A Lusaka Medical Doctor has filed for divorce in the Lusaka High Court citing infidelity in his marriage by his wife who is also a medical doctor.
This is in a case in which Dr Francis Simenda has petitioned the High Court to dissolve his marriage of seven years to his former wife Dr Ziporah Chosa Phiri Simenda after accusing her of infidelity leading to her contracting a sexually transmitted infection (STI).
In his petition, Dr Simenda contented that his marriage with Dr Ziporah had broken down irretrievably because the respondent had behaved in such a way that the petitioner could not reasonably be expected to live with her.
Dr Simenda indicated that his wife had engaged in appropriate and highly suspicious conduct with a Mr Daniel Irunga Mwangi and that communication between the duo suggested a sexual relationship.
“The respondent has suffered from an STI at a time when she had no sexual contact with her because she was taking birth control pills during that period and was not having sex with her as he was in Lusaka while she was in Namibia for studies,” he said.
The petitioner also complained in his petition that his wife was an extremely violent person who suffered from uncontrollable rage and that on several occasions she had severely injured the petitioner and damaged his properties.
He said she had reported him to Chelstone Police Station of assault and told the police false information that he had assaulted her when infact not.
Dr Simenda said he had since made arrangements to maintain his two children they had together a boy and girl aged seven and four who were already currently in his custody.
He prayed that the said marriage be dissolved and that the court should consider granting him custody of the children as he could manage to maintain them and also be able to pay his former wife maintenance.
Awe chabvuta ichi chikwati manje. Let them divorce and we shall see who will come back to the other after sometime. Amayenge sang ‘Matenda’ and this is what we are seeing here.
here we go again!
only this time it is doctors involved in this shameful behaviour.
a violent doctor?
what a role model..
I worked with Francis and he was ‘generally’ a good guy and doctor at least at the time.Sad to see his dirty linen washed on the world wide web! Zambian women are now vicious hey! Zipporah sad to see your habits too washed out on the world wide web.But any case filed in court is available to the public.Please choose your spouses wisely.Doctor-doctor relationships don’t have a good prognosis.
Marital matters are an entity unto themselves. They are like taxi drivers; universal wherever you go. So regardless of social standing or professional setup – the issues are basically the same.
How many women are infected by their husbands everyday – why is it an issue – is it because it is the other way round? Men – women are now empowered so don’t think that you can continue abusing women – they are now playing your game!
OH..OH..ZOPPHORA. SO YOU WERE UNFAITHFUL?…..YOU SHOULD HAVE LEARNED FROM YOUR CLASSMATES LIKE DR. CHILESHE. ACTUALLY THE TWO CHILESHE’S WHO LED AN EXEMPLARY LIFE. HOPE YOU HAVE PICKED UP ONE THING OR THE OTHER FROM THAT EXPERIENCE.
Yangwe ba shinganga ! Awe chabipa nokumfwa.
Another case of divorce!if it was a man that did this we wouldn’t even hear about he was going to just ask for forgiveness that’s all,but now its a woman its different.second if the couple’s foundation is in christ jesus then they know God hates divorce!so the Dr should think about it!
zed agony is thinking your Doctor is normal to cure any STI alias she is the fist one to get it…life pa zed
zed agony is thinking your Doctor is normal to cure any STI alias she is the first one to get it…life pa zed
Where is the Medical Ethics that these doctors learned? Surely, they could have done much better than this.Reconciliation and forgiveness are the key.
While divorce is a painful experience, you are better happy alone or with another person than living with a monster.
In our society we tend to downplay the brutality perpetrated by women especially in marriage.
If the court papers are to be believed, this one has indeed irretrievably broken down
ba mu nyengela doctor yaba.no this lady is also a DR but why didnt she treat herself or take precautions.
Pysician heal thyself! ha ha ha ha ha ha!
Do what I say, not what I do!
kuti waseka nao utuswende kaili kuli ba dokutere,why didn’t she treat haself nway they say ighagha tashiiposha.Am sure dokutere uyo na AIDs yalingila.Doc to Doc or Doc to nurse tafibomba mainly .Doc to a cleaner or Doc to namaliketi ,nurse to a taxi driver filabomba na love sana .
