He has followed his fathers footsteps

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Dear bloggers,

My name is Mulenga (not real name). I grew up in Kabulonga Lusaka.My father was a businessman in the mid 80s to mid 90s. He was quite successful in what he did. I apparently had 6-8 siblings. Lost count through the years. The youngest of my fathers children JJ and I are from the same mother.The rest have different mothers. Most of my brothers and sisters lived with their mothers. My father however supported them.

Having a stranger show up with bags at our house with a claim that he was my fathers child was a normal occurrence in my childhood. Sometimes it was fun discovering I had a “new” big brother. These new big brothers always made my holidays interesting. My mother was never amused though and it was a source, I suspect, of the many quarrels my parents had.

When I was in grade 8 my father started falling ill. At first he would fly out of the country for weeks on end for treatment. Later he turned to Chinese medicine and witchdoctors. As he was spending more and more time from his business his business started failing. His brother used to help run things and I become aware that his brother was actually stealing money but my dad was too sick to do anything about it. My mother also become ill. She deteriorated more rapidly than my father and died within a year. By that time my grandmother had thankfully come to live with us. I was numb to any feelings. My younger brother stopped speaking for a long time. I think he was also very traumatized. He still behaves like he has a few screws missing upstairs to this day.

One by one relatives and friends abandoned our family as my father got worse. As a young man, I had to take care of my father. The big brothers who used to frequent our house were nowhere to be seen now. I was exposed to things a boy of 15 shouldn’t be. I was so disgusted with this man. How was it possible to hate someone and love him at the same time?

I got to know HIV/AIDS intimately if I can say so. It took both my parents. I vowed I would never walk in my fathers footsteps. As years went on I turned to alcohol to numb the pain I had. Soon I found out that women were a welcome accompaniment to the alcohol. Without realising it, I had become my father. I am so disgusted with myself, I drink to numb those feelings of shame. Its a vicious cycle.

Dear readers, this is a letter I wish my cousin Mulenga could admit to himself and write. I have watched him self destruct through the years and become the man he wished he would never become. I have tried talking to him. I’ve even invited him to go to church on numerous occasions. He says church is for losers. I joke that, that’s exactly why I’m inviting him! I pray constantly that one day he will change. Every night I know he is out drinking I pray for him.

Parents your actions will have an impact on your children and grandchildren long after you are gone. Are beer and women with the resultant HIV/AIDS worth destroying so many lives? Think about it.

Ruth

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118 COMMENTS

  8. It’s sad it occurred like this. Alcohol does not depress problems but instead irrigate and reproduce them. It takes away self-control, which is the timely application of right knowledge in any given circumstance.Many men have acquired HIV because they could not resist the seductive prostitutes in their drunken state. So take care…!! In the case of Mulenga, this situation does not end the world and any prospect in life for you. You can still rise from the ashes of self-pity and live a positive and productive life.

  9. ubwaiche momano, ebu nambala 3, ala kuleni,

    ubupuba, nobututu

    Ruth inkalata walemba ili namano sana. nakutalala panse kuno, ala ndetutuma ine

  11. Hi, Livingstonia. It’s just the bloggers’ excitement if you get the first slot. but a nerve to the followers. Never mind, good evening and all the best in 2009, friend.

  12. Congratulations to nambala one Mr. VCT!
    And congratulations LT for ignoring comments like #6 & #7. Otherwise they would have deleted VCT’s posting. :d/

  14. there is something wrong with this write up: “My name is Mulenga (not real name). I grew up in Kabulonga Lusaka.My father was a businessman in the mid 80s to mid 90s.”

    “Dear readers, this is a letter I wish my cousin Mulenga could admit to himself and write. I have watched him self destruct through the years and become the man he wished he would never become.”

    “Ruth”.
    There are two people here, Mulenga who starts off as the author, and Ruth who signs the write up off. This is a GONGA story.

  15. HIV has affected all directly or indirectly? tell me of a family that has not lost even one member of their family to HIV. i spent my first 31 years of my life in kabwata and i have lost brothers,freinds, cousins, neighbours to HIV. i wish our government would do more to assist those with HIV. they also deserve privacy and dignity! we all know that FTJ is on Anti-virial meds, but he gets the special treatment of being flown to south africa to have his viral load taken? all lives are important, hence everyone with HIV should be accorded the same treatment. VJ is still hanging on to politics for the health benefits?

