Dear Womba,
Its always great to hear from you. Unfortunately I’ve been unwell. I had a miscarriage last week. Everyone expects me to be okey- after all it was just a foetus! But it was so much a part of me still. I carried him/her for 9weeks. Doesn’t that account for anything? Of course I don’t get any sympathy from my aunties. They say its a part of a womans life and I should focus on the children I have. I agree but I just want even a day to grieve the loss of my baby. I keep asking why why did it happen.I quarreled with my husband yesterday when he told me to snap out of it. He can afford to say that since he didn’t carry it! Despite our fight he got me card that touched me it said ” acceptance of what has happened is the first step to overcoming the consequences of any misfortune. Circumstances alone do not make us happy or unhappy.It is the way we react to the circumstances that determines our feeling.”
I wonder- do women who have had abortions secretly grieve the loss of their babies? Perhaps its a relief for a teenage girl when she aborts and no longer has the thought of being pregnant hanging over her head. However, does she ever get over the guilt of “getting rid” of her baby? I’m sure its something they live with the rest of their lives. Would they do it if they knew the physiological and psychological effects of their actions? I wonder.
Well I’m sure Heaven has a big nursery for all the miscarried and aborted babies where they are loved and taken care of.
God grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change,The courage to change the things I can and the wisdom to know the difference!
love Jelita