There is nore to the divorce than meet the eye.If you are both God , fearing try to reconcile because divorce is not the answer.
ba na n’ganga akaswende kalapola namwe.
@5.Think, why do men pay lobola.If women can start paying as well then men will know that we are equal.Otherwise women will still be on the other side.
@annie, number 8. Please go and read your bible again. In Mathew 19:9, Jesus said: “I tell you that anyone who divorces his wife, except for sexual immorality, and marries another woman commits adultery.” This means that divorce is allowed in certain circumstances. I also agree with @ Sisi (number 12) that while divorce is a painful experience, you are better happy alone or with another person than living with a monster.
I am shocked about these comments because Zipporah has been my classmate in this postgrad programme for the past three years. It is so pathetic her exemplary character is being mudded in such a viscious manner. Over 95% of all marital infedilities are traced to the man! Let the Courts do their job. Ultimately the truth will be known. Zipoorah deserves unreserved and sincere support primarily because her postgrad training has exposed her to to overwhelming stress and I am deeply sure she was only interested in completing her training and desirous to join her family, not sleeping around. “Evil is the mouth that defames the person that stood by while the world abandoned one”.
Please iwe Francis Simenda dialogue with your wife. Bring in elders to sort out this mess. Even if you divorce be assured that would not make you happy. Don’t stump your feet and stick to your wish to divorce. You are stoning your wife, but have taken an honest look at yourself. Naiwe Ziporah Phiri say sorry to your husband if you grazed outside of Holy Matrimony.
Both of you remember one thing, ” The truth will set you free.” Marriage is God’s institution. Unless you entrust the matter into God’s hands plus necessary family support you guys are headed to the rocks, but God forbid.
As for you married fellas learn to do things as a family, ku Church pamodzi, ku bola pamodzi, kudya pamodzi, na pa bed pamodzi. May the risen Lord be with you and bless your beautiful families. One…
Alebepa uyu chika.la he must have been the one who was sleeping around.
One would have thought doctors would know better but awe sure with aPhiri ni Chosa Ziba! You bet she contracted AIDS too, and I have no pity over such stinking stupidity.
WE HAVE NOT HEARD FROM ZIPPORA. MAYBE SHE HEARD THAT THE HUSBAND IN ZINAMIBIA WAS ALSO FLIRTING WITH SOME OTHER WOMAN. SO LETS BE FAIR IN OUR COMMENTS.
Doctors, lead by example please!!
Imwe ichailenifye ! I had reasons why i had to open them for somebody else.If you are not part of the equation then don`t involve yourself.Cast the stone if you have never sinned.
Really?!! Unprotected sex doctor honestly…., you are so shallow, divorce her so manjemanje, were are your brains? there is nothing like you couldnt control yourself, next time you will get more than STI, kwena ulichipuba!
No. 16 ahahahaha wansekesha sana about the combinations you suggested that work out
Everything inthis story points to the fact that most likely Francis Simenda took trhis ka story to the press.How sad.You dont do this to the mother to your children coz whether Francis likes it or not they will remain with some form of connection due to the children.And when you look at his facebook page you get the feeling that he is not so much of a holier than thou.If he could take this story to the press it merely causes one to conclude that not only is he immature but he is also heartless.Ziporah move on you deserve better than this regardless of uour falts if any.
I was listening to Dr Francis Manda who said syphilis can be in your body for years without you knowing
Its not like STD would kill you, just treat it and don’t dissolve the marriage over such a petty issue
What is wrong with zambian men? I doubt he is a real Doctor he sounds backwards
Thanks
hey people,women are human beings with sexual needs…if you want to prevent such..better be together in school…i use to oil one lady from Angola when in med school while she came for post graduate..the them of our game was protection…doc Ziporah..learn to use it!!!!!!!!!!!!!
People dont be so harsh, we do not know the real truth, can we concenrate on better things, the price of mealie meal has gone up in Solwezi, i think thats more important than two grown up Dr’s who know best what to do!!!!!!!!!! people stop making them more famous by commenting and giving them so much attention. I think as Zambians we have better things to do than concentrate on this divorce, how many people divorce and they are not in the media, why them, who ever put this story, why are you giving them so much attention kanshi!!!
