Thursday, March 28, 2024

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Dear Womba,

Its always great to hear from you. Unfortunately I’ve been unwell. I had a miscarriage last week. Everyone expects me to be okey- after all it was just a foetus! But it was so much a part of me still. I carried him/her for 9weeks. Doesn’t that account for anything? Of course I don’t get any sympathy from my aunties. They say its a part of a womans life and I should focus on the children I have. I agree but I just want even a day to grieve the loss of my baby. I keep asking why why did it happen.I quarreled with my husband yesterday when he told me to snap out of it. He can afford to say that since he didn’t carry it! Despite our fight he got me card that touched me it said ” acceptance of what has happened is the first step to overcoming the consequences of any misfortune. Circumstances alone do not make us happy or unhappy.It is the way we react to the circumstances that determines our feeling.”
I wonder- do women who have had abortions secretly grieve the loss of their babies? Perhaps its a relief for a teenage girl when she aborts and no longer has the thought of being pregnant hanging over her head. However, does she ever get over the guilt of “getting rid” of her baby? I’m sure its something they live with the rest of their lives. Would they do it if they knew the physiological and psychological effects of their actions? I wonder.
Well I’m sure Heaven has a big nursery for all the miscarried and aborted babies where they are loved and taken care of.

God grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change,The courage to change the things I can and the wisdom to know the difference!

love Jelita

43 COMMENTS

  1. we all have commited murder,as long as you have musturbated before then you have spilled seed,so lets not only see a spec in the female’s eye,whilst we leave our own weakness.masturbation is a premature abortion remember that as you comment.peace

  2. Abortion shows no reverance for life and God expects all of us not to take part in any way. There are also rare exception when an abortion is proper. “Be strong” to all the women that have miscarried before.

  3. My goodness, masturbation is murder? Word…Since only one sperm out of millions makes it to the ‘promised land’, Gdef suggests the ones that don’t make it are potential babies who have been murdered. I thought the genesis of life is at conception…This is really laughable

  4. I think that LT is soliciting educative responses from bloggers each time he puts up a thread of such a nature and not base diatribes from pipo who are excited at the prospect of reading their postings online. We want to hear from pipo who will educated others on matters at hand, like gals and mums who have had experiences. #1 thru to 4, life’s syllbus has changed, so change your thot pattern. This a polite notice to y’all. Ta

  5. being smart enough to plan my family isnt a sin at all! poor africans produce like pigs and wonder why we poor!? we should stop sticking to this “profane double standard” good for nothing christian principles….

  6. Good point #6, i support a wise idea of abortion if you have serious problems in life than making a child suffer for the rest of their life,eg if you know that you are a fullblown HIV patient and decide to be pregnant despite all these interventions sometimes the baby is born with the virus and suffers 4 life,i feel some women in zambia sld have more miscourages if not abortions to reduce on the number of street kids. We are christians for nothing discouraging abortion but we cant take care of the ophans who are scavenging the streets, foolish.

  7. Think of it this way, what if your mum had aborted you, where you going to be here discussing aborting yr own flesh & blood. Life is life whether with fullblown HIV its got a right to live, just like you were given the change to live up to this minute. There so many pipo out there living with HIV but enjoying life at its fullest, even better than those with HIV negative. Life is in God’s hands and He is the one to determined when to take that life, not you bcoz you have not made life at all.

  8. Mwanakashi#8, ask! do you know the stress of taking drugs every day for life, it’s good for an adult like you coz u know u had unprotected sex b4 but what abt for this baby who’ll take drugs 4 life coz of mothers mess. God doen’t like seeing his pipo suffering. Not all babies sld be aborted but if you have serious physical,psychological or social problems i think it’s a wise idea to do it. I guess some european countries who support it has seen the good part of it, why having 20 kids when u can’t provide for them. Christians they are other serious things which has an impact on the society than abortion lets not hide in churches but face life.

  9. #6,7,9 I’m appalled at your logic.You can not discard some Christian laws then when things go bad point a finger and say the Christian laws are crap. In the first place we are not supposed to be having illicit sex, thus we are not supposed to have unwanted pregnancy therefore we are not even supposed to be debating abortion. But since we are evil, we do have illicit sex, you do get your girlfriends pregnant,sometimes you even donate the HIV virus now that you’ve created a big mess you want to come out all holy and say “God doesn’t like seeing people suffer so abort the HIV infected foetus” Mukaya pya! God foresaw all that crap your illicit sex was going to create and told you to abstain.

