Friday, March 29, 2024

Good Homemaking

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The difference between a good home maker and a poor one is a matter of following the correct principles.Here are some fundamentals which lead to a clean,uncluttered, well-organized household:

1. Concentrate:The managementof a household requires concentration.You can’t day dream ponder problems and at the same time work efficiently.Work such as ironing cleaning windows and doing dishes can be done while daydreaming but most work requires thought as well as hands especially organising and meal preparation.What is considered lack of homemaking ability is usually mental laziness.

2.Simplify: You can’t become a good housekeeper if you have too many things, such as too much furniture,too many dishes,unnecessary clothes,old newspapers and magazines.They are only of value if they are useful or add beauty to the home.For greatest efficiency have only enough goods to serve the family.

3.Organise things: To be well organised,have a place for everything. In the kitchen every dish, bowl, glass or pan should have a place of its own.The same with shoe polish,scissors,stationary, newspapers or magazines.Organise bedrooms closets with enough rods, shelves, baskets and hooks. Provide drawers or just a box under the bed.When everything has a place of its own do the following.Always put things back in their exact place and teach all family members to do the same.when things in your house are this well organised you can get up in the night without turning on the light and find what you need.

4. Make him comfortable: With all your diligence in homemaking allow your husband to be comfortable. Remember his home is his castle. Let him hang his jacket on a chair, lie on his bed without concern for the bedspread,stack his papers on his desk and his shoes by the door.This doesn’t mean you invite him to be untidy but let him be relaxed and comfortable in his own home.
For example, a man was married to a fussy perfectionist housekeeper.She followed him around picking after him, straightening the pillows,smoothing the rugs,picking lint from the carpet and removing his clutter.Finally he tired of this foolishness and divorced her and married a woman who was the opposite. She was a good housekeeper but allowed him to relax and be comfortable. In comparing the two women, he said “The change in wives was like taking off a pair of tight shoes and putting on a pair of soft,comfortable slippers. Children should not be given the same relaxing privileges as their father. They should bend to your training and instructions.

adapted from” Fascinating Womanhood”

38 COMMENTS

  1. what is this non-sense………..lets talk about development issues plz. whats ‘Good homemaking’ when millions in zambia dont have a home.

  2. #1
    This is not the right place for politics. I give you a red card. Go and comment on Obama. This is not nonsense. Can’t you see the sense in the story. It makes a lot of sense. And please can you define a HOME for me #1.

  3. #1 U are a waste!!!!What do u mean development issues don’t u think that good homes brings out development..U shouldn’t just criticize for the sake of it…Grow up and where do u come from,isn’t it from home what is a home to u?Umungulu fye…

  4. As much as I would like my husband to be comfortable in his “castle” I don’t want to spend my life picking up after him.Why can’t men leave their muddy shoes outside or off the carpet, why do socks get abandoned in the corridor, why are newspapers left on kitchen counters, why are clothes left on the floor! After cleaning after kids all day we are expected to clean after husbands also? Give me a break!

  5. Good home making to me involves every member of the household. Its not about me dealing with every aspect of the home but having everyone do their bit in making the home habitable for all to enjoy their spaces and time. Such as his sports channels, the kids games and of course my soapies,

  6. #1 charity begins at home…. talk about development at home(Good Homemaking) and put in place then you will have a good basis for discussing development issues here!!!!!!

  7. Cece you have a very uncaring husband! I believe you got the impression that all men are like that from him, and may be your father, unless you are married to 6 men. I do the dishes and cook for my princess when she has stuff to do. And am sure I’ll be changing the baby.

  8. ah Njooka I think you are still honeymooning but that is so sweet.Lets talk when the baby comes,you have deadlines at work,the dishes are not done and your wife is sleep deprived and hormonal.If you pass the test then please may my daughter marry your son.

  9. Leave #1 alone he has his/her opinion, its good we have heard it, albeit misdirected. #8 well said, I do these things too when my ‘girlfriend’ I call her that because she thinks it makes her feel young ha ha, bakazi! Anyhow Cece, its not necessarily picking after him. I have spoken to a few girls (women) and quite honestly they say it is quite a task to leave with a husband who is squeaky clean and self reliant, it makes them vulnerable and irrelevant in the whole set-up (opinion). I tend to agree because I think we have our gender specific roles and once those are assumed by someone else, it makes us uncomfortable.

  10. hey pointer,you are very dangerous more than accidents,dont you know that charity begins at home ? you seem not knowing the diffirence between a home and a house.lets know if you are a bachelor?charity begins at home as the saying goes so should development.cece you are right the upbringing of some men is bad.men wake up women are just help mate.

  11. You may be right Cece, I wont argue in those lines. But I have seen men who do those nice things even after being in the game for a long time and they are my inspiration. I hope the things you mentioned wont overcome my determination.

  12. I am a single mother of 3 grown up boys. I trained my sons well in that when they were at home the cleaning, washing and cooking was done by them as I was working. The eldest is married now and helps the wife as she is not very ‘domesticated’. Her friends and relatives think she has given him love potions!!!!

