By The Nubian Princess
I can see brows furrowing at this title. Keep fuming. I am still talking.
Because everywhere in Zambia, Canters are being loaded with dishes of food and singing women in matching chitenges heading off to serenade some man for being a husband.
Think about it. Two people fall in love, build a home and family together and only one of them gets the accolades with Amatebeto. In the old days, this may have made some remote sense when men were the sole providers of the family, but in modern times, Zambian women are doing more than their share in holding families together. They are employed, they have children, they cook, they hustle, they fight side chicks (Ask Tisa the Trendsetter) and yet they keep their heads down and put their men on pedestals. This frustration is now manifesting in violence on men from women.
I was very annoyed the other day when I received a WhatsApp notification from my niece, Chisha, to form a family committee as she was planning Amatebeto for her husband, John. They have been married 8 years and have 3 children. Chisha has held down a steady job as an Accounts clerk since before meeting John while he has fleeted from one failed business venture to another. Chisha, inspite being only 36 years old, has aged rapidly since marrying John. She has gained weight and her breasts have never recovered from her pregnancies and breastfeeding. Anyway, when the WhatsApp notification came, I expressed to Chisha that I could spare her money for a breast implants and gym membership or alternately I could contribute to a life insurance in John’s name not to the abomination of Amatebeto.
As you can imagine, the entire family has ceased speaking to me. Good riddance! Regardless, I still insist that John should give Amatebeto to Chisha for being an excellent wife and a provider for both his dignity and his loins.
women must demand alagizi for their betrothed with extensive teaching on how to handle a modern Zambian woman before going to the altar.
The time is now for Zambian women to flip their Brazilian weaves, click their Chinese heels and claim their place in the home as equal partners. It starts with demanding Ukutebetwa. Claim your glory! Additionally, women must demand alagizi for their betrothed with extensive teaching on how to handle a modern Zambian woman before going to the altar.