  17. nine chale ubututu, landa pa topiki, nambala nshi. amano mu poketi. kuleni tamumfwa ne nsoni. iyu tata lesa umupmba .

  20. Mulenga have a purpose in life. For starters, emabark on money generating ventures and start saving money for a ticket to come and watch The World Cup here in South Africa. Just focus on that, I’m sure you can achieve it. You will have suspended hopelessness and death. There after Other positive things shall follow.

  21. No.20 – Bo Mwangala, what kind of advice is that? Just saving money to travel to RSA won’t help this lad’s predicament. What Mulenga needs is psychological therapy. You see, Zambia and Africa at large usually ignores issues of the mind and they end up failing to get to the bottom of the problems.

  22. #17 Dr. fimo fimo na # 19 Livingstonia, This has nothing to do with “growing up”. Zambians are humorous people by nature & we always find something to smile about. (Despite such stories like the one above).
    This is just a little game to make us giggle. Take it or leave it. Most people only mean that in a jocular way. It is as harmless as children playing in the streets…or are you guys some of those who start cursing the children for being too loud?
    I feel sorry for your kids if you have any.

  23. blin!ba LT can’t you see the pancuation on the heading is incorrect?you guys are doing a great job,really but for people of the calibre you’re acquiring such mistakes should not occur! :)>-:)>-:)>-

  24. Dr Kwesa, kindly use english coz not al of us understand bemba. you are irritating everyone ! this story is very touching esp to realise that almost everyone knows a person or even himself that has gone through such misery. its a sad story. I Have ran away from the mealie meal battle zone. ba shetani nabalaba ati nipa sunday lelo

  26. No.22 Abena Chale – If you want jokes, there are so many blogs you can turn to on the net. It’s not right for you guys to fill up precious LT space with those comments you call humerous. Your sense of humour is actually misplaced – no offence. Please let’s stick to the posted topic.

  31. Well the “letter” whether gonga or not just tells the “Untold Stories” of many people. To quote a famous artist;”Who can afford to run will run, But what about those who can’t?…they will have to stay”. Got money? Get “blood transfusion” and live your life like everyone else.
    Many families have been down this path of destruction and it is something I share empathy with. Its always easy for the “next man” to have solution for his neighbours predicament but faced with a similar situation, every thing appears bleak. It then becomes the responsibility of those close to a person in question to relentlessly offer help and support, even just the proverbial ‘shoulder to cry on’ is enough sometimes

  32. Ifibantu fimo kufilekafye. I rest my case. Continue with your number so and so if that makes you happy. Hope one day you’ll grow up. Good luck.

  33. Cont’d from # 31.

    So ‘Ruth’, do not give up on your cousin ‘Ze Mule’ :d
    You are the only chance that he/she has right now.

  34. Congratulations LT for deleting absolutely nonense comments like nambala. A furst stone in a long road to showing a lot of ‘disgruntled blogger that we re to share knowledge and contribute meaningful in these blogs..

    Amen

  35. #26 I can see you are quite new here. are you one of the zimbabwean ‘investors’ that have plagued Livingstone ? I suggest you log off and log on to the website for state house (the most boring ) because thats where lizards like you belong. ati shani ama Chale uyu mbuli alefwaya uku tumpa ka. afumina kubwendo bwisa?

  36. 3RqU

    :-j:-j:-j:-j.What did you write on #30 for your comments to be deleted hope you did not use strong languege.:-j:-j:-j

  37. The food you eat, the clothes you were , your colour, The car you drive, where you live?, The job you do, is not what defines of a man, you are..

    Its the the things you say, things you do !

    There is also an old saying that says , If you want to be correct all the time Just keep quiete…

    And thus if you have nothing to contribute perharps Nine Chale and 3RQU, restraining from posting nambala…. is a more wisier thing?

    Swallow your pride, and get on blogging, Infected Meat here watching Man Utd beating Saints/ 2-0 so far

  38. Mulenga it`s sad but real. The fact that we are a poor country makes it worse. This unfortunately is going to get even worse.

    These are situations our government should come in and help. Unfortunately, it has not capacity.

    You need a lot of counselling and guidance but my country can not meet all that. The social service is non existent, no ones fault though. Tough but real.

    Good luck though.

  40. Good job ba LT for deleting 3RqU’s number 25 and 27 comments. I have always known this blog to be educative and interesting until chaps like 3RqU surfaced. Please leave us in peace if you have no constructive stuff to post.

