Dear Munzanga,
It’s been over a year since I became a parent over here Kumangalande. I can only tell you that it hasn’t been what it’s made out to be. I have no help whatsoever. I have so many sleepless nights without rest, and not no single relation to run to.
Munzanga, parenthood is like a secret society, nobody tells you what goes on inside until you get in and when you do, you just want to say please release me. Your so called life is no longer your own but belongs to that child, and worse Munzanga is that a babysitter kuno is so costly so I bite my tongue and and act like everything is okey. Am I losing my mind Munzanga?
Your friend,
Nalema
IM SURE YO PARENTS SENT U “KUMANGALANDE” FOR SCHOOL BUT IMWE WAVULA MENDO.. VALA MENDO WEBO!!!! FOCUS WITH SCHOOL SCHOPET!…KISS YO BABY FOR ME SHE/HE LOOKS CUTE!
iwe ATLZEDIAN how can you say vala mendo ninshi muntu abala kudala? My dear all I can say is goodluck!
Going by your article your seem to be a single mother. Make things right with yourself, have children in marriage only. That way you will have a helping hand from your own husband and you will be his helpmate.
I take it this pregnancy was unplanned otherwise you should have done your research. Nannies there in Europe are expensive and your ‘govt’ wont allow you to bring in your cousin from Zambia. I hope you wont send that innocent soul to live with its grannies..I wish you the best though…
Inu a Nalema, please grab your savings and head home to Zed where there are pipo who care about you and yours. Come and identify the latest deposit of copper, Zinc, Iron, Uranium, Gold, Manganese and get some INFESTOR with money to partner with you. This is the golden time 4 Zedians. If you miss it you will be the only family without a mine of your own.
Head back home bifo your child gets into an identity trap like all the West Indian kids in Babylon
My friend Nalema, your baby looks so cute and so health. I want to agree with you that parenting is not so easy. Its not something that one can run into hoping that all will be well (on a silver plate). When I got married, my wife and I took time to have children because we talked about it and had planned for it. We now have 2 children both girls and proud to tell you that with the Grace of God, we are managing to look after them (feeding, clothing and taking them to school among other things). So when we’ll feel that we can afford to have the third one, we try and see if God will bless us with one more. All I can say to you is that life is not easy. You need to work hard at times even extra
GOD GAVE YOU A BEAUTIFUL GIFT,DONT COMPLAIN,ALL YOU GOT TO DO IS KEEP ON WORKING HARD WHATEVER YOU ARE DOING KUMANGALANDE UNTIL YOU GET BACK HOME SO THAT THE BABYS DAD WOULD ALSO HELP YOU RAISE THE CHILD,ITS NOT GONNA BE EASY
Finaly no politics, Nalema my friend this happens to everyone though only a few come out in the open they will make you cry and wish you did not have the baby but sometimes that child brings a big smile to your face count it all join. I am sorry this is not directed at you but you learn about life and grow up faster this way unlike the Zed way where there are relatives right left and cetre, who said having a child should be made easy for anyone. you learn to work hard and you children follow in your footsteps, if you have it easy your child will think the whole world is rosy i think this is why we have too many lazy people in Zed out for a quick quid and dont know the meaning of hard work
Your baby has got a big mouth *********
JESUS IS THE ANSWER.
I cannot stand people like #5 busy telling people to leave their green pastures for brown pastures. if it’s such a golden time in zambia why is there mass exodus. you are the same people that promise people milk and honey and when they come back and fail you are the firsts one to laugh ‘ati phiri anabwela’. You need money to make money in zambia it’s not just a matter of landing of few foreign exchange . Zambia is also babylon , you have homosexuals and promiscuity mixed with Aids so don’t wish bad on people who are trying to better their lives in another country
It’s what my grandfather used to tell my father.
“Sugar is sweet but buying it is bitter.”
Ulimbe m’sikana, credit crunch yabwela hot …
Walema na chani? LT is that nalemas child? If so awe kanshi chikombola ichisuma sana. Isa kuno mune tubikemo naumbi fwebali serious nokusunga abana, noyowine twalasuma mummy.
Sorry meant twalasunga mummy.