Dr. Ziporah is very stupid, in marriage there is no excuse for flirting. There is no scripture that allows adultery even if your spouse has cheated on you. She is just a character. Umusebanya kubana abanono!
So does that mean Ba Francis was busy using ama plastics while they were on separation?.So of these men can be ma hungry lions and can not manage to sleep Kwalio ( sleep alone) Paka fye am just asking?
Ba Francis Simenda, thats not the way you go about infedility in marriage. Dont expose your wife like this, even if she has wronged you. Rather sought this out with the help of a few trusted people around. Exposing your wife like this no matter how angry, disappointted you’re with regards to her behaviour is not wise. Remember she is a mother to your children and there is life after divorce. Your wife has part to play in the lives of your children too. Right now you think you’ll shut your wife out of her childrens lives but you’re wrong. Your behaviour already has made it difficult for both of you to live in harmony and respect for each other for the sake of children.
i cant even believe he can write something like this. This is tarnishing his wifes name. some 1 he had children with surely if u dont want them anymore…. WALK!!!!
No. 23, you sound like you know a lot about what Zipporah was doing in Namibia. May be its you who used to take her to the nightclubs where she may have met her fate. or you are responsible. Probably you are Dr Mwangi or companions.
There is more to this story than what we have read so far. Is it even true she contracted STD? Namibia is nearby why was he not servicing her. She is human and has needs. Why was dirt linen in public for the woman you told I love you at one time and mother of your children. There is immaturity in this case. Seek the wisdom of God. God doesnt care whether you are a Dr or not. He loves all.
The SEVEN year itch.
#37 chachine. This guy is very childish. Litole sana. If this is the calibre of Doctors we have in the country then we are deep sh.it. There was no reason to bring out such trash in the open. Why separate in the first place? You thought you’re the only one who has tools? Musata nyoko!
You guys are talking nosense.Maybe its because kubasunga has polluted your brains. In Zambia there no two ways about the matter.Straight divorce even my Grandfather will tell you that ubuchende bwa mwaume tabutoba ing’anda koma ubwachanakashi= divorce . Every time she meets DR Mwangi ninshi alya nafuti,
it z a very sad story to hear wives shud learn to be faithful no matter hw far yo husband may be, if Dr francis think dat divoce z a gud ting let him do so coz its not health to be living with such kind of a person…any way lets watch nd see what next…….
Please Dear Dr’s work out your Marriage, We are all not perfect. call the mediators and work out things for the sake of marriage. Your first love which brought you together needs to be realised.For the sake of innocent children work it out
poorly written article. ati “contented”…. when i think they meant “contended,” elyo futi ati “his former wife……… after accusing her of infidelity leading to her contracting a sexually transmitted infection (STI).” meaning the accusation lead to contracting of the STI! Awe i am still checking with my “common mistakes made in english.”
Abena Ziporah now bachita na deactivate ka fb….Anyway we have seen… chalelila pa Nairobi.Kuti wakana ukutombeshi filya ? Ndeloleshafye.
Ba King Pharaoh
Te language yaba wiso iyi, eyo ulemekelamo. True Zambians understand whats being said here. Don’t waste valuable space on this important discussion. Makandi yobe.
Does Times of Zambia always print articles without facts, by word of mouth just because the person who said this is a man and a doctor? Do you actually investigate these private stories to find out the truth? What type of man, especially one who is pure, true and guiltless would air his dirty laundry out to the public? Wouldn’t he at the very least want to protect his children?!! In time the truth will come out. It always does.
21. Iwe dokota abba i think walilyako kuli ziphora waunfwa sweet. n way u r not the court let the judge do his job period.
But how did he know she has STD?
If he contracted it from her then, she can equally make the same claim!
Isn’t this the same guy who shot his wife and then bribed ZRP to make the case go away?
Abanakashi baku Chipata bali temwa ukuchongesha,you have 3 kids with them ,only to find 2 are not yours, same with Lozi women.For this man to blow this issue ,she must have been unapologetic and rude.She must have rubbed it in saying the Dr was not man enough. We know Chipata women they will go on an anthill to announce you can not perform hence their numerous affairs.Shame on this Dr Chosa.Even parents how do you name your child chosa?Achose chani?
@ Robin.
That is the most stupid *****ic thing I have ever heard since you don’t JK ow either of these people! I would say use your brain but clearly you don’t have one!