  41. Matworld nothing serious really! I am surprised my comments have been deleted. I think LT has been taken over. No humour no nothing 8->

    I guess we are becoming what the British call “more than politically correct” aha!:d

    I can not blame though Mat world. Our politicians read these comments.%-(

  42. We have all lost brothers, sisters, nephews, nieces, uncles, aunties, workmates, friends and even entire neighbourhoods. None of us is safe from HIV/AIDS, especially those of us who matured sexually in the early 1980s. It is no laughing matter. It is just the structure of the write up that I have a problem with.

  43. I think this a good way of teaching people to avoid AIDS. =d>
    However, are Zambians responsible enough to understand? Especially that the Church does not support the use of condoms [-o<

  44. Livingstonia, I started campaigning last week,knowing un necessary comments like the ones from that dude, If anything deters other useful contributors because the blog gets abused atleast. The whole idea is to share knowledge and not feel , the masses in a particular blog, are whippersnappers, or more easily understood, juveniles

  45. Its none of my business questioning the integrity of people , but Dr Kwesa Malimbana , are you really a Doctor? mmmmh..

  47. 43. I agree the church does not support the use of Condoms, what is plan B if Plan A aint going to work??

    Thats why i feel, you have got to promote the use of Condoms, and IMO they should be free.

  48. 47. You missed the point, I am condemning the Church for not encouraging the use oc condoms! Plan B is responsible sex – if you know hat I mean: one partner or the use of condoms

  49. AIDS will certainly be a difficult out break to control because there’s a white man’s hand at play in the manner that it’s propagation. Check the infection pattern. It’s almost non existence in the whiteman’s land while in Africa nileka leka. Yet those of you living in the whiteman’s land will agree with me that our friends here are more careless sexually than our brothers and sisters back home.

  50. #43 Its pointless blaming the church’s non-support of the use of condoms because the whole congregation does not come to supervise the acts. Its a one-man issue here.

  51. Ruth

    Iam so so sorry about your cousin,and Iam really touched by your letter.Let me also take this opportunity to commend you for what you are doing for your cousin.You know what,praying for him is one of the best thing you are doing in your christian life.Iam also impressed to hear that you have been inviting him to church,but doing so you will not be held accountable for his blood when he dies in his sinful nature.Mulenga Iam not blaming you,I know you have been haunted with your past experiences,my prayer for you my dear is to come back to your senses before its too late.Sovereign God please save Mulenga Where ever he is [-o<[-o<[-o<[-o<[-o<[-o<. I pray in our savious name Amen.

  52. While this is a sad story to read and its just a true reflection of what happens if someone has no self control over his or her life.i would also like to advice that we are all potentially infectious with HIV as long as we remain lose with life, so its not only beer drinking that puts you at risk.
    :)>-o-+o=>

  53. Ba Dr Maureen. The people pa Zed litsen to the Church very much (after all we are christian nation!). Therefore, the Church can carry the message effectively, especially that there improper advertising channels where we can transfer the message to the people.
    I beg to differ with you when you say is is a one-man issue. What you do in bed affects the nation: children to educate using taxes. Then we need the tax payers, they shouldn’t recklessly die of AIDS.

  54. I do not like people who blame the white man when they are living in his country. The best such a person can do is go back. %-(

  57. Anonymous – I was making reference to the manner in which the dreaded HIV is spreading. The statistics are simply not balancing. The whiteman has a hand in it. Period!!!!

  58. You are a coward who has run away from a poor country, not ready to go back but not happy with the hosts! Funny in my words!

  60. It noh good to stay in a white man country too long… If you’re white, it’s alright; If you’re brown, stick aroun’; but if you’re black, get back!…-Mutabaruka

  61. Ba Anonymous, anyone who’s read a bit of history and understands economics knows that I’ve the right to be here for as long as I want. For your information, I’m just studying and by the end of next year I’ll be on my way to Zed. I’m unlike most of you guys who stick on to your tuma student visas even fter they expire.

  62. Why blame the white man then if you are here studying? Why didn`t you study in that country?

    The last time I checked, Zambia had CBU, UNZA, Chingola School of Accountancy and the rest.

  63. You’re not getting my argument. The point I’m trying to score is that the HIV infection pattern is heavily skewed. Any person with basic statistical knowledge will tell you that there is some human tricks at play and that can only be the whiteman.