  10. #9 Ba sad, (pls dont be sad be happy), Am I not talking about Christianity or churches and its impact on society but on life which you and I have a right to have and enjoy and nobody have got the permission to take it away from you. If you are enjoying life at its fullest why cant you let others to do the same, whether in stress or not. Anyway who does take drugs or herb roots in this age where life expectant is below 40.

  11. contd Because we don’t abstain our offspring and descendants are going to suffer. Do you think it was Gods plan for people to be taking countless drugs? Isn’t it our crazy passions and lusts that have put us where we are today? Let it be known that abortion(murder) is not and will never be a family planning method.

  12. This article has brought tears to my eyes, more so that cute picture.I had an abortion at the age of 17yrs. More than a decade later it still affects me.I did not even enjoy that sexual experience that lead me to be pregnant.It was hurried, painfull and not worth the anguish it has brought my life.My boyfriend enticed me to abort.Its the worst decision I’ve ever made.I hate men who talk about it like its nothing.Those 15minutes of removing my baby impacted my life forever.

  13. #13 Dear susan pls forgive yourself and your boyfriend and dont cry on spill milk look forward for your future development. I just hope and pray that 17yrs of today will learn a thing or two from your testimony.

  14. #13 Your aborted child/children are in the Heavens nursery right now singing and praising God and will chase you out when you finally go unless you repent before that. No self pit will save you but repetance!!!

  15. #13if you didn’t have this abortion dear this time you were going to be in the village farming,doing hard jobs,unemployed and under educated. When a girl get pregnant at a tender age in some families she is thrown to the village or forced into marriage with this young boy also unemployed and even his family tells him to take care of him self coz of his mess( both will be suffering)That was a wise idea what you have to do is just to recover from it and enyoy your life. Lets face facts of life guys. Girls are suffering coz of having unplanned pregnancies coz usually those boys run away and they remain alone with the children suffering

  16. #16 Sadist stop being sad from the attempted abortion on you and thank God your mum failed to abort you and concentrate on letting others live.

  17. 12 inonge, the bible say in the last days there will be diseases without treatment. As you are aware the youth likes experiments they mislead each other, try the sex act and get pregnant thats when they realise it was wrong and then whats next, drop from school and goes to the village.You say so coz you are educated what abt a girl who didn’t abort seeing the friends in employment what can she say,”i wish i had an abortion” lets face facts, we know what we go through when we are youths. By the way can you abstain 4 the rest of your life if no 1 wants to pick u 4 marriage? read through the lines, and consider others if u are doing fine.

  18. Needless abortios should be discourgaed at all costs but when contentious issues arise that put the unborn baby and the mother at risk, it should serious be considered as an option for the good of all concerned. I think each case should be looked at individually.
    As for women who have abortions, i am sure depending on the circumstances, a good number of them secretly grieve. But of course some dont have a consience, so life goes on

  19. fellow bloggers an abortion is not something to be taken lightly. Research now shows a link between abortion and breast cancer. Abortions also predisposes one to have ectopic pregnancies, which can be fatal. There is relatively a 3 to 4 fold increase in the chance on miscarriage among women who have had an abortion, as those who have not had an abortion.Infertility is also a complication of abortion. There are ofcourse pschological problems also- Post abortive stress disorder.

  20. Women who abort have a good reason and it seems to be the men who are quick at condemning it. The men do not have to give up the path in life they are taking for the next 3 years because of having a child.You can only argue if you have experienced it. we are so good at pointing fingers and calling people names without looking at how they got into that situation and the best solution for them. Be it abortion or being HIV positive.

  21. sad#16 I would rather be in the village than go thru wat I did.You see after my abortion I thought it was over and kept the secret to myself.I fell in love some years later and got married.I fell pregnant with twins.In the 5th month of pregnancy i miscarried them.The doctors said I have cervacal incompetance. I had never told my husband about my previous abortion.I decided to come clean .The first abortion was the reason I lost my twins and I nearly lost my husband too.So was it worth it? NO NO NO.I basically killed 3 babies.

  22. # 1 what’s your take on wet dreams then, let alone condom use?

    As for Susan, you have my sympathies. They say experience is the grave yard of our past, no doudbt you’ve learned from odeal! I hope you can start to forgive yourself and move on. Talking about is the first step.

