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A Mansa woman married to two men exposed

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A woman of Senama Township in Mansa allegedly married to two men has gone into hiding after her duplicity was exposed.

The named woman’s parents got dowry from a Luwingu-based teacher and a taxi driver in Mansa.

She was reported to have split time between the two men.

The duo told media they discovered they were both married to the same woman through mobile phone call records.

The taxi driver Pangwe Yawe said he married the woman in July this year but was surprised by weird phone calls she would receive on her mobile phone.

“When I asked her who she was talking to she would always say it was a family member on the line. I however, remained suspicious and secretly wrote down the number I had doubts about,” Mr Yawe said.

“When I called the number, a teacher from Luwingu called Moses answered and I asked if he knew a woman called Judy and he said yes she was his wife,” he said.

The teacher, Mose Katebe, said he too had paid dowry for the woman and the two would spend time together at a guest whenever he was in town to draw his salary. It was agreed that Judy would live with her parents before joining him in Luwingu.

He was however, surprised to discover from Mr Yawe that she would leave her Mansa-based husband under the pretext that she had been summoned by her relatives to go and spend days with him at a guest house.

She would arrive at the guest house with home cooked nshima which she told Mr Yawe that she was taking it for her uncle at her mother’s place.

The duo decided to go to Mansa police station and went with a police officer to confront Judy, but upon a tip off, she was went into hiding when her two husbands arrived with an officer.

However, she answered a call on her mobile and responded in the negative when asked if she was married.

When the parents of the woman were confronted, they said they would convene a family meeting at which the matter would be duscussed and asked for a stay before legal action could be taken against their daughter.

19 COMMENTS

  1. This is despicable — yet, why is it acceptable for men to have two wives (common in rural areas) but for a woman to have two husbands it is illegal?
    Wake up Christian nation!!

    • @ Just thinking. Well, it is illegal until legalised. Legality has nothing to do with fairness. The solution is to change the law; and part of the justification is what you hae alluded to. The double standard between men and women. All the best.

    • Well if the lady can stand the demands in all areas, that is fine. This Christianity has it on records that some kings had chains of wives but they left out queens that had a line of husbands. Anyway these days, it is legal in ‘developed’ countries to have same sex marriages and I find nothing wrong with multi partner marriages. We could try it and see how it works.

    • Yes, that’s a good woman right there! Get three if you need to. Myself I have 2 boyfriends and they know about each other. You can’t find everything in one person.

    • Surely the tribes around Mansa are matrilineal and they should not be charging dowry. Why aren’t they following their traditions instead of copying other tribes? I imagine that matrilineal systems dictate that it is the woman who marries the man or men and does as she pleases with the men, the way Bemba biatches like Mumbwe Phiri do.

  2. In this case there is an element of cheating and fraud. the parents eat both sides without informing the payer that its a shared link.

    I don’t think its illegal to have 2 husbands as long as they both accept and are happy with it

  3. ..the pivot culprits here are the lady’s parents…how did they accept the second dowry without verifying with the dude who paid first if their marriage was still subsisting….??…those parents together with their daughter are crooks…the parents should have been locked up and charged with a felon for obtaining money under false pretence…pretending their daughter was single…if a third man had come along with another dowry for the same lady, they could have received it as well….
    …if the parents did not accept/take the second dowry…the was not going to be such a serious case…all there could be was adultery because the latter could just have been considered as a man friend instead of a husband…..eeish ..police to investigate the other daughters as well..

  4. Welcome to polyandry. As we speed into the 21st Century a lot of interesting shifts (and shite) will take place. Sensitive citizens are advised to exercise participation and spectator discretion…

  5. It would be difficult to determine the biological father if a woman was married to more than 1 man, unless you were ready for DNA tests each time she had a child.

    • More specifically, polyandry. LT decided in their wisdom to withhold my comment. Not sure what the editors are doing with it…

  6. OH!
    I taught English at Mabel Shaw secondary school in Luapula Province.
    Two of my students, Mwansa Lwimba and her sister Mwewa Lwimba were orphaned when their parents drowned in Lake Mweru.
    At the end of my assignment in Zambia, I brought them here to Calgary Alberta on the grounds of sponsoring them for their education. Now, they are my two wives!

    • @ Steve Williams, if think the Zambian constitution under child adoption Act, 57 or 58 does not allow you to do that. Unless there is a way you played your cards to marry a person you adopted as you are the foster parent.
      I think you have done is wrong and a criminal offence as the Zambian law stands.
      I once worked as a probation officer and social welfare officer, I understand the offence you may have committed.
      Please do what is legally right, and I hope the Zambian grz will do something about the situation of those two citizens.

  7. paying dowry doesn’t mean you are legally married. The lady has no case to answer. its a pity that in these times people are free to have sex anyhow without worrying about hiv/AIDS.

  8. Under normal circumstances, men do some very stupíd things. In that regard I commend LT for this story, which is quite unique. A woman caught in such depravity. This is real news.

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