The baby is cute, Everything kumangalande is too expensive i agree with you. I hope the father is not a yoo. Amayo they are very irresponsible when it comes to parenting. Wish you all the best and take care of this precious baby.
Dear country men and women,
I need some advice. i have a an 18 yr old boy. While he was sitting for his o levels, he got involved with the wrong crowd or should i say he did not study once despite advice and warnings from myself. The boy got grades just above F. The local collage eventully accepted him but he was not concentrating and was on the verg of being kicked out. However during holidays he worked for a construction company and they offered him an apprentice postion with collage and transport payed for. But to my dissappointment, he is comming home after midnight during week days and had a warning already. I have tried to talk to him but all in vain. Should i kick him out ?
#16, Not yet … wait until he brings home a child.
The truth is, you want to learn some hard tackles with this boy. He’s lost all respect for you and now you need to show him who’s responsible for his meals and tissue paper. Once you show him he’s still under your roof, he should come around.
Good luck and put prayer before any decision.
Number 9 Shame on you. How could you refer such a nice baby to *** Does yours, if ever you have any, look any better? How would you feel if I said **********Please grow up and learn to have manners. Even bad manners are better than having no manners at all. Go back to school!!!
Your parents warned you never ever have SEX before MARRIAGE, you did not OBEY your parents advise.This time it is too late to complain and moreover you have such a BEAUTIFUL BABY and this is a GIFT from GOD.You have to work extra hard and finally come back home sweetie to Zed, it will be cheaper to have your cousins or a relative to baby seat your beautiful baby while you go and find work around.I’m sure your parents will still LOVE you despite you NEVER listened.
I can also not stand number 11. How dare you critisize that true zedian? My friend sink this in your mind. do not be an economic refugees or a second class citizen. The only jobs you chaps do is either pared yourselfs in the street for so nice tongne or ukupipa amashilu notukote even working hopless jobs like resturant atendants and the like. Wokeup! in zed you can have your own company or have a nice peace of land and cultivate some tomatoes. My dear there were you are when you die, you come like a cago in a stinking plane. hopless chaps.
iwe kombwe..im in atlanta i have my green card im secure i have 2 farms with my father and mother, and believe u me im sending money to them and they doing well with the farm so they do send me back profits, we not saying we disslike zed.. we just not ready for the life style there as of right now ku zed ili bad and u dam sure know it yoself ..and i know u wish yo was overseas so stop being ** than u are
#16 send that boy home to learn some manners.. and let him cry and remember how lucky he was to be in england.
I know that baby,it’s for Fredrick Titus Jacob Mpundu Chiluba former Zed president.
#20 If you want to preoccupy your mind with silly thoughts that all of us abroad are restaurant attendants Then I suggest you take a reality test. Some of us left zambian because we were offered jobs with salaries that surpass even your president’s, our qualifications are appreciated abroad. If you think we don’t own land then you are a deluded charlatan, we own land, houses and businesses in Zambian which we paid for with capital from our own hard work.If I am to speak for myself I already have several rental properties and farmland in Zambia so save your silly remarks for your friends. I was treated like a second class citizen in my own country and almost starved .
It’s high time you told the bitter zambians that always show scorn to zambians abroad that we are doing fine and better than you. If people are doing good you want to bring them down and create rumours. the minute you find out people are living good you start sending text messages and emails asking for money… I can assure you even the normal restaurant attendant probably earns more than you and has a nice house ,car and takes care of his/her family in Zambia. If people are doing good bless them don’t curse them , this is probably why your life is stagant and you are bitter
what about that fellow who called himself ‘I CANT WORK FOR A WHITEMAN’
He really whined about his condition in the UK though he hid the fact that he was still there.
His testimony as a result is more reliable and representative of our actual situations. Of course there are exceptions here and there.
You should hear the testimonies of people that lived in the UK and went back to Zambia. I know some people that thought this place was rubbish until they went back to zambia and were hoping for open arm welcomes and business opportunities and got a shock, one even committed suicide. Zambia is not an easy place , The UK may have racism but one thing they do is they PAY you proportionately to how you work. In zambia finding a good job is almost impossible plus job security and pay is terrible. I am yet to meet anyone with the same withdrawal and depression symptoms as the people that left the UK for Zambia
Iwe #23 akupipafye atufi twatukote uko! dont bother us or comment on zedian issues
But naimwe bagelo you a shame to zed, but who fathered that child,he must be one of the niggas in texas,tok to authourities in USA for the air ticket back home,otherwise as a mother of one in europe you won’t get married, atleast pa zed ukamoneka latest from europe.