Ha ha ha.Zebige like the comments.Bring them on.Abena Dr chosa fimo fimo hope you are reading this.Lol
Not a good story. My heart is heavy with shame. Why should you finish off your friend like that. Lets talk about somethin else.
Folks, the man never went on the web in the first place. These are court records that are accessible to anyone who cares, and it looks like Lusaka Times cared. As for reconciliation advocates, let anyone imagine another man pouring hot semen in one’s beloved wife. If you agree say “yea!” if not say “nay!” Please!
I am really and trully disppointed with the outcome of these to DRs.
Firstly, how did he find out she had an STI as one would think, being a Dr herself, she would have destroyed the evidence earlier !!
Secondly, if he knew she was violent all the time (as we understand ati balebachisa nga balwa , why did he go on to marry her.
Finally, iwe naiwe Choosa, next time you marry do not choosa the pants anywhere with any man and leartn to be discrete in life.
I feel for the kids if they are reading these comments but cést la vie!!!!
@52.
PLEASE! Yeah right he didn’t go to the web himself & we are supposed to believe that when the article is so obviously biased toward him. What makes them SO SPECIAL that they picked that particular case??!! How do you know she even slept with another man unless it was you. If that is the case I have no absolute confidence in Times of Zambia because without any proof or fact, they would ruin someone’s reputation and not even care and give consideration to this couples kids. Please the guy is an *****! He just announced to the world he has an STD. Who wants to sleep with that after?!! That’s disgusting!!
Francis is a decent guy. That chi wife is just a whore.instead of concentrating on education chala ulafye.sinking so low to even get an std.u deserve what’s come to you whore
@ 55 Whistle blower
Birds of the same feather flock together. A decent guy who would shot at his wife and go to the papers with such a story even if it was true?! What type of person takes the side of such a stupid ***** except if he is one himself.
Please Lusaka Times, for the sake of the Kids please stop all these comments yafula kwena, If you really care about the kids please put a stop to this.
People divorce, let these two Doctors take care of there Sh*******.
Whistle blower@ 55
You pretend to be a very knowledgeable bystander but you are the very one peddling these nefarious lies, character-assassination campaigns and disinformation. With a good and competent lawyer you will be struck off the medical register for gross unethical behaviour unbecoming of a public officer and in the standing of a specialist medical officer. Such mediocrity can only be entertained in a mediocre newspaper that does not care about facts or makes efforts to verify potentially damaging, libelous and defamatory statements. I am sure one fine day this paper and its publishers will pay dearly for such gross professional misconduct and willful publication of unverified information fit for the toilets.
This is a very sad development in the family of our beloved brethren. This matter needs to be dealt with in camera to avoid further embarrassment in this family. No matter the situation, please Francis ask the papers to withdraw the story and deal with it in camera for the sake of your children and your reputation in society. Both of you hold high positions in society and you are suppose to provide mentor-ship not only to your children but to the young ones at large who have always looked up to you because of your academic achievements. You have not made it academically by accident but because of diligence, dedication and discipline. What has really gone wrong to come out in the public like this. Is this probably one way of avoiding depression? Francis being a specialist you know better???
I thought it was only in Selenje pros…that had an issue with. I have to request for more funding….Pros is very addictive. So chi Mister!!!!!!! chatile aka kaDr. kuyipayilafwe…. the Questions is,,,, where did this man get the disease?, and where did that person also get the disease? because this type of the disease moves from person to another and from one generation to another.. We need to characterize these strains. Men also learn to behave.
Facts of life
1.0 if you dont divorce within two years wait for five years
2.0 if you dont divorce within five years, wait within 10 years
3.0 if you cant divorce within 15 years,,, Bai very difficult to divorce after 15 years..
4.0 what is STD wives even have kids at ur home kaboy
where u the first to slept with her?
5.0 did u surely…
Ba doc i hope you will now develop a kind attitude towards us after this episode. Learn to smile and greet.
Baane, marriage is a mistry. I have been married for 16 years now. to a lovely lady who has given me four boys. But still feel I married a wrong person and would like to move out. Alas, I can’t find a fault in this lady. what should I do?
67
Go hang yourself?
