Deputy Director for Court Operations at Judiciary headquarters, Edward Musona, says courts are not happy to grant divorces.
Mr Musona said in Choma yesterday that courts however grant divorce so reluctantly because of the rebellious and unfaithful nature of people.
Mr Musona said marriage is a voluntary union of one man and one woman for life to the exclusion of all others adding that divorce is not permissible by both law and religions.
Mr Musonda was speaking at a reception for a newly wed couple of Choma, Kasamba and Given Hakamwaya, held at Choma trades training institute.
He said in marriage there may be problems and differences but that these should not lead to the separation of couples.
Mr Musona cautioned the newly wed couple against allowing differences to be the ground for divorce.
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INFECTED MEAT where art thou ?
Nishani ile fuma fuma ?
Divorce if she is unfaithful and marry another…who knows she would be first lady like me !
Thats why i want marry pinkly. she is cool. ba maureen atishani!Cant you be our matron?
Nambala 5! Ba maureen congratulations for being nambala 1
Only if you invole God in chosing a partner will you have lasting mariages. Beauty/handsomeness is not the only criteria of choosing a spouse. Character is paramount.
#5 thanks Anon, Have you checked the latest headlines ?
Issues of divorce have become rampant in Africa because of some Western concept that say marriage is a contract and if one party is not happy with it, he/she can terminate it.
No! Let me check it out!
Wife should be submissive. Husband must cultivate wife and nature her. Husband must be quard and provider for life. Husband and wife must have a balanced view life. Individually, they must be positively active physically, mentally and intellectually, spiritually and socially. Get the best out of each other. Enjoy. even in the midst of trials find each other and enjoy. That is the FOUNDATION on which SADDAM HUSSEIN had based his marriage(s) He never divorced any woman.
#10 are you umu langizi ?
Marriage is not childs’play. One has to be ready both psychologically and spiritually. Unfortunately,young zedians because they are unable to control their homes.By the time they realise that marriage is not just about chops,they contemplate divorce.Sad indeed. I implore Ba Maureen to sensitise these hormone-hit young ones.
#10, you are a poof finisher (PF). wayamba bwino, pa last you use Saddam Hussein as example…good post though!
Correction:unable to control their hormones.
Life is too short to spend each day whinning coz your spouse aint making you happy. Best thing is to dialogue and if there is no compromise leave before you tempted to ‘tap’ mufishala…
Iam one of the people who are scared of the word icupo,because of what goes on mutufyupo.I’ve told myself to be faithful to my wife to be nomba the problem is,is she going to be faithful to me? The Bible says when man and woman come together they become one fresh,so if she dissapoints me then I will have no choice,but to remain single coz I dont want to have more than one fresh. :-j:-j:-j:-j:-j:-j:-j
Guys marriage shud be about respect and love for each other. I dont know where the problem starts but its shameful to say that pa zed, i have seen married women going out with boys in thse lodges around Lusaka. I worked in one of the lodges and it hurts to see ba neighbour using the husbands car to flirt with kids.
Divorce is not the right thing but where there is adultery, why not.
Product engineers consider carefully both the ideal environment under which a product should operate and any unfavorable conditions that might influence the product’s performance. Hence, in marriage man and woman must be aware of the nature or the proliferation of the pollutants that have invaded their environment. The damage proof to your marriage requires both knowledge of the specifications of the ideal environment provided for marriage and willingness to make necessary changes to conform to your suroundings to marriage specifications. Wife be submissive. Husband protect, provide for and uphold. ENJOY EACH OTHER. Nos. 11&13 thanks for action on my subm. Enjoy.
#16, good luck as you search for a wife. May God lead you. Am one happy guy married to a beautiful, faithful and lovely wife. More than five years now and we still very happy…Marriage is such a blessing of you get it right….am so so so happy…
Feeling nice about each other for life between couples is about making warm and naturing that which you saw or felt in the other. Man allow your woman to nature that which she saw or felt in you without excuse. Woman allow man to cherish and relish you even in unexpected environments, remember he is the guard for life. Please find time to laugh at life together. Communicate positively. Enjoy yourselves in the midst of interruptions. Enjoy!!!
THE BIBLE(GOD) PUTS THE ISSUE OF DIVORCE VERY CLEAR AND KNOWN TO ALMOST EVERY(CHRISTIAN) ADULT WHEATHER SINGLE OR OTHERWISE AND IT GOES LIKE,WHAT GOD HAS PUT TOGETHER LET……………..(YOU CAN FINISH).
#20…I like your postings on this issue. they really sound mature…for now bye all of you, I have to chaff my wife now..
#22, That’s it man. Now caution! don’t it to finish her. Remember it is about cultivating and naturing and not finishing, lest you go looking elsewhere. Cultivate and nature, man. Enjoy.
Why do people marry, if they are going to be unfaithful?
I can understand temptations, and all that, but its the children, and other people, connected that suffer. If you doubt your partner in any shape or form, do not marry them!
Marriage is the only war where you sleep with the enemy- Sun tzu
meow, meow
HEY GUYS!ICHUPO IS NOT A JOKE!I KNOW PIPO LIKE ..INFECTED NYAMA,BA MAUREEN,ENGINE AND MY COUNTRY MATE SHARP SHOOTER U VE NOT SEEN TROUBLE YET..YOU ALL THINK ITS THAT SWEET AND ONE CAN LIVE THE REST OF THIER LIVES WORKING,EATING,TALKING ,EVEN WORSE UKUSAMBA WITH THE SAME PERSON DAY IN DAY NITE…
UKAIMWENA BOY…I HAD A 6MONTH CONTRACT WITH ONE INDIAN LADY…AWE MWANDI ITS NOT THAT PIPO ARE NOT FAITHFULL..BUT BALA NAKA!SO MY ADVISE TO YOU GUYS IS THAT..STOP UTUMA EARLY MARRIEGES..BCOS UKANAKA AND UR EYES WILL OPEN AFTER TEN…THEN WHAT NEXT???DIVO!SO BA MAUREEN…AKULIWE FYE FOR NOW!