#23 I have NOT heard of any Zambian being treated like a second class citizen inspite of having good qualifications. Limbi mwalifilwa ukutimba job nama qualifications yenu biggie. Awe tata/mayo mukosepo ukupipa utufi as anonymous has put it.
IYEE CHIMWANA IFI MATOBO KWATI NI RUPIAH BANDA FUSEKE IWE.
#29 walasa wechana !!! Ngaisa pa zed awe tata ni blazzzzzz kulalwilafye nomwana uyo awe te problem iyo.
QUALITY CONTROL SUPERVISOR FOR “PACKAGING DYNAMICS ATLANTA” WE HAVE FOR PLANTS IN ATL,TEXAS,LA AND THE HEADQUARTERS IN CHICAGO..IM PAID SALARY WITH BENEFITS..#20 U KOMBWE” WHO DONT UNDERSTAND MY BENEFITS..HERE WE GO
1. MEDICAL
2. DENTAL
3. 401K FOR YO OWN INFO U DIOT IVE WORKED FOR THIS COMPNAY FOR ONLY 3 YRS SO CALCULATE HOW MUCH MY 401K IS..PLUS IM STILL IN SCHOOL ***.. SO NOT EVERYBODY WORKS LOW JOBS AND EVEN IF THEY DI THEY GETTING GOOD MONEY ******** U REALLY PISSED ME OFF AND AMA GO AT *** UNTILL U GET IT…NOW AT MY LEVEL I CAN EVEN AFFORD TO BRING
#16 thats a sad state of affairs. You need to do something real drastic to your boy.I’m tempted to say send him back home but he will probably cause your relatives there misery and still hang with the wrong crowd.I think he is seeking attention and acceptance that he never felt he received from you.His bad crowd has accepted him for who he is and to him thats better than nothing.Whatever you do love him even togh love is still love.Let us know how it goes, we with small sons may learn a thing or two.
#30 how many Unza and CBU students end up being chibuku warriors despite having good grades? How many people cannot get jobs because they don’t know people in high places? Do you know how many people were retrenched by their own government and paid little money, How many graduates have been reducing to selling in markets? You need to wake up
#31
iwe osatukana mwana, ali che. Manje ufuna ankhale o yonda monga chani? Bana bako nibo yonda? Badiese chabe, nabo bazaoneka bwino ehh.
Nalema,
Children are hard work especially when you don’t have relatives nearby to help you. However, taking care of your baby wont last forever. Soon she will be old enough to go to university and take care of herself. One day you will both look back at the memories and be happy that you stayed together. God bless you.
Help your freind, the latter is not to you,mind and learn your english in the book called, ” english in our daily lives”
Children are a gift from God. sunga bwino wana uyo. before having children pliz plan for then and they wont be any bother like you have explained. laterz
To the Zambians in the diaspora.
Things have changed since you left this country in the 1990s or when ever. I am amazed by the warped concepts that Zambians abroad have when I travel. FYI. Most of us do earn more than even the new presidential salaries that you are alluding to except ours are in a Zambian economy and yours are in the developed economy complete with the high cost of living for the high standard of living you so desparately seek.
Nalema, you should have done your homework before having the kid. Even we the uneducated masses that you guys left behind have learnt to do that, just so we know that we can continue working with full time child care that you now want and cant afford.
Hey chaps kumangalande! Zed is supeee my dear. i you think ukupipa utukote is life or bumalukula am sorry i can work that job. If you were pay like my beloved president dear you would have even attendent your relatives funeral. But you fare, because the time you come here.. hooops. I know your visa expired long time ago. Its realy shamefull priding yourself in being second class citizen. If you really helping your perants why do you faile just pay a visit for them. Sorry down here its nice my fellow. Zedian fly out for holidays and shopping not minding the plane fare. but for you? mwali ipaya utubwa tonse pamwenu for your airfare. For your info, i was in machester city just for a holiday.