Dr. Francis, you are the one who has been violent, abusive and rude. You behave like that even to strangers and relatives. Today you want to turn things upside down and conclude about your wife having an affair just after reading one or two sms??? Grow up and ask yourself why she did that if she really did sleep with another man.
It is realy very unfortunate to read about this exposure involving our Doctors. I am pretty sure that Dr. Simenda did not sink so low to go and expose the once beloved wife to the media but this over zelous reporter who saw something extra ordinary in the whole issue from the Courtsof law which he or she percieved to be news worth.A Doctor contracting STI when they are the ones educating the general public on abstainance or practicing safe sex. Though terrible it may sound the bible is very clear,it is up to the two to reconcile and forget about the past or divorce. Let us not add more injuries as we comment on this topic but see how best we can help.Let not forget the fact they are public figures whom we need most. No man is perfect and all sins are equal.
Awe chabipa.
ifyo iya.
i am also a victim.
just accept that after all we are all animals with sexual appetites like monkeys!!!
Mushota,that is the best answer for 67@ kingpie nobody forced him to marry in the first
place.
Dr Simenda, can I have your number please? May be you can diagnose me as well…!
I personally know Chosaziwa and she is a decent and well groomed lady. I owez wondered as to how a God fearing girl cud have ended up with a low life like Francis. He has once attempted to kill her, he insults and dis respects Zippy’s parents. He never provided for his family but Zippy ensured the household was running well even tho most dependants in the home were Francis relatives. Chosaziwa deserves better and the court process will vindicate her but above all the God she worships as for u Francis grow up and get a life.
Yaba Can’t a doctor treat herself if she notices she s Got an STD?
Atti so what? whatever
i feel for you ziporah. But God is faithful,He will never leave you nor forsake you. No matter how low you feel down cast,put you hope in Him and he come through for. With you in prayer.
most if not all african wives will do anything to make their marriages work, only wen they lack trust in their husbands that it becomes hard for them to be trustworthy. so if your wife cheats on you, truth is you have given her every reason to do so. its not her, its not that man but its you who needs to change and gain her trust.
before you devorce her, take a long hard look at yourself and ask yourself if u gave her any reason not to trust u, if theres none then she probably deserves ths humiliation but if theres any then she deserves an apology in the media from u sir,wether shez guilty or not . coz even a single reason to doubt your faithfulness then you gave her permission to cheat on you.yes she had other options but she chose the easiest fo ha @that time, thats human nature…
Trust or no trust in spouse without religious conversion renders a sinner vulnerable to immorality,std and divorce.It is painful and humiliating to the husband to share what he has paid dowry for with another man.It is equally dehumanizing for the wife to share her husband with another woman.When this takes place marriage vows are breached,broken and irreparable.If the two come together again they will never enjoy sex as before for they will be full of imagining he other spouse having sex out with a stranger and this is more humiliating.The two must break up and seek new relations elsewhere but Christians will stay together being faithful one to another until death do them party.This is the synergy of natural and spiritual laws.
This is shocking. Some of us who know Francis Simenda..(I will not call him DR because he does not pass for a Dr) know that he is a beast, a monster who has no respect for anyone. Simenda sleeps with his maids, tried to shoot his wife with his gun which was confiscated. Simenda is so evil to the point that he practices witchcraft. This man from Kalabo, who grew up on a canoe is no good. Just this story demonstrates how evil the man is. This is unbelievable.
Simenda, you are worse than a devil. Not worthy to be a man! Is it true that you were mad at some point during your UNZA days?
Pliz medical council deal with this lunatic Simenda. How can he deal with mental patients when he is mad himself.
Simenda, for sure you are a witch. Even your black car tells a story!!
# 80,81, 82, and 83, you seem to have so much hate for this Doc, sometimes in life we should never waste our time dealing with evil things or people, live it up to God to vindicate Dr phiri, with our Creator, the truth always comes out. I pray that Dr Phiri and Dr Simenda should both find cormfort in God, if his really wrong, the truth will come out people, stop raising your B/P on him. Life is so precious!!!! THE TRUTH WILL ALWAYS SET YOU FREE, and please Dr Phiri and Dr Simenda Read Psalm 37vs 23 to 24
Does this man have relatives? I am sure they are so embarrassed with this behavior!