A HOUSEWIFE of Lusaka has told the Matero Local Court that her husband has been denying her conjugal rights, saying he is no longer finds her attractive.
Isabel Kumwenda, 23, of Matero Township complained before senior court magistrates Pauline Newa and Lewis Mumba that her husband Wilson Kumwenda has not been intimate with her for the past 11 months because she is no longer sexually attractive.
Isabel was narrating in a case in which she sued Kumwenda, 35, for marriage reconciliation.
She got married to Kumwenda in 2012 and the two have one child. Bride price was not paid.
“Problems started when I fell pregnant. He started abusing me. He sometimes called me a prostitute in the presence of her sisters.
“There are times I tried to seduce him when we are together in the bedroom by applying lotion in his presence but he simply tells me that I stink. He says he can only consider having sexual relations with me after I stop breast feeding our baby,” she said.
Isabel told the court that Kumwenda once went home with lipstick marks on his white shirt.
“He got angry when I asked him and told me that he no longer has appetite for me. He even bragged that he usually goes to see other women before coming home who know how to sexually satisfy men without limitations,” she said.
She said Kumwenda currently sleeps in his car to avoid sharing a room with her. Isabel said when she complains about being sexually starved, Kumwenda gives her examples of catholic priest who manage to stay celibate for the rest of their lives.
But in his submission, Kumwenda told the court that he cannot manage to meet his wife’s excessive sexual appetite. He said he will only move back into their matrimonial bedroom when his wife stops demanding for sex and begins to understand his challenges as a man.
“Yes, I decided to deny her conjugal rights sexually for 11 month because I don’t find breast feeding women sexually appetising. I have even told her that we will start having sex when she stops breastfeeding,” Kumwenda said.
The court reconciled the couple and ordered Kumwenda to stop denying his wife her conjugal rights.
(DailyMail)
Kumwenda you wife has a lion’s apatite for you, can you get down and satisfy her before she starts asking for it from other men. Your wife is sincere and loves you that’s why she sacrifices to demand for your service even though she is breast feeding. Don’t pull your marriage apart for your failure to look at your wife as a woman who can satisfy you intimacy.
While I agree with Mr. Kumwenda, i would also like to ask that he also stays celibate. It’s true that sex with a breast-feeding mom is not pleasurable at all.
Suntwe wa Suntwe, now we know you are a kid! Who tells you that a breast feeding woman is not tight? That kind of misunderstanding of the joys of motherhood are very dangerous to the current generation. Kumwenda is simply a womaniser who sleeps around and may even be scared of infecting his breast fed baby with HIV, hence abstaining the wife.
A marriage is a sacred institution where each partner has duties and this Kumwenda is abrogating his conjugal duties. The yound wife is good woman and mother. There is absolutely no reason why Kumwenda wouldn’t get sexual satifaction from his breast feeding wife. Easterners, please stop being disoriented, our culture is very clear on this matter.
I agree with all of you above , your contributions are worthy. Just wait and see how the so called educated will interpret this issue. Someone will foolishly bring in politics here.
So you can’t publicise my posting for reasons best known to yourselves. Its a shame that you only post ,what you want to hear and not otherwise. Let people’s views be heard that’s the sole purpose of dissemination of news.
Ba LT, bushe kwena e lyashi ili line fye surely? How tragic!!