A 45-YEAR-OLD woman has told a local court that she suspects that her husband has been having an affair with his female cousin whom he brought into their matrimonial home to take care of his domestic needs.
Grace Sakala of Lusaka’s John Laing township said this in a case in which she sued her husband Diva Ng’uni, 60, of the same township, for divorce.
Sakala told the court that problems in their marriage started in 1998 when her husband started insulting her in the presence of the children and he decided to bring his cousin from the village.
She said Ng’uni referred to her (Sakala) as a useless woman and that he shifted from the matrimonial bedroom to the sitting room.
Sakala said Ng’uni started returning home late and he told her not to question where he had been, why he was returning home late and why he was sleeping in the sitting room.
She also said he stopped eating the food that she prepared for him and stopped making love to her.
Sakala said that this went on for 18 months.
“Every time I asked him why he refused to eat the food I prepared for him and to make love with me, his answer was: `I have a cousin whom I have called to come and make me happier than you do’,” Sakala said.
She said Ng’uni no longer loves her.
Sakala said she tried to have the matter resolved with the help of elders, but to no avail because in the presence of other family members Ng’uni pretends to be a good husband.
[pullquote]“Every time I asked him why he refused to eat the food I prepared for him and to make love with me, his answer was: `I have a cousin whom I have called to come and make me happier than you do’,” Sakala said.
She said Ng’uni no longer loves her.[/pullquote]
She said that a “few days ago” she found her husband dressing up in the spare bedroom used by his cousin. She said that Ng’uni also spends a lot of time with his cousin in the same room.
“I could not believe it because I regarded Ng’uni’s cousin as my own sister whom I trusted very much and consulted over various issues,” she said.
In defence, Ng’uni told the court that he did not have much to say because he was waiting for the court to formally grant divorce.
He said, however, that he has had many problems with Sakala apart from her being too lazy to cook and to do other household chores.
Ng’uni said his cousin from the village was already home and she would be taking care of the home.
Senior presiding magistrate Edward Tembo, sitting with magistrate Hildah Chonya, granted divorce and ordered Ng’uni to pay Sakala K6 million as compensation in monthly instalments of K200,000.
[ Sunday Mail ]
“nkani ya cikwati”,man always find scapgoats,she is too lazy.
Mr. Diva Ng’uni has a death wish.
these women nowadays have little respect for their husbands..what has happened to the world now..?too lazy to be called wives..
#3
Even if she is lazy,can you start hitting out with your cousin?It is a taboo.
What do you expect from a man named Diva?
this man is a dog, he is not sleeping with the cousin to the wife but his own cousin. this is pathetic. may God deal with this sinner.
Awe bwafya !:-?
# 7 that is not my picture….Lt yashani
this story and the “man caught in act with maid” under related news are strikingly similar………………
LT you have just repeated this story. You published it in June. Give us something new.
Diva you will not live at peace,what is your plan B?to officially marry your cousin,now that your marriage is no more .
Ati Diva.Mwebantu,what do you expect from someone with such a name
Nubian wanisekesa
Ba LT, this looks like the same story about a man and his maid. You seem to have just changed the names, residence, cousin for maid etc. In last months story the events are just the same except that the court ordered for reconciliation. Check your facts, Zambians are not as forgetful as politicians think
What a cousin! Very very sad with this “Ng’uni said his cousin from the village was already home and she would be taking care of the home“.
Be blessed all and be careful always as HIV/AIDS fight can not be won with the “She also said he stopped eating the food that she prepared for him and stopped making love to her.
Sakala said that this went on for 18 months” behaviour that must be changed since starving people like this can only force them to indulge in unwanted risks.
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Matt 6:33
imwe cousin ni ndiyo
Atini cousin , is she really a cousin or a second wifey? women watchout, if your man brings a woman introduces her atini cousin just know,
why is that most of such cases in our local courts involve pipo from eastern problem? i can only conclude that ni maula…
If my man brought a cousin home , i will def beat the H. E. L . L out of her, no cousins allowed in my house.