of yesterday a no longer there. When a man marries a woman these days its like he is doing her a favour and leaves the entire responsibility of running a home this includes financial responsibility. Its such a big shame and thats the main reason men have lost their respect.

  4. Lyashi lya banakashi ili, going to check men’s stories, where is abena HH and Never Mumba today? Are they in Mangango?

    • @Nostradamus, shame on you for such a response. Such thinking leads to a broken society.

      Ms Sampa was irresponsible with her statement. She should have reported all the difference reasons that laed to violence against women. This is a very complex topic and needs to be addressed carefully. Women and men of all generations need to be involved. This NGO business needs to be re-evaluated.

      A wife is not the husband’s child to decipline physically when she misbehaves. As women, we have rituals on how to be a good wife, very few tribes have the eqivalent for our men. A healthy marriage has love as well as friendship. One thing I have noticed is people need to be honest with each other (during courtship) before we marry, especially us women. It should be what you see is what…

  5. @Nostradamus, shame on you for such a response. Such thinking leads to a broken society.

    Ms Sampa was irresponsible with her statement. She should have reported all the difference reasons that laed to violence against women. This is a very complex topic and needs to be addressed carefully. Women and men of all generations need to be involved. This NGO business needs to be re-evaluated.

    A wife is not the husband’s child to decipline physically when she misbehaves. As women, we have rituals on how to be a good wife, very few tribes have the eqivalent for our men. A healthy marriage has love as well as friendship. One thing I have noticed is people need to be honest with each other (during courtship) before we marry, especially us women. It should be what you see is what…

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