Dear LT bloggers,
I have been going out with a Jehovahs Witness for the past three years.Everything has been okey till I started talking about marriage about a year ago. In the first instances she came up with all sorts of reasons that never made sense to me. After pushing her a little harder, she finally said her family would never allow her to marry a
non Jehovahs Witness. I help her and the family quite a lot.
Right now am trying to move on with life but she can’t let go. I have refused to become a Jehovahs Witness. She can’t commit to me and yet she wants to keep enjoying my fruits.
Does she love me or does she just want to use me?
Yours
Nasokonezeka
In my opinion i would say she doesnt love you.She is only after the good things you shower on her.She is killing some time by being with but as soon as she finds someone else she will dump you.Open your eyes and sort out your issues.
Run my brother …. please don’t move on with you life, run with your life and forget about her. You are delaying yourself to be a blessing to a very good open and understanding woman out there. Don’t be wo sokonezeka over such things, grow up!
what would be so bad is you converted to being a jehovahs witness? you refusing to convert is a reason enough for her to think you dont love her, find a neutral ground. i think you both being childish.
What do you mean she is using you? Many a time women accuse us men of using them. But here is a woman using you, what else do you want? Marriage, oh no..You go on to say she is enjoying your fruit(s). Is this the unforbidden fruit, you lucky bast#&d……..
which church do you go to your self?Do you believe in God?Is Jesus your saviour?All I can say is if you are a christian watch and pray.There is a good woman who will understand you and agree to marry you.You shouls also consider that the two of you have to have an understanding and compromise a few things simply because there is love!
Please dump her now.she does not love u all she is interested in is your money.lam married to a jehovah witness but l didnt experience such a thing when l proposed marriage.
My brother if you fell to compromise on such issues before you even marry. What is going to happen if you are together and you have a big problem which requires both of you to compromise.
Nasokonezeka, if the girl loves you, she has to marry you. Not being awkward here, but what has this Witness thing got to do with the love you two share? Sorry but the same people who brought this crap started marrying from other groups a long time ago.
I work with a young girl who is a Witness and yet she is married to a Moslem. What annoys me is they have moved on and yet we are still clinging on to what they brought no BWATO ages ago.
Ask abakalamba to go and sit down with these Witnesses, if they say no, and, the girl doesn`t marry you, tough, you have to move on mate.
Sorry ba Witness fyakale! Love has no boundaries. No not any more! Unless the girl just doesn`t love you.
But why is she sticking to you if she cant marry you coz you are non Jehohah wit and at the same time she cant let you go? its money bro!! AND Do you still love her if not for the sake of your happiness dump her bro am I available for you no strings attached!!
my brother,if you still love her pretend to be a witness now then marry her,give her 2 kids and the go back to be a non-witness then she wont run away thats what the USA does.
#3 it looks like you read the story but did not understand. If you say that there is nothing wrong with being a Jehovah’s witness, then what is so wrong about a jehovah’s witness marrying one who is not? I agrre with you when you say that both should find neutral ground. No one should force the other if they trully love each each…
For you Nasokonezeka, you can’t say you are getting confused because of a woman who is not even your wife. I would advise to run away from that woman before its too late for you otherwise you will cry for the rest of your life because this will leave a mark in your life.
I think this an hypothetical case we are dealing with. That girl in the this hypothetical case would not be a genuine witness! A genuine witnesss girl would not have dated you in the first place let alone enjoy the your fruits that you reffer to! Jehovah’s witnesses are consenscience followers of what the bible says. In other words they do not compromise ofn the bibles principles for reasons of expedience! here I rest my case your honours.
sorry my brother,guess you have to move on!! and please ask her to let go of you,so she doesnt waste yours and her time.Let her find a jehovas witness dude and you find yourself someone who’s willing to marry you.
She should know what she wants.
Its not true that love has no boundaries (#8) because in most cases, if not always, you choose who you love. To argue on a neutral ground I would say its only fitting that those in love and considering marriage look into the issue of religion because it matters. It can bring close to each other or it can destabilize your relationship. Before you even find a life mate, you should have in mind what you want in a mate.
