A 29-YEAR-OLD woman of Lusaka’s Garden Township has told the Lusaka Boma local court that her husband denied responsibility of her pregnancy because he claimed he was on a contraceptive pill for men.
Passfrora Nyirongo also said that on another occasion her husband, Christopher Mumba, 36, denied being the father of their child claiming that its complexion was too dark for it to be his.
Nyirongo said this in a case in which she sued Mumba, a mineral explorer, for marriage reconciliation. The two got married in 2003 and Mumba paid K500,000, half of what he was charged, as lobola. They have two children together.
She said although problems in their marriage have intensified over the years, trouble started almost immediately after they got married. She said she has never known peace in her marriage because of Mumba’sbehaviour.
“In January 2004, a month after we got married, I conceived but he denied the pregnancy claiming he was on a male contraceptive pill. That stressed me so much that I ended up miscarrying. Fortunately, I conceived again after four months,” she said.
Nyirongo said when the child was born, Mumba refused to hold the baby claiming it was not his because the child was dark in complexion. She said in April 2006, Mumba took her back to her parents’ home for traditional counselling.
“When we separated, he visited me when he felt like but he never bothered to inquire about the child. I managed to provide for our child and myself because at the time I was still in employment,” she said.
Nyirongo said that in June 2008, Mumba asked for reconciliation so they could have another child and she agreed because she was still in love with him.
She said in September the same year, she conceived but two months later, Mumba said he had to travel to South Africa on business where he stayed for six months.
Nyirongo said she later found out that Mumba was actually in Mumbwa and not in South Africa.
“When our second child was born, he told me to stop work so that I could take care of the baby because it was born with bronchitis. So he became the only provider. However, he does not consult me about anything, He does as he pleases,” she said.
Nyirongo said Mumba bought two buses using a loan that he got from a financial institution without consulting her as his wife.
She also said that Mumba is in the habit of dating her friends and that he has even proposed love to one of their landlord’s daughters.
“When he is home, he sleeps with his clothes on. If not, he sleeps in the sitting room. He does not care about me or our children so I want him to tell me if he is still interested in me as a woman and his wife,” she said.
In his submission, Mumba said the problem in their marriage is that Nyirongo nags him and that this is what prompts him to leave their matrimonial bedroom.
He said Nyirongo also insults him so much that their neighbours laugh at him. He said this was why he decided to take her back to her parents’ place.
“I love my wife but she nags a lot and I do not like her attitude. I am tired of her insults. That is the reason I move out. I would rather sleep on the roof of the house than be in the same room with her. I do not have a girlfriend, if I did I would never return home to her,” he said.
Mumba said he has always provided for his family and he cares for it.
He said he was skeptical about their first child because he suspected she was having an affair with another man three days before their wedding.
“It’s only normal (to be skeptical). I had doubts about the child but she is a good mother. I just can’t take the nagging,” he said.
The case, which was before acting principal presiding magistrate Elipha Mwewa, was adjourned to tomorrow, May 23, for judgement.
[ Sunday Mail ]
Where there is no trust let there be no marriage. It is as simple as that. There are a lot of men today who are fathers, good fathers for that matter to children that are not theirs biologically or genetically. It does not make them less their fathers as long as these children were born in their matrimonial homes. If we all investigated ourselves we will be shocked that our farthers were the herdsboys and garden boys taking care of our fathers’ cattle and gardens. Such is our world.
There is still room for reconciliation stop nagging madam, while Mr.Mumba stops seeing the Landlord daughter. Changing husbands and wives will just increase the risk of HIV/AIDS. How many Zambian women mourn husbands every week? Few men mourn wives compared to women. So much male mortality in Zambia can some researcher find answers? These are the aspects our universities should take interest in before our society gets ruined.
Iwechi Mumba stop washing dirty linen in public. Just look after the family like Herdboy has stated. You never know in life the same child you are denying this time may come and look after you in future than the ones you call your real or biological kids. You look like a man who is very interested in enjoying sex but not ready to be associated what comes with it. Grow up and stop behaving like a thug.
I have not heard of any male contraceptive pill. Or are Zambians being used as test cases in the development of this pill? If the answer is no, then this proves that we have massive ignorance on a monumental scale because the judge should have dismissed this guy’s utterances as being fake.
Let me try by all means to outline this situation like am the megistrate.we should not forget that it is in human nature that we always tend to blame men when marital affiars are involved because it is a man who usually proposes a woman,but we should be fair sometimes.some women can make a goodman to be a bad one.speaking from experience.its a pity some women are unadvisable,mine was a mere case of withdrawin all financial support. read on
This mumba, is it cosmo?
u see in some instances women have got the tendaces of boasting when they are in the house,i not sayin they cant control us but they must hav a limit.ulwambo ulaletelela.my wife was being misled by her companions that she even went to un extent of sayin nangu tukaye ku court u wil hav no chance of divorce.i didnt hav to take her to court,all i did was to freeze all acounts,financial responsibilties and most important like herdsboy has stated,i took my girl & boy whether biological o not to my mum & folded my arms.read on
so guess who took who to court and for what reason.i only said i thing in court,this is my wife i lov her but her behaviour is xtreme,but all i want is for her to tell me if she truly loves me,and she should tell this court if ive ever mistreated her apart from slapin her twice for neglecting to feed the dogs? i apologized though.she just wept terribly and asked for 4giveness.right now shes what i want a woman to be,an angel,though shes not perfect,neither am i but she atleast made me hav no complaints.mr mumba make yo wife what u want her to be.may God help You.
Another case of pure insanity, this case will be dismissed infavour of the lady with costs. Men, if you are not ready for marriage, stay single because divorce will quite expensive for you.
Nagging ladies, you will encourage your men to flirt with other men, make your men feel home.
judgment and custodianship of kids to be decided. Court rise!!!!::d:(
A Christopher Mumba zoona ndimwe cizende ngako! Who told you that sleeping with cloths amounts to male contraception? Just that one time pamena una coselapo lupundu was enough for Passfrora to conceive iwe muNyanja iwe. And talking about complexions and if Mumba is right, then all of Chiluba’s children are not his, Vera ana bbunkisa ko kwinangu. Anyway, I also think aMumba ana jaribula and he thought he had in the process also bleached his spermatozoa, zero!
# 8 “…slappin her twice for neglecting to feed the dogs…right now shes what i want a woman to be, an angel” — frankly i am without comment.
“She also said that Mumba is in the habit of dating her friends and that he has even proposed love to one of their landlord’s daughters”..awe chaume sana mwe.
Another dramer,it’s my first time to hear of male contraceptive mr mumba you must also gove it to my bubby,( total madness mr mumba and nyirongo)
Uyu Mumba muwelewele sana. He doesn’t know what he wants.. Women nag just because they beg to be understood.. This lady is trying to preserve her hubby’s and her own life in this AIDS era.. Men, take a leaf from this..
Some of the tu ma men think they are stars…from the tu ma loans they get from these shylocks. Again, some of the women are a real pain on the backside. I have learnt though, that marriage is a balancing act that has to be learnt. Somebody must bend a little to make things work!
Ba Cosmo Mumba we know its you!