  13. A chap i know who married a white woman is always complaining,
    He says she only washes whan they are about to copulate, and the washind only involes washing the face and applying makeup.
    When you visit the house you find knlckers all over the place.
    He has to try and tidyup.
    Id rather have the compulsive cleaner.

  14. Are these homemaking techniques meant for a slave/maid or for a mordern wife (not housewife) who contributes equally (if not more!) to the financial running of the home?? this article has come 100 years too late. I arent gonna run around fluffing pillows for a loser husband whose only expertise is to sleep with everythings that is remotely female. Days of wife-hood being equal to slavery are long gone.

  15. # 15. Anonymous
    You should realise that men are more equall then women.
    That is why the best cheif in the world is a man
    the best cook in the world is a man is a man
    The best tailor in the world is a man.
    The best hair dresser in the world is a man.
    It seems men are better than women at everything, even traditionally womens stuff
    So what are women good at apart from providing a good home ?

  16. I have to defend #1. These are luxury topics for those with time to gallivant on the internet. Might as well buy a book if your grandmother never told you about “Good homemaking”. Most of us are on this blog because of more serious issues shaping the development of our nation. Don’t give us white people crap!

  17. you chaps if you want politics go to the relevant section, if you haven’t noticed this is the lifestyle section.Do we go to your sports page and start asking for stories of mwanawasa?
    # 16 you are a chauvinist. I’ll believe the crap you have said if you convince me a man gave birth to you.If you men are so super surely you can find a way of squeezing a 35cm diameter head through your……. There are things women can do better than men but I’ll not dignify your stupid reasoning with an explanation.

  18. They say ‘absence makes the heart grow fonder’, Take a real break from it all and allow space and distance to have you share your goodhome making tips with your partner if he is the type that rarely or never helps at home. Then, share the home making tidy bits with him, he will appreciate you more when you return. Its not good to leave home only after a fallout, for funerals, weddings, matebeto and kitchen parties happenning in your family.

  19. #16
    Men may be al that but they still fall short of the ability to nurture life as women do. For them to have achieved those titles is based on their quest to outdo what women do naturally wthout so much haste. Women will not vie to have the best positions in those areas coz they have been doing such since the begining of time.

  20. # 18. cece
    your stupid hesterical reponse could invite a response you would not like.
    If you are used of insulting you husband, don’t try it with me. Mind how you respond.

  21. # 22. cece
    Apology accepted.
    I also did not mean to insult weomen but may be to be educated.
    I accept i may be a traditionalist or chauvinist as called in the west but i still love and respect women.

  22. Like the discussion. My hubby always leaves water containers outside the fridge with tops off, cupboards open, shoes in the sitting room, clothes on the floor, taps with running water and believe me I talked and talked until i stopped talking.

    CAUTION: To parents when nurturing your son make sure they dont reach the age of 25 they dont know how to do clean up. Once a man reaches that age you cannot bend them to do what you want.

  23. Who taught you that under the bed is the place for boxes even our great grany mothers dont stuff boxes there ,Sorry not the right place keeping boxes what for? Abt the guy divorcing the wife wht a pet issue dont tell us lies we dont know the real story of their separate ways,if its a true story,lack of communication and not having respect for one another.I for one i love my place to be in good order and my hubby knows that but the thing is sit down with yr hubby and tell him what u like and get what he likes.

  24. #24 lady L that sounds just like my hubby.Mine also leaves cupboards open, shoes in the sitting room, newspapers in the bathroom and doesn’t bother locking doors at night! So what do you do? Guess we just have to pick up after them since you can talk till you turn blue but nothing will register.

  25. This story or discussion is missing the financial part. You can do all these but for a period of time. No proper in flow of cash, all the cleaning, closets, dishes look like you have not accomplished anything. Good homemaking includes good money management (simply called Home Economics). Now thats were the political part comes in.

  26. #16 – It’s evident that you conform to the old idea of male chauvinism. “So what are women good at apart from providing a good home?” How dare you! Your statement displays an attitude that women are inferior to men and men should treat women negatively based solely upon our gender. You are unreasoning and wrong. In today’s world, I find that such ideals/beliefs are demeaning and mortifying. While I do believe in the Word of God that states that a man is the leader of the household, I also believe we now live in a time when a woman’s role should be universally acknowledged. I’m a firm believer in homemaking, however, this does not warrant ignorance from a man. Marriage is a partnership!

  27. What do women want in a relationship? When you tell a girl/woman that you love her and you want her in a relationship and she agrees to that proposal, does that mean she loves you also or she is looking at the material things you have? How do girls fall in love to men?

  28. I agree with #24 Lady L and #25 KC. A lot of it is to do with upbringing but you also have to sit down and have a chat with your man about your expectations (not in a complaining way of course but in a calm, mature way). I had the same problem with my partner of things being left out, not helping with chores, etc, even though we are both professionals in the same field and some days I get home even later than he does. After having “the talk” and explaining that this was a partnership and all I expect is a little help every now and again, things turned around dramatically and we haven’t looked back since.

  29. #31, so what if they are having an affair? Is anyone of them a minor? Or are you married to one of them? Take out the log in your eye. And then get a life

  30. men are men and we can never be equal to women no matter how much you want to be equal,ladies pls you are suppose to take care of a home period…………..

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