I had a visitor from the copperbelt and the first thing he said was- ‘yaba bondi yobe ikulu sana, waibile kwisa impiya?’ yaba
Atlzedian.ok.chapwa naufwa umu guys..lets go and blog kuma politics,lets nt insult n degrade each each mwebantu imwe.
There you go again talking about whoz doing well where and what ever…when are you gonna learn that you live where your bread is buttered? If your bread is buttered in UK live in UK. If it’s buttered in Zed, live in Zed. It’s that simple. Nobody needs to justify where they live to anybody period. And you with a baby in the diaspora…get used to it. What u’re experiencing is the norm where u live. People live and let live like that. Why do you make migration or staying home issues? It’s very normal. Countries like Morrocco are even working for their diasporees trying to fight for their rights in the UK, EU and the US, just like they do for people at home.
Hey guy abroad, never mind my talk i love you all please continue working hard be good ambassadors and God bless you all i love you Kiss mwaaaaa.
Kubulaya guys kuusuma if you have the right papers, a good job and are staying in a small town/county. Let’s not fool ourselves; Zed is good for some and yalikosa saana for others.
lucky me…send that nice baby to me by DHL now ….PLOT NO.7865, CHALALA, WOODLANDS , LUSAKA…twalasunga mukwai
Dear Nalema…
Yes, you are losing your mind
Next question..
Kids, 4-5 minutes of sweetness when making them plus yellings, gasps and screams, and yet many years of trouble bringing them up, worse still they wont pay you back for bringing them on this earth!
Generalyzer
You are right guys already we have lost the point this issue was raised instead its turned to ine ninemwine we are all somebodies in our own right. Just by the number of insults flyinh back and fouth the poor woman is thinking “woo am cool i think i can leave with this these people have more issues than i do get it” I for one would like to go back to Zed but until i get myself sorted as to what awaits me i am not ready HOME is HOME no matter what but we decide to saty abroad for different reasons
Forget the hardship, just part of life. The baby will grow and become your very good friend. You will always want her/him to be around
If you are really in UK you should apply for benefits. But then again, maybe you are an ilegal! Stop moaning, get an early morning cleaning job, apply for work at McDonalds, sweep floors in the care homes or whatever you can get your hands to do but please stop winging. This is England my friend. Get used to it.
it amainzing how some zambians have shalow knowledge abraod.4 some its complex problems while some its purely lack of infor.most of those house in chadleigh,olympia, woodlands, chalala name it are actually got by money from here.its stupid to think everyone has low jobs but even then they are well paid.i worked for one of the best companies in Z was well paid but cant compare to what i have achieved here in just 4 yrsim 29 but what i have done back home some of you are in the 40 and will never get.pipo come here make money and invest back home well even if i stayed abroad i dont loose beacuse i pay tax and will not regret as the medical,welfare,education system will never be compared to Z.
in bemba they say umwanashenda atashanyina ukunaya.some of you think what you have seen is the best in zed coz thats all you know.zedians some are lazy,like easy get thats why they come up with excuses but most of those that pipa utukote earn well,pa zed if you see someone excell miscelenoius just know aluma pa job very few are excelling genuinly if you get a job kano nibayama.here you are paid according to yo input.and if you work better you enjoymore.so plz stop this nonse of ukupipa utukote and mc donalds.some of you live of yo family that are here working at mc D.iv worked in Z good job and i have worked here and im able to evaluate what workes best for me.mwilaponta test and see.
Kombwe my sister. Why do ministers send their children to school in the UK? I know where I would rather be.
this is true.a friends sis married a brit after a while she died in a car crash the brit thought of how best he could help her family and keep touch due to kids invloved,he took her bro got him a job in uk.he was smart,begarn to build in zed but his pa chewed the money there was no house after 4 yrs his far talked him to come home and showered him with oportunities in Z,and because of the trust he left to do bussiness in zed.the house he thot hez building in a high cost was actually in a low cost area and only 3 rooms were erected no rufing,no zesco,he used all his savings to make the house habitable and now brok,nohelp nowhere to start from.carefull with these advisers who have no clue
children are a gift from God and what ever situation u find yourself in never display children as is the case face ur problem on your own u never know what the displayed child will be,i hope the child will forgive u
There’s an Israeli woman in Tel aviv who runs a nusery school in her apartment for african toddlers as young as 6 months to 5 years, all are children of african cheap labour for Israeli households. The lady brews marijuana tea for the children in the morning and they sleep the whole day till its time for their parents to collect them.