  23. producing more and expecting other people to take care of them bastard children is so lameee!!! make abortion legal..it should be a person’s choice coz freedoms and rights shoulnt just taste good when they suit us! ! so #12,inonge. its fine with me for u to label me EVIL coz i will always give a chance to them that are different from me i.e gays, lesbians, moslems, sata and his followers etc…

  24. Elder I shan’t label you as anything,your actions will speak for themselves! I have no qualms with people choosing alternative lifestyles or having different moral views from mine.Its when people don’t respect the will or rights of an unborn child that ticks me off. Why should a child be killed because its father didn’t zip up? Look at susans story thats so disheartening.Susan I hope you will turn the negativity in your life to something positive then your suffering would not have been meaningless.

  25. I have troubles believing in this christianity and god.Isnt god the same man who commited genocite During noah`s time,in sodom where the likes of shakafuswa the sniper where enjoying and he stood by when his son was being crucified.Lol teti mbaleke,killing my child.
    For my sister sorry for that misscourage.

  26. #22 susan, what you sld understand is ilegal or criminal abortions are deadly coz they are done by unqualified pipo eg the story of inserting a cassava branch into the uterus,taking chloroqine tables all these have serious physical adverse effects on a human being, even health workers doing it in zed they dont do it properly coz the law does not mandate them so, usually they do it in hiden places with no sterile equipments and in a hurry putting the your girl in a risk of having serious physical and psychological complications because of the sepsis that follows leading to complications like yours.

  27. you are not the only 1 dear facing such problems but many women out there some have even died, life in Africa can not permit you to have a child when you have other problems thus an increase in criminal abortions with complications. The thing is if it was made legal a girl undergoes counselling and the termination is done in a hospital by a qualified gynaecologist this will lessen complications, young girls will not stop aborting secretly only be heard when they face complications or death, the solution is make it legal and its optional for the good of our girls and women to be, proper counselling help you to overcome stress.

  28. places where abortion has been made legal have seen an increase in promiscuity too!
    #30 monk I’m pleased to inform you that God is not man and Gods son Jesus died in your place and 3 days later rose again! He is alive today so don’t worry about God killing his son,it was all taken care of!

  29. # 29 elder, I hope to God you are just an elder in the ordinary sense, or its just a pseudonym. I am saying this because it would scare me to hear that you are a church elder. You have no respect for life at all.

  30. Hi Inonge. These abortion issues are very controversial. It should also be noted that there some abortions that happens naturally especially those below 3 months. They call it natural selection and that most of these foetus have defects that can make them not survive in the real world. As I’m blogging right now, there is a 3 weeks old baby in Choma hosp that was abandoned by it’s mother in the bush. The nurses are the ones looking after it.

  31. Cont.. The baby is good health, but it has no mother nor father. It has never tested the breast of it’s mother neither has it felt the warmth of it’s mother. No one welcomed it into this world. One thing for sure it is not an orphan. It has so many care takers. THE NURSES ON DUTY.

  32. Hi gluco, thats sad but its nice that the nurses are taking care of it.Meanwhile my neighbour here is spending thousands of dollars on fertility treatments.Shes spent all the money she has just for a shot at getting pregnant.Aint it a crazy world!

  33. Whats ok, our girls to continue dying, and have diff kinds of complications of ilegal abortions? many women and girls visiting gynae clinics have complications related to abortions. The story in Lstone of a 15yrs who had a cassava branch inserted to terminate pregnancy and this time this girl is living with a recto-vaginal fistula, there is an opening btwn the rectum and vagina meaning there is a continously flow of stool thru the vagina, imagine when combined with the monthly blood flow? it’s really stressful

  34. as long as nature of sex remains there and growing youths are curious to try it out as they know that it’s a fact and it’s part of life, am afraid illegal abortions and similar complications wont end and we are going to lose many coz the acts are done by unskilled people like bana chimbusa these devorced and widows in our neighbourhood.

  35. so i strongly feel for the sake of avoiding all these deaths and complication let the govnt make abortion legal so that it’s done after counselling and in an operating theatre by a gynaecologist which will lessen complications. This can be optional.

  36. Most Zambian women are murderers, I magine how many women are on contraceptives and husbands support it. Abash Abortion!! Save lives!!!

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