Ever wondered why you are where you are today? Well a major contribution to your current status is your attitude. Winston Churchill once said “The optimist sees opportunity in every danger; the pessimist sees danger in every opportunity.” Attitude is more important than the past, than education, than money, than circumstances, than what people do or say. It is more important than appearance, giftedness, or skill. Some may say; if I had a â€œgood jobâ€ I would have a â€œgood attitudeâ€! Isnâ€™t it more truthful to say that if a person had a â€œgood attitudeâ€ they would increase their chances of getting a good job?
Thomas Jefferson once said nothing can stop the man with the right mental attitude from achieving his goal while nothing on earth can help the man with the wrong mental attitude.
What is a good attitude?
It’s a way of thinking positively that says:
* I can control my life and achieve my goals.
* I am responsible for the choices I make.
* My past does not matter; I can change my future.
Wherever you go, no matter what the weather, always bring your own sunshine.
You cannot control what happens to you, but you can control your attitude toward what happens to you and in that, you will be mastering change rather than allowing it to master you.
James Truslow Adams said Seek out that particular mental attribute which makes you feel most deeply and vitally alive, along with which comes the inner voice which says, “This is the real me,” and when you have found that attitude, follow it.
How sell yourself to others
The best way to sell yourself to others is first to sell the others to yourself. Check yourself against this list of obstacles to a pleasing personality: interrupting others; sarcasm; vanity; being a poor listener; insincere flattery; finding fault; challenging others without good cause; giving unsolicited advice; complaining; attitude of superiority; envy of others’ success; poor posture and dress.
Learn to be assertive, not aggressive. Be nice to everyone. That doesn’t mean letting other people take advantage of you, but it does mean looking for ways to get what you want (win) without forcing the other person to lose.
It is possible to find win-win solutions to almost any situation (yes, there are exceptions, but they’re rare), but most of us need to learn how. We were raised on the idea of competition, where in order for me to win, you have to lose. In order for me to pass you have to fail.What we need to learn now is that we don’t have to play by win-lose rules — you can change the rules! People can only hear you when they are moving toward you, and they are not likely to when your words are pursuing them. Even the choice words lose their power when they are used to overpower. Attitudes are the real figures of speech.
Life is 10% what happens to me, and 90% how I react to it. And so it is with you … we are in charge of our Attitudes.