Sadly the parents has no idea that the nusery school drugs their babies. I WOULD NEVER TRUST ANOTHER PERSON TO LOOK AFTER MY BABY NOT EVEN A NUN!
#58 iliko bad iyo shalim, its not easy to have kids in these countries its costly and often very tiring as you have to jugle between work and kids but issue is the same maried or not. Nalema,many times you see how happy parents are with their beautiful kids no one tells you what a hard job it is to raise them,you discover when you are in it.but iyo ya juvi ili serious.and now will resort to aupairs yaba. when they are alittle older they are even more beter as they develop independence and play with friends its harsh when they are still small but hang in their very soon u will look back and love every bit of it
#53 and 54 ba uze ba nvesese. Zambians in zed don’t know better they have never travelled. It’s funny how bank managers run from zambia to come pipa utukonte . They think we left zambia and are not contributing when in fact the zambians abroad are the ones sending in more money that the whole nation pays tax. When they see the chinese doing well while they suffer they celebrate ati development, when a zambian buys 2 homes at a time in suburbs they laugh ati apipa tunkonte. Mwana money where from tu nkote or eslewhere will still get me the same luxuries.
Take full responsibility of your actions,it´s called Life.
Zedians must learn to love and respect one another, we are our biggest enemies, i have never come across a Zambian cleaning floors in europe, am always proud of Zambians overseas because most of them are educated with good jobs or studying at universities. We dont have Zambians who arrive by boats on the shores of Spain without legal papers to stay in europe. Unlike those people that enter other countries illegally and ends up doing dirty jobs, Zambians are proud people. Why would anyone in their right mind choose cleaning jobs if they are Dr. Nurses, Lawyers.. etc
#62 walasa bigge
Jah seh let the aged be protected and the infants be strong. If you neglect de children, you dis Jah commandment and you nuh go escape jugement! Jah will find a way to raise de youths dem until dem strong and when you become old and weak, you go need de strength of de same youths you neglected, seen?
Yes #62 you have said the truth, Zambian that came to U.K are normally very well prepared and came here for a purpose, either work or Education.Zambia is too far from U.K about 10,000 km and you can not manage to came by boat,like what the other african guys do.I do not see anything wrong with working for Mc Donald, I for one have finished my ACCA, while working for Mc Donald and i have even pushed for a highly skilled imigrant Visa,so Zed please,if you do not have focus,please keep quite.
#65 true what u’re saying! there is such a thing as minimum wage and a lot of people survive on them atleast in the US and Canada not sure if its the same in europe.
I just wonder why its such a big deal in Zambia what kind of a job one has. Ofcourse we all want the best of jobs available but for starters it doesnt hurt. Thats why students work and are able to pay for their own school
#26,27 and others:It all about mindset ladies and gentlemen. If you are loser in zambia, you will be a loser where ever you go even if its Atlanta. With right mindset you can succeed where ever you are- even in a bad economy – your geographical location matters less.
First and foremost life is what you want it to be,Children are a gift from God and are a source of Joy for any sane parent regardless of their status rich or poor,with problems or not.
Please be strong upgrade yourself and work hard,you are not the only single mother out there?You do not need a man to complete you talk to your God,have a pure heart and be focused on your child.
Please let us build each other the measure we use to judge others is the same measure God will use.
God loves all equally despite everything.
Surely, no matter how much money is invovled, I cannot leave my beatiful sunny country with plenty of flesh clean air at any cost just to go and PIPA UTUSUNGU UTUKONTE like most of you in diaspora do, over my dead body!
is that an ape?
MWANDI MWANA WANGA, JUST SEND THAT BABY ON THE PLANE TO ZAMBIA AND I SHALL BE WAITING FOR IT.
