Husband’s extreme sexual demand forces 42 year old Woman to seek Divorce


A 42 year old Milenge woman has filed for divorce on account of her husband’s extreme sexual demand.

Minute Chola, of Talayi village in Chief Sokontwe’s Chiefdom of Milenge district, Luapula province, has told the Milenge Magistrate, Heaven Chimpandu that she has failed to sustain her husband’s bizarre sexual appetite.

“We have been having irreconcilable differences with my Husband Maybin Chisala, 45, because of his unusual sexual demands, she Complained in court.

Mrs Chola testified that she was diagnosed with an illness at the hospital and was advised to reduce on too much sex and heavy duties, as the illness resurfaces every time she engages in abnormal sex, but that her husband has totally refused to adhere to the doctor’s guidance.

“We have been married for seven years and my husband demands for sex from me even when I, m menstruating, but he also cheats on me because he engages in extramarital affairs with other women,” she stated.

She added that worse more, her husband is a drunkard who does not even financially support their two children aged three and five and the other nine children he has from his previous marriage.

In his defense, Mr Chisala, a Head Cook at Milenge Secondary School, said his wife is talkative and has tarnished his image in the village, at his work place and to both of their families by sharing their sexual affairs publicly.

“She left the matrimonial bedroom a while ago, but I still love and consider her as my wife and I want her back,” Mr Chisala resisted a divorce.

In his ruling, Magistrate Chipandu granted the couple a divorce but that Chola would not get any compensation considering that this was her second marriage and she does not know how to handle bedroom matters other than washing dirty linen in public.

“To you Mr Chisala, put your life in order and plan a proper future for these eleven children other than always thinking about sex and beer,” Magistrate Chipandu advised.

Magistrate Chipandu gave Ms Chola full custody of their two children and ordered Mr Chisala to be giving his ex-wife K300 as child support on a monthly basis.

The property the couple owned among them a refrigerator, kitchen unit, a kiln and maize were shared between them.


  1. Communication and understanding is key in every relationship be it professional or personal. It is sad that people let things get to this stage before seeking help. We need to be acknowledge that sex addiction is a real health problem or sickness for which people require treatment. It is clear that this man needs help and so does his now ex wife who has had to endure the mental anguish of his gluttonous sexual appetite. Kudya situlesa. But kadyeledwe matters

  2. At that age you should count yourself lucky if you have somebody that horny over you. In some of these homes some women literary beg the spears to rise to the occasion. Umkonto we Sizwe has to be pampered to perform his duties. Now you say it’s too much! I don’t really know what women want

  3. Even before reading the story I guessed should be from Luapula, at 42 years old she is not handling it? Only us from Luapula. Those 3 tatoo cuts we do at the back-waist, with powdered goat-d!ck. I trust it….

  4. She can only leave when there is no money. Women stay at all cost if their husbands are rich and will not mention anything disgraceful as such.

  5. Yaaa…kuli tu nsimbii…a cook,who is supposed to be very tired from cooking nsima for hundreds of pupils can still exhaust his wife in bed to a point of surrender and further have extra marital affairs?! This chap should be counselled on family planning.How can we develop if the very poor like him can produce 11 children and still “going strong”?How can we reduce poverty with such characters?

  6. Kaizer Zulu you have missed the point. The main problem this woman has is that this man does not provide. Full stop. He is broke. Women don’t have time for broke men. Even you Kaizer, enjoy your marriage with this money you have accumulated from GRZ. Otherwise after Boma & should you become broke, ask Newstead Zimba he will tell you how it ends. You will also become a nuisances like him.

  7. Jumbo if you marry a gold digger what do you expect? You do not know the subjects of this article personally so how can you assume its about money? I met my wlfe when I had nothing attached to my name. If it was money she was after then I wouldn’t be with her. In fact my wlfe is currently earning more than me. Who cares ?

  8. I sense something, it’s because this guy is broke that’s why she is divorcing him. Twalibeshiba bamo abantu, if he had money she was not going to raise such issues

  9. All the woman needed was consideration for her condition and the man failed at that!! I totally agree with you @ Kaizar Zulu, this is a condition which requires therapy. I hope things get better for them in their separate lives. At times all one needs is peace.

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