  64. By the way Anonymous, UNZA used to be a very good institution some years back but not anymore. Your policians in “that country” as you call it, have done damage to that institution that it would take you a centuary doing a four year course.

  65. Quite a good letter for reflection. But it seems to deliver a biased massage that women are the source of HIV/AIDS. They is no major source but men are the main source “transplanters” for lucky of good English term, especially married men. They go get drunk, (especially when they seem to be progressing financially) have figololo (na vimahule venesivivuna chikawati or banafipisha kuchikwati for some reason) without condoms because they believe condoms are for boys. They go back home and infect their humble, most often faithful wives. But they forget, children watch without being tought. And they fall victims

  66. Mr Anonymous from beneath the union jack. It appears that you have too much time on you hands.
    The reason that people from countries colonised by the “empire” come over there is because of all the looting and plundering you did.
    It is our turn to plunder now

  69. Ba LT,

    Why allow porno attched to a noble Passport conference call debate on your the sight?I click the listen to link only to get porno pictures.That is not honorable to the blog many arestarting to call their meeting place on issues.Please detatch the the debate from porno or knock it all.

  70. Ba LT,

    Why allow porno attached to a noble Passport conference call debate on your site? I click the listen to link only to get porno pictures pop ups.That is not honorable to the blog many are starting to call their meeting place on issues.Please detatch the the debate from porno or knock it all together.

  73. I NOTICE WITH CONCERN,THE DELETIONS OF POST FROM SOME VETERANS.
    I WUD LOVE TO KNOW IF THEY POSTED ANYTHING UNTOWARD BCOZ ITS NOT
    IN THE NATURE OF PIPO LIKE 3RqU AND 9CHALE TO SAY UNPRINTABLES.

  75. There are plenty of white people in Zambia who are working extremely hard to help prevent the continuous spread of HIV/AIDS. There are also many black people in Western countries doing the same. This is not a white/black issue. Yes there disparities in economic wealth and thus, the ability to fight the disease effectively. The economics of pharmaceutical companies and their power is a complex one and it certainly clouds the issue and makes the fight even harder. however, to place such complexities under a white vs black banner is too simplistic.

  76. # 70 ba Senior citizen where is the porn you are talking about I don’t see it. Hope we zambians will be united and carry this passport petition through.

  77. No. 47.
    That would be fine if we could work out who will be ultimately picking up the cost. Abstinence, common sense and faithfulness are all free and could do with better promotion amongst the population. We also need leaders to be able to stand up and say, “Do as I do and do as I say”, not the current hypocritical crew who can only manage, “Do as I say, not as I do.”

  78. Guys.

    Ili ilyashi lyama passport tufwile ukwikatana nga kacena(scent)ne nsokoshi shabankungulume.
    :-j:-j:-j:-j

  79. Now am retiring to bed for real. Had to come back bcoz of popular demand but now we GAZZIE and the house of GAZZIE have to sleep.

    Nyte nite Y’ALL BLOGGERS.

  81. sad story indeed. Ruth continue praying for Mulenga, one day at His own time God will answer and deliver Mulenga. I support the church 101% for not supporting condoms. The solution of HIV/AIDS is abstanaince period. one can not die from not having sex but one can die from having it. [-(

  82. Dear Lusaka Times,

    Passport Petition Conference call miniutes

    Kindly go ahead and remove the minutes from the website you have posted it.The issue to do with Passports is a family issue and the website you are broadcasting our minutes from does not represent family values our and our values.We kindly ask you to remove these minutes posted immediately.Thank you.

  83. sad Story can all of us lean from thsi story pliz.let keep Zambia freen from HIV/AIDS one Day.God Bless Zambia. **==

  84. #81 I partially agree with you.
    Not everyone can manage to abstain therefore pipo should be educated on the importance of using condoms if they cannot control themselves. Hav you ever wondered why they are so many unwanted pregnancies in churchs?? This is becoz pipo cannot do without sex therefore its better for them to use condoms than risk their lives and have kids at a wrong time.

  85. Continued…..

    AIDS is real and if only you can see a person that is at the last days of their lives with AIDS you will understand that using a condom is better than pretending to be holy then later on suffer from it in the name of being holy and a christian…..If you cannot defeat SEX use a condom and live long.Though condoms are not 100% safe, they are better than having sex without it.