I CAN IMAGINE THE BLUES YOU ARE GOING THROUGH, YOU ARE NOT THE FIRST ONE; ACCEPT A BABY AND LEARN TO ADJUST TO THE NEW SITUATION .BUT REALLY BABIES ARE SWEET AND NICE
I CAN MOTHER IT HERE IN ZAMBIA AT A FEE OF COURSE!
OSALEMA MY DEAR, THERE IS SO MUCH DESPRATION IN YOU.
USHE TAWAKWATA ABAFAYSHI OR ELSE YOU HAVE KEPT THIS BABY A SECRET ?
DON’T CONTEMPLATE ABANDONING IT; IT LOOKS SO CUTE
Dear Nalema, your complaints are tantamount to the proverbial man who complained that he had no shoes and he was shown a man who had no legs…before you complain, think of the many women who are not able to have children but would like to…think of those that would do anything to be bothered by child they can call their own…always consider children a gift from God and thank God that you have such a beautiful baby. Ask God to guide you and you will find a way to look after the baby until it grows into a responsible citizen.
Its simple really…… you are a single mum am a single Dad so bwela tusunge banjya!!!!
Guys Life is not a straight line.Remember you dont own your life even if you leave in Europe or in Zed.What is important is to know were you need to be and get your bread buttered.I for one have leaved outside Zed and i saw how my fellow country men suffer and i also saw how some are living well.Just like here in Zed others are really suffering inspite of there education and others are making it as well.The bottom line is Europe cant be compared to Zed,but the truth is if you play your cards right you can surely make it in Zed.Why do you have to insult yourselves -Remember we are Zedians dont be childish.Peace
Pa bulaya pa sumasana bane. When u get ur Acca or other qualifications and apply for Highly skilled migrant VISA. For me i don’t regret because i have done more than i could have done while pa Zed.I have been exposed to a lot of things in terms of worw experience and other issue that i would bring pe Zed. So Chill guys!! Get a chance of coming here, u will not even want to look back!!
Sorry i mearnt work experience
Number 62!! I conquer with u. We have never accountant!!! who are doing really well. Am quite impressed with Zeds pa UK.
EVER ACCOUNTANTS
Ba MWIKA.ZM ahhh stop cheating yourself, upgrading yes but saying that you don’t need men bufi! God said its NOT GOOD for a man to be alone, so noti ukulaba ati we are many looking for potential women.
anonymous uzilemeze uleke kukamba so ati monge chani. uzilemekeze!!!
GOD WILL MAKE A WAY MY DEAR.HE CERTAINLY WILL TRUST HIM.ACCEPT YOUR MISTAKE.THANK GOD YOU HAVE A CHILD:SOME PEOPLE JUST CANT HAVE CHILDREN.YOU ARE BLESSED.THE CIRCUMSTANCES MIGHT NOT BE RIGHT BUT I CAN ASSURE YOU ITS A PHASE THAT WILL PASS AWAY.
78/79 walasa…Zeds back home are fond of making themselve feel better by saying all Zeds abroad suffer. Clearly, it’s hard when you just come loaded or not……but we are all successful, even those that take 5years to wake up and smell the coffee do succeed in the end! Viva Zambians and nalem…the best is yet to come!
Sweet things don’t come that easy!! So Nalema yr baby will soon grow and it will come to pass. She will get the best education here and so please move and never be discouraged. U r not the only there quite money. Look around u will find some old ladies who will look after ur baby at a more reasonable rate. Be a fighter , never given up!!!!!! Viva Nalema !! U can make it , even if u r alone. U can even take yr baby back home to yr parents until she reaches the age of entry into nursery school. Forget about the shootisttttt!! U will never succeed if u listen to them. They will be happy to see u go back on and suffer .My dear life pa Zed yalikosa if u have no job. At least in Europe u can turn
left and right and get a small thing to keep u running.
That is why PLANNING for a family is so important. This is NO EASY task that you dive in where there is no water and you are not well dressed for that dive. If you plan well, even though it may be expensive to raise a child kumangalande and really a hardcore task, it is worth every effort and sacrifice.
You probably now appreciate your parents more when you begin to raise children of your own where at home or abroad. It is about sacrifice, it is about love, it is about planning in advance and counting the cost.
Don’t worry, mwana, your kids will grow up and when you look back, it will a bitter-sweet story. HANG IN THERE!!!