One woman alone cyann’t satisfy me, so one woman in my life means misery. Me have woman east, west, north & south…one inna London, one inna Birmingham, 2 inna Brixton, 4 inna Manchester & anoda one inna Liverpool.:)>-
“Marriage, marriage!!!” …this term just sends a long chain of shocks in my spine. I lost my closet opportunity to some guy who unknowingly showed up a few days before my wedding. He’d been in serious relationship with my fiancee and they were planing to marry as well. Meanwhile she had my wedding dress and rings. Just the date had to be cleared. The simple flaw in my case is my work schedule which never allows me to be back home to ZED most of the time. My heart is for Zambian ladies. How will I get to find and know one true partner, bearing my strict expatriate work schedule? Someone advise? Ba Maureen …ba Chewe, the great Engine Bbuloko? Please Advise! Imagine I had married her:(:(
Why buy a car if yu can lease it?
Why marry a woman if you can just be her lover?
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Marriage is for real life. So pipo who venture into it must be real and not impostors.Women should be open enough to tell their spouses what can be done to fulfil their needs and equally men should open up and tell their wives what is amiss.Finding solutions to the problem elsewhere breeds divorce na fi AIDS.Handling happiness is not so big a challenge as sorting out ama issues and hence the longevity of marriage is based on the ability of the couple to sort out utuma ‘pollutants’.
This topic is very sensitive and yet elementary to our lives. There are more unhappy marriages today worldwide than ever before because the love of men has grown cold. No wonder so little contributions.
Marriege is ordained of GOD. We are supposed to marry and
live happily together. You have to learn to find joy in
both good and bad times. It takes effort to have a good
marriege but, IT IS WORTH IT and VERY POSSIBLE>
mmmi know the couple who got married i hope mr musona wasnt wearing those crazy coloured suits of his ! good luck to the newly wed and welcome to the club nkala olimba .
Hubby refuses to reconcile with drunkard wife
By VIOLET MENGO
A MAN of Lusaka’s Kanyama Township refused to reconcile with his wife saying that he could no longer live with a drunkard.
Given Hamochila told senior presiding justice Regina Mwamba that he could not reconcile with Karen Chola because all she (wife) did was drink.
He said ever since they got married in 2003, Chola has been spending most of her time taking all sorts of alcoholic drinks.
Hamachila said Chola leaves home at 06:00 hours and only returns home after 18:00 hours.
He said that she does not care about the well-being of their children who seek refuge at homes of neighbours or close relatives.
Hamachila s
Mr. Musona, differences are good for marriage,and there is now way differences can lead to a divorce.
How many differences have you had with your wife???
Did you divorce her?? of course not and viceversa.. simply because you learnt a lot from that ‘squabble’ same as she benefitted from the same ‘tiff’..
****Differences are the best medicine in marriage because that is how you learn more about each other..
Nga tamuletalikana nishi wonse ni ‘follow the leader’ nelyo umo aleya kuchilindi???
Efyo ndelanda fya mano sana… kutikeni… %-(%-(%-(%-(%-(
#35,
The story makes me wonder why my bro. Hamichola had to pick Karen Chola of all the women pa Zedi..(Cholaaaaaaa!!!!)
There were no women in Mazabuka na ngula ku Pemba or Choma??
nga aile ku Chipata, pepi te patali..
“Divorce granted”
I feel pity for the miserable children brought on this earth against their wish.. 8->8->8->8->8->8->8->8->8->8->8->8->8->8->8->8->8->
#32, Nine Chale, I am not going to argue with you.. but what do you mean the love of men has grown cold? has the love from your wife grown cold man???
I can assure you there are so very many happy marriages worldwide because they understand each other very well and love each other too much.. one can not last a day with someone you do not love.. check this out man… :-t:-t:-t:-t[-x[-x[-x[-x[-x[-x[-x
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Nine Chale could have a point there. marriages these days are just trial and error mwe. If your wife cheats on you, just divorce her and move on, simple. Sitifuna vokambakamba. So ba Musona, just grant it….the divorce, i mean.
I am a widow. My dear hubby died some years ago. I had a wonderful marriage. For now, I’ld rather be a girlfriend or lover, than to be a wife. You can easily walk out. No strings attached. I am enjoying my independence.
I’m not saying marriage is that bad. Marriage can be sweet. Especially when man and wife are able to respect and understand each other. The experience is great. Marry not just for the title….MRS. Marry for love.
NGA INE BANDEKELESHANI? MARRIAGE IS LOVING, UNDERSTANDING, BEING FAITHFUL AND TRUST.DIRVOCE PANSE
Ba maureen grow up!what kind of a person are you who cant take advice.Anyway they say ones behaviour only shows what kind of parents brought them up.your behaviour and language is jst telling us abt the shoddy work of whoever brought you up did.Shame!But its not too late to learn any way.
am looking for someone i can share my life with life is boaring without a partner.
When you want to marry seek God’s guidance as well as parental guidance.
A woman who is recommended by her fellow women as being a good marriage material will always make good wife. Especially if the surpport is from both old & young women of the males’ family.
Its rare for a woman to recommend a fellow woman it only comes out when they really mean it. A woman see what is beyond a mans’ eyes.
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