  86. Its really a sad story indeed. But as you put it, its a visious cycle. I personaly grew up in the same situation as well. I vowed to make my life different. But as soon as I got married and had two children I started experiencing the same thing my mother went through. Its so sad to admit that I do not have any grip over my situation. All I do is pray…despite not being sure what prayers would do for me.

    I totally agree with your saying, Its a “visious cycle”.

  89. #88 Mailess thanks
    AIDS is not a KALULU story its so real and should be taken seriously.We should not deal with it like THABO MBEKI.

  90. Never in the history of blogging have i come across so mant deleted messages! This is unprecedented. Yangu tata! What does this actually mean?

  91. what a very sad story indeed 🙁 but i would say it is not wise to follow the footsteps of your father because the moment you will feel changing it will be too late,you would have dug your own grave by then 🙁 A real man must learn to be strong in whatever hardships.drinking for the seek of forgetting problems is not the answer but it will just make matters worse.I have tried to drink this Russian vodka to forget some school problems but it just adds more problems:(:( so it would be better for to change your lifestyle before it’s too late.As the Russians say udachi tibe ( good luck)

  92. #84 Im glad you agree condoms are not 100% safe and I rest my case but still stick to abstainance as the best. I have one question tho: Do you really want the church support the use of condoms for sex outside marrige, extramarital relationships or between husband en wife? =;

  93. #92

    I prefer being realistic when dealing with issues related to condoms. You see, HIV is non selective. It does not consider if you are a priest or not. Its high time the church started being realistic also. I support Abstainance also, but with condoms, the church must realise that there are humans out there who cannot do without sex, whether in or outside marriage. These people must use condoms! Your comments?

  94. #92 African Queen
    The church should not support the use of condoms for sex outside marriage & extramarital relationships as this will be against their morals / doctrines.Church is not the only meeting place for pipo or where one can acquire knowledge.We can acquire knowlege from friends, working places,schools,T.V etc therefore as a pipo we should know if we can personally defeat Sex or not. If our answer is negative then I recommend condoms. Churchs always refuse to talk about SEX but its happening among christian families i.e unwanted pregs & AIDS. Family planning is never talked about in churchs but it is practised by members.We are still on earth let us be real.

  96. fellow county men and women are aware that pretty soon the cure for AIDS will be found we are working on that here in london and am zambian scientist

  97. #96 if you guys can find an absolute cure for Aids that will be a huge milestone for Virology!
    Look at all the other viral dieases that could also be something of the past. I watch from the bleachers

  98. Our life is as a result of the choices and decisions that we made in the past. We never learn. We are like the two gentlemen who went to hunt. They killed 3 elephants and loaded them in a small aircraft. After flying for short distance the craft crushed. The following they did the same and again the plane crushed. They could not just simply reduce the load!!!

  99. Zambians need to look at at our number evil in our society…Alcohol. A drug that has been abused and condoned in our culture. In Zambia our definition of “kudyela” is drinking alcohol and having sex. When are going to learn that alcohol is a serious drug? We have to change the way we percieve alcohol….

  100. Ba MOZE NABA NJOBVU KAZI ! You have lost me, how can abstaince be with condoms? Much as i appreciate that people shud use condoms, I believe zambia is a xian nation en almost majority read the BIBLE, we cant be perfect but if we try to follow wat the Holy book says, we can never ever go wrong. The church does teach about sex, I learned about sex in my church myself and that was NO sex before marriage en be faithful to your partner. I tend to disagree that there pipo who can not do without sex, thats totally untrue. One has to learn self control, discipline en responsibility, thats not rock science.

  101. #99 you are spot.
    I also wonder why the for most of us pa zed, enjoying life is almost always synonimous with alcohol abuse and womanising. Serious think of it, it is not!!!Fiko cabe. Some of us are lucky to have walked such a risky path and still live to tell about it. Alas, others are so fortunate.
    Ruth’s story is one that nearly 3/4 of Zambians will identify with either as affected or indeed infected persons.

  102. Sorry i meant rocket science(spelling mistake) Have to go to bed now, was doing nite shift. Join you tonite Goodday one en all.