If the intent of this this hypothetical case was to find out why genuine Jehovah’s Witnesses do not marry none witnesses then it has been poorly cast – rather you should have made a case scenerio of where a witness girl did not marry a non witness and this could have provided annopportunity for an engaging, gunine and diginified spiritual discussion based on the scriptures from bible from all spuiritually minded persons. This oppoortunity has been lost by your misrepresentation of the case hypothetical case!
yaba! kachitawala
Please pipo..the fact that this girl doesn’t wnat to atlk about marriage is that she is not willing to settle down jus yet. normally its girls that would force guys to marry them. now, i think these two were not talking real issues because issues of religion were supposed to come in. they both were aware of each other’s faith (Chitawala and Non-Chitawala). they should have discused as what will happen if they intended to be serious with each other.Lets not forget the compromises . its clear this girl is not ready to do that. she is clear she wants to break up with my bro…move on!!!!!!!!!!!!!1
#14. Before you get to even think about marrying some one, you will have known them for sometime and probably knew they were either moslem, a Witness and some other religion. If two people love each other, nothing will stop them being together. We are there as parents and all we can do is either approve or not. I do not think 24 year od will be bothered about all these little things if they are really in love.
Like I said if the girl loves the chap, this religion thing gets thrown out of the window. We`ve seen it before.
#7,YOU ARE VERY RIGHT,THESE ISSUES ARE SUPPOSED TO BE HANDLED AND RESOLVED WHILST TWO PEOPLE ARE COURTING.IF NOT RESOLVED NOW,AND ONE DECIDED TO GO AHEAD AND MARRY,THAT MARRIAGE WOULD BE A LITTLE HELL ON EARTH.JEHOVAH’S WITNESS SECT ALSO ,BY THE WAY DO NOT ALLOW ONE TO VOTE NOR SING THE NATIONAL ANTHEM.
#16 aha. I like your screen name. Marry a Russian mate. You will be sorted. lol
Youngman,am sure when you got in contact,you shared some beliefs and it would be stupid of you thinking that the girl is just up to your wealth with the family.Even if they are poor,how do you think they survived before you meet the girl?stop being silly and grow.i know you have just failed to hit the mark that may be she has values and has refused to submit to your sexual demands.How long have you be in a relationship with the girl?which church do you go to yourself?
If you are a christian,the bible is clesr about marring in the Lord which also icludes marrying someone with the same faith and beliefs.
Dont just attach the girl and the family and make it look as if you have done wonders.
just by the way u’ve put yo question, i can tell that u know the answer and u know wat u have to do, but just don’t have the courage to admit it to yourself. this is not a girl u wana b with, her family continuously accepts yo help but don’t want u to marry her. how can a girl be with you for 3 years and then refuse to marry u now, didn’t she know in those years that u were not a witness.. anyway where i come from the girl usually follows the guy unles both agree otherwise. move on bro u r investing in de wrong place
#22 Exactly what I have been saying.
I think this is a very silly queeion and largely exposes your naivety in matters pertaining to relationships. To begin with, is this relationship consumated with conjagul intercourse as yet or you’re still just a walking stick? If it is then she does not think you’re man enough for her whence the excuse. If she does, dump he and curtail all manner of contact and you will see how rapid she will run to you forsaking her Church just like Levy did when Chiluba dangled the presidence in his face. Just be careful she does not kill you in the end like the presidency nailed Levy.
RUN !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! bro
Matters of faith are very important to iron out before you think of seetling down with your partner if you are a serious christian. Ba chitawala balyafya when it comes to such unless what they want. I will advice you not to join them but to move on with your life. Better find another one than joining a cult for the sake of a lady. Bachitawala nifyo fine. Ala muleke afwaye chitawala munankwe.
but this issue was supposed to be talked about before you even went this far, knowing that she was a witness u where supposed to ask her if she was for the idea of marrying u since you are not a witness. For witness its actually a serious thing for them for they believe so much in that they normall refer to a scriputre which saysdont be evenly yoked with unbelivers. too bad brother man
but this issue was supposed to be talked about before you even went this far, knowing that she was a witness u where supposed to ask her if she was for the idea of marrying u since you are not a witness. For witness its actually a serious thing for them for they believe so much in that they normall refer to a scriputre which saysdont be evenly yoked with unbelivers. too bad brother man i know you love this lady so much thus you being confused
my brother love is not about church or family members. its betwin 2 pipo family member agree too wat the 2 of u decide. just tell her to understand ur situation running away wil not solvin nthin. starting over is so hard. stay put.