One thing you will appreciate is that, ngamwafunda umwana when he/she is still young, you will reap excellent benefits. Nevertheless, never too late. Your son should not fail you, DON’T GIVE UP, take courage, continue to speak with him, discuss the options and let him know, it is either he shapes up or ships out to Zambia.
The kids we are raising abroad tend to fail us because we discard our culture and allow foreign cultures to intrude into ours. It is appalling to meet some families and see how their children are raised — chansoni mwandini.
MY DEAR DON’T GIVE UP — IF YOU THROW HIM OUT, IT DOES NOT HELP MATTERS, IT WORSENS THEM. IT IS YOUR RESPONSIBILITY AS A PARENT.
You may also want to involve your family members for help, even pa phone, guidance and discipline can be given. Seriously you need to take action — take the bull by the horns, take charge. Be firm and take your stand. Tell him you need to start seeing improvements in his school, overall behavior otherwise, kuyabebele. But even you send him back, you are just putting your relatives or parents in problems handling that already delinquent child.
BOTTOM LINE, HE NEEDS TO SHAPE UP OR SHIP OUT. I WOULD BE SENDING HIM BACK HOME FOR 6 MONTHS TO 1 YEAR TO LEARN SOME LESSONS…….
YOU ARE THE PARENT AND THE DECISION YOU TAKE WILL HELP YOU OR HAUNT YOU IN THE LONG RUN. SEEK PROF. HELP.
I look at son and daugther when they are sleeping and say,man,I love these kids.
Even if they are not doing anything to help me out,I love these kid to pieces.
If you complain about the whole experience of parenting being a burden,I dont see you enjoying the whole experience at all.
I’m sure when the creator looks at me,He says”thats my son” and he sings over me so I would like to look at your child from the creators perspective.
Look at you child as a blessing not a burden and that will change your life
Ba #9 what do you mean by baby with “big mouth”? I surely would want to see your offsprings if at all you capable of producing? the baby in the pic is cute, man!!
can someone tell me of any new tall buildings in zed . pa zed ya li kosa you need to know somebody to succeed in anything so leave yo friends abroad you need brains to succeed outside zed use yo head all the times
please just look after your baby it is very hard i am married with 3 kids still it is hard looking after kids in england but i am so proud of my babys come winter/summer i still look after my kids and working /going to school at the same time .life here is hard but it is the difference we make especially some of us we come from poor families ku zed.I have a good job and too many dependants here and zed so whatever you look at life it is never easy
Guys I think some of you should wake up and smell the coffee. You can make it in Zambia. Most of my former UNZANDO BBA and BACC classmates are highflying executives right here in Zambia. Others are wealthy entrepeneurs here in Zambia. Peseverence, Planning and productivity are the key. I amproud I made it here in ZED. I own a small company. Have five employees. Employ 4 graduates. They all drive. I can afford an annual holiday for the last 4 years. This year I went to Seychelles. Last year it was Sun City. My best friend has grown a small company started at Engineers at Farmer’s House into a company turning over $200,000 a month with 22 employees. He declared $400,000 in dividends.
mY dear dont be depressed with some of the heartless people.A child is a gift from God and he will surely provide a way for you make the right decisions now.
I ve been through it too and not so long ago.. less than 4 yrs back. my son is now 3years and 8 months.In london all was ok until i was 6 months my ex didnt want anything 2 do with & my pregnancy and he thought i shld have an abortion at 6 months…the answer NO drove him away from me.i was alone so i had to think seriouly. i had all sorts of different advice from different people. end of the day i was the one going through a rough patch so i had to make my decission correctly for 2 people….my son and i.i went back to lusaka.
cont…. had my baby. 2 years later i meant a man who my son knows as his daddy because his real father has forever denied to do any thing for him. my husbsnd now loves my son so much and we are very happy we also looking after my sister`s daughter too and live in india because of his job.
my sister dont make ur decision based on my story… all i m saying think wisely for you and the little one.
God bless you
u pipo r jus wastin time arguin over nothin. if u want 2 stay in the uk go ahead but dnt make it sound like its heaven on earth.
The picture of the above baby looks like our second Rep President FTJ Chiluba kubwaice! can someone agree with me!!!