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Ever wondered why you are where you are today? Well a major contribution to your current status is your attitude.

Winston Churchill once said “The optimist sees opportunity in every danger; the pessimist sees danger in every opportunity.” Attitude is more important than the past, than education, than money, than circumstances, than what people do or say. It is more important than appearance, giftedness, or skill.

Some may say; “if I had a good job I would have a good attitude.” Isn’t it more truthful to say that if a person had a good attitude they would increase their chances of getting a good job?
Thomas Jefferson once said nothing can stop the man with the right mental attitude from achieving his goal while nothing on earth can help the man with the wrong mental attitude.

What is a good attitude?

It’s a way of thinking positively that says:

* I can control my life and achieve my goals.
* I am responsible for the choices I make.
* My past does not matter; I can change my future.

Wherever you go, no matter what the weather, always bring your own sunshine.
You cannot control what happens to you, but you can control your attitude toward what happens to you and in that, you will be mastering change rather than allowing it to master you.

James Truslow Adams said Seek out that particular mental attribute which makes you feel most deeply and vitally alive, along with which comes the inner voice which says, “This is the real me,” and when you have found that attitude, follow it.

How to sell yourself to others

The best way to sell yourself to others is first to sell the others to yourself. Check yourself against this list of obstacles to a pleasing personality: interrupting others; sarcasm; vanity; being a poor listener; insincere flattery; finding fault; challenging others without good cause; giving unsolicited advice; complaining; attitude of superiority; envy of others’ success; poor posture and dress.

Learn to be assertive, not aggressive. Be nice to everyone. That doesn’t mean letting other people take advantage of you, but it does mean looking for ways to get what you want (win) without forcing the other person to lose.
It is possible to find win-win solutions to almost any situation (yes, there are exceptions, but they’re rare), but most of us need to learn how. We were raised on the idea of competition, where in order for me to win, you have to lose. In order for me to pass you have to fail.What we need to learn now is that we don’t have to play by win-lose rules — you can change the rules! People can only hear you when they are moving toward you, and they are not likely to when your words are pursuing them. Even the choice words lose their power when they are used to overpower. Attitudes are the real figures of speech.

Life is 10% what happens to me, and 90% how I react to it. And so it is with you … we are in charge of our Attitudes.

42 COMMENTS

  1. Very good article.

    My question to you is how to we instil this good attitude in the minds of the Zambian youth today??

    It would be good if they had such an attitude.

  2. #6. The One

    When Nine Chile writes ati “number 1” muli zee but if it is Free-Market-Capitlst writting ati “number wani” mukamba kamba :-@

    Nichani?? :-??

  3. if you’ve got a good one, chances are you brighten other people’s day. If you’ve got a bad one, you may be alienating colleagues at work and even your friends. And a bad one may be costing you a promotion or appointment to a new position. It’s all about attitudes. Thanx LT. This is a very educative article. ;;)

  4. Attitude has a lot to do with interpersonal communications, self-esteem and your perceptions of others and theirs of you. Yes, you’re going to have bad days, but you should give thought to your attitude and try to focus on the positive,“A good attitude makes you feel better. Others see this and judge you by that. People want to work in an upbeat environment, and attitudes play an important role in shaping the work environment.”

  5. Attitude starts from within. However, even external circumstances can affect ones attitude. Eg, how do you expect one to be happy when our politicians are stealing i braod day light?

  6. Its not only one’s attitude that matters, no. Some of us are where we are and what we do today coz of someone else’s attitude.

    Nine Chale’s just been pushed by someone to be where he is today.

  7. easy said but difficult to impliment.wake up guys.let as face facts and stop pretending when northing can be done. 8-x8-x**==

  8. **== with the right attitude, grown ups would stop getting excited over being number1, number2 and number3….Grow up!x(

  9. Good article i wish more of this!!!! I totally agree with the writer.somehow we are where we are coz of our attitude,just like an Aircraft what depends on how it flies(up or down) is the altitude(nose up or down).

  10. Thanks for the article, however it is not only a nice attitude that you need to succeed..some great people have defined themselves by their own attitudes and on their own terms, outside what society demanded, especially people like Mohammed Ali, Diego Maradona,Bruce Lee, Peter Tosh, Malcom X, Che Guevera and many more that you could describe as rebels with an attitude, with a firebrand spirit…

  11. We surely need a change of our mindset to better ourlives not and then our beloved country. Looking at our political leadership, they all offer very little hope as the future of the country is determined by the rural dwellers who in most cases are not knowledgeble enough to make informed decisions. God help Zambia. :d/:x:)>-

  12. BRAVO!!! A VERY EDUCATIVE PIECE! THIS IS WHAT I BELIEVE THIS SITE IS ABOUT; EDUCATIVE! NO ONE HAS THE MONOPOLY OF KNOWLEDGE- WE CAN LEARN FROM EACH OTHER IN DIFFERENT WAYS.
    NICE ONE LT, KEEP IT UP!!

  13. Attitude is very important. Through what you write, we know what kind of pipo you are even if we haven’t met. So let us behave well in all situations so that God may give us the desires of our hearts.

  14. its the small things that make a difference. does anyone wonder why america is (was?) the biggest economy in the world? they have a whole day just to express thier gratitude. have you noticed how their presidents always end thier speeches with “God Bless America?”

    we need to take our thanksgiving traditional ceremonies seriously. lets find a day to count our blessings as a country and say thanks
    God bless Zambia!

  15. #16, you might want to brush up your spellings. Hard to get around much with those typos, eh?

    Oh and go easy on the emoticons, ma Zambians …

  16. Everything about the article is excellent but there are certain exceptions.there are so many people with good attitude but lack opportunities. Have you ever thought of how much talent is being wasted in the rural areas because of them not seing opportunities tha people in urban areas see? everything is so much centered in urban areas that a rural man only thinks of how to survive each day and not necessarily how to prosper.

  17. is ability to exploit others also a right attitude?????????some pipo are where they are today by sheer exploitation of others.maybe i have a wrong 1. 😮

  18. 8-xAm mauless. I already have a good attitude, but other factors such as the Zambian economy cannot help me get a new job.8-x

  19. Good food for thought indeed. Thanks LT. I wish all bloggers would take the 2nd part seriously and refrain from negative attitude on the blog. If you dont have anything nice to say, dont say anything at all.
    Hey, why bash someone for being #1? To those who can’t stand our little game, hard luck for you but don’t spoil the day for those of us who enjoy it. This site would be all dry and boring without humour and that is why LT even introduced these emoticons: congratulations to #1 Free Market Capitalist! Keep your head high!

  20. praise god for the wonderful teachings I hope we are learning something my fellow bloggers.
    Victoria & Joel can you please educate me on HOROSCOPES I DON’T UNDERSTAND THEM.WHAT DOES THE BIBLE SAY ABOUT THEM? %-(

  21. Zambia forward, in tune with the Nation!

    Thank you LT for providing only sensible animations:
    :)>- UNIP, MMD l-), UPND =; others :-@

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