A 29-YEAR-OLD woman of Lusaka’s Garden Township has told the Lusaka Boma local court that her husband denied responsibility of her pregnancy because he claimed he was on a contraceptive pill for men.
Passfrora Nyirongo also said that on another occasion her husband, Christopher Mumba, 36, denied being the father of their child claiming that its complexion was too dark for it to be his.
Nyirongo said this in a case in which she sued Mumba, a mineral explorer, for marriage reconciliation. The two got married in 2003 and Mumba paid K500,000, half of what he was charged, as lobola. They have two children together.
She said although problems in their marriage have intensified over the years, trouble started almost immediately after they got married. She said she has never known peace in her marriage because of Mumba’sbehaviour.
“In January 2004, a month after we got married, I conceived but he denied the pregnancy claiming he was on a male contraceptive pill. That stressed me so much that I ended up miscarrying. Fortunately, I conceived again after four months,” she said.
Nyirongo said when the child was born, Mumba refused to hold the baby claiming it was not his because the child was dark in complexion. She said in April 2006, Mumba took her back to her parents’ home for traditional counselling.
“When we separated, he visited me when he felt like but he never bothered to inquire about the child. I managed to provide for our child and myself because at the time I was still in employment,” she said.
Nyirongo said that in June 2008, Mumba asked for reconciliation so they could have another child and she agreed because she was still in love with him.
She said in September the same year, she conceived but two months later, Mumba said he had to travel to South Africa on business where he stayed for six months.
Nyirongo said she later found out that Mumba was actually in Mumbwa and not in South Africa.
“When our second child was born, he told me to stop work so that I could take care of the baby because it was born with bronchitis. So he became the only provider. However, he does not consult me about anything, He does as he pleases,” she said.
Nyirongo said Mumba bought two buses using a loan that he got from a financial institution without consulting her as his wife.
She also said that Mumba is in the habit of dating her friends and that he has even proposed love to one of their landlord’s daughters.
“When he is home, he sleeps with his clothes on. If not, he sleeps in the sitting room. He does not care about me or our children so I want him to tell me if he is still interested in me as a woman and his wife,” she said.
In his submission, Mumba said the problem in their marriage is that Nyirongo nags him and that this is what prompts him to leave their matrimonial bedroom.
He said Nyirongo also insults him so much that their neighbours laugh at him. He said this was why he decided to take her back to her parents’ place.
“I love my wife but she nags a lot and I do not like her attitude. I am tired of her insults. That is the reason I move out. I would rather sleep on the roof of the house than be in the same room with her. I do not have a girlfriend, if I did I would never return home to her,” he said.
Mumba said he has always provided for his family and he cares for it.
He said he was skeptical about their first child because he suspected she was having an affair with another man three days before their wedding.
“It’s only normal (to be skeptical). I had doubts about the child but she is a good mother. I just can’t take the nagging,” he said.
The case, which was before acting principal presiding magistrate Elipha Mwewa, was adjourned to tomorrow, May 23, for judgement.
[ Sunday Mail ]