  103. #102 African Queen
    Self control is the biggest challenge that both christians and non face. You might be able to control yourself but not everyone can manage. Sex is not discussed in detail in churches that is why church members are end up becoming victims. I also learnt about not having sex before marriage from church but this is all they cover nothing else. If you were to carry out a survey, you will find out that 1 out of 10 is able to control themselves as far as SEX is concencerned.Sin is very sweet that it why many pipo cannot control themselves as far as SEX is concerned. If you dont mind carry out a survey and you will agree that using condoms are better than suicide!!

  104. On the issue of the church supporting condom use. The Bible teaching is no sex before marriage and once in marriage with your God given partner. Sex with a condom is still sex. You may not catch the virus quite alright but in the sight of God, it is recorded against you as having committed adultery/fornication. Eccl 12:13,14.
    My peolple are destroyed because they lack knowledge. Read the Bible and understand what it says. For those with a hang over from the former life, repent and be converted. Beware of so modern day Christian churches masquerading as Christ’s followers. Mwaliba sex ya ciwa.

  105. #104 its very easy to say than put in practise. How many woman become pregnant from church every month?? Even AIDS is there in the church.I’m not in support of SEX before marriage but you have to be realistic pipo are infected by the disease everyday and you think if you just tell them to repeat they will listen to you?? If u cannot defeat SEX use a condom period or else you will die before your time. As much as SEX is sin pipo are doing it every minute so let’s try and save the ones that do not have it at the moment.

  106. Condom or no condom abstanance or not. The choice is yours. 5 minutes of up and down press ups sweetness can end your life like blowing out a candle light.

  107. # 106 you are right
    The way you have phrased your last sentence has made me laugh.
    The choice is ours that is why the rate of AIDS is very high in Southern Africa coz pipo cannot live without SEX hence the increase in the number of pipo being infected every minute!!!!

    Bye for now I have no more comments!!

  108. Njobvu kazi,
    What i’m saying is that it is against Biblical principles and teachings to advocate condom use among members who are not married or those married men and women who venture out of their matrimonial homes simply because the church fears losing its members to HIV/AIDS. However, if one of the partners in a marriage is infected with the virus, the church is in order to preach condoms use for such couples. Waiona ka. Anything else is simply because such a church has other ulterior motives which I stand to be educated about.

  110. Weston
    Yes its against biblical princiles and teachings but its happening among christins so is family planning.

    And how will one partner be infected and another is not and they call themselves christins???

    Bye have to go now

  113. A man can live without sex. It’s lie from the pit of hell that you cannot abstain. It is a weak and defeatist excuse that men use to justify their choices.

    You can live without sex. The starting point is to make a decision that you will not have loose sex. Secondly have reasons for that decision. Then when you find yourself in a tight corner, remind yourself of why you do not want to succumb. In this way, even if a woman undressed in front of you in your room, alone with you. You will not fall. Now, that is my man. Not these weak wimps who have excuses for everything. That’s why many are dying from AIDs. Be strong or else you will die soon.

  114. A real man is not one that says “I can not live without sex” That man is weak and should not deceive himself that he is strong. Where is strength in that. Sleeping around is a weakness, not strength. Strong men are those who overcome sexual forces. They are champions, victors. They have conquered, they are overcomers.

    A strong tree stands agains wind, the weak fall. Be strong men. Or else we will bury you soon from Aids. Weak men have succumbed and they have fallend and burried. The strong are still here and healthy. No sex has undressed them.

  115. I have also seen that genetic traits are real. The writer, unfortunately, was born from a bad tree. Young men need to be careful who they marry. Some families have horrible traits like alcoholics, prostitution, ubukaka, dullness in school etc.

    Of course this goes for young women do. Please say no to a man from a bad tree, for the sake of your children. Having useless children is a waste.

    Some men only see sex in women. Some woman said when it comes to looking for a wife, some men’s brains are in pants.

  116. UK Zed Observer you are the man. I totally agree with you.However i wish to point out that in Christ Jesus all things are new, the old have passed away. Therefore by the power of the blood of Jesus, its possible to break those bad family traits like prostitution,alcoholism

  117. No 110. What you are saying is very sad indeed, that we who call ourselves christians should be practising immorality. But again Jesus said not everyone who says Lord Lord will enter the Kingdom of God but those who do the will of my Father. Lastly the other thing you have to know is that even genuine christians do fall into that kind of sin … maybe they have even repented but unfortunately they have to live with those ghastly consequences

  118. Thats a sad story.all i can say is that we o have a life to live.just keep on pray’g for him.Where we come from realy matters but you have to live your on Life.

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