why wasting your time with such women??? is she the only fish in the pond??? catch other fishes in the pond if the one you want keeps on eluding…these are problems that have just started…
open your eyes before you regret or learn an unforgeble lesson Brother…
some religions are just diffcult to deal with among them sda and jeovahs witness.am sure most of these bloggers think its that easy to join anther church,but different religious belifs have brought up break ups in marriages
priotise yourself
my brother let her continue with her belief if you find nothing touching to join her belief, then move on.
i tell you ma former landlord was an elder and devoted jehova’s witness you wont belive he was so stiff hearted and his wife was a pain in my throught. they forced every one under there shelter to follow their belief(maids,garden boys,farm helps including me)it was hell on earth.i went out on a saturday and found ma crib empty i thank God for those thieves coz that day marked my exit.That was just a landlord,imagine a wife.Ma friend tel her its over between u,then find another gal with a better christian belief that u can join. Above all believe in Jesus Christ
My dear brother that girl doesnt love u.as #8 has said,love has no boundaries!the issue of church is jst an escaping goat,period!
Bushe bachitawala baba shani?
Didn’t she and her family knew that u were not a j/witness in the first place?
#12- Unama!
Get in her pants & run for your life.If she aint having no Jehonah’s witness man in her life she too aint having non Jehovah’s witness dough.
Look here bro you can’t force a horse to drink water if she says she can’t marry you then let it be. Let her be with her faith
On the other hand you should have been a strong founded christian with valuable beliefs, she would have seen the Lord working in your life and found it fitting to join you.But am sure she thinks you are such an easy goer who can just be swayed in to the dust of the kingdom hall. my brother please i beg of you abee,listen to me thats fire you are playing with tell her u wont fall for her with their scarry belief.Believ in Jesus Christ he will make a way for you.
bro, dont waste time just fire and recruit there are many girls out there with qualities u are looking for. good luck in your new endeavours.
There goes the church and faith. Instead of uniting people, it is in the forefront dividing people. Don’t join her church, instead she should join you which I you do go to church.
Bachitawala nibovuta mwana. Just go through their checklist and you will make up your mind by the end of the day.
LT please let us discuss about factual matters, this guy is askign a question of which he has the answer to. Give us real life situations which are in a dilema
Bro, when God created Adam and Eve there was no reliogion so go ahead and win her.
my brother dont join bachitawala first of all, ah is in luv with u coz of the church or what? muleke iweee
Hey. Excuse. I have been bruised and felt very insecure with relationships. Infact I didn’t want to involve myself in a relationship. The lady in question pestered me that she had something to tell me. Then she unleashed what amounted to be the atomic bomb of Hiroshima and Nagasaki that she would be getting married to a miner in Chingola. By then I was doing my CABS course in Ndola. I was devasted….by the betrayal.
Now I think I need to put my house in order. Remember man cannot live alone. I need to move on. I am now working with a stable income. So the search is on. Could be….. 25 and above only please
Is this a true story before i make any comment pliz!!!!!!!
LT which flag is this? Shani ko ka Zed flag.
Babes she has no idea what she is missing. free advice leave her. Its a give and take situation in a relationship, its about choices. She is not in love with you but in love with trying to manipulate you and control you. Hell no that shouldnt work like that. If she is hell bent on getting married to a jewit, then she might as well find one in the church plain and simple other than toturing you. You deserve better. Stand your ground dont comit yourself to someone who wants to please her family. jewit or no jewit what matters is what is between the two of you and what goes on behind closed doors and not about where you guys will be congregating. She should grow up and face reality.
Yeah
dont even try to get in to har pants,
you dont serve God by force you really need to have the faith and conviction by the Holly Spirit for you to be believe int he things of God. Did you see/find anything in her that has given yo conviction to join her,sonow here is another view of the story,She has another Hank in the Church let her go.SHE ID=S NOT WORTH THE RISK. THOSE PIPO ARE PRETENDERS DONT JOIN THEM!
bro, just go the funeral house, the market place , the church, Hospital and shoprite. u will find the girl of your choice.
ka flag kapa zed atibwanji? tell us how you are getting it mwe bantu.
let her get married to her church…
Anonymous#12. You are right! I doubt if this girl is a true Jehovah’s Witness because if she were, the two wouldn’t have dated for this long period. 3 years is too long a time that they did not talk about these issues. If she loved him then, with her full knowledge that he’s not a Jehovah’s Witness and knowing that their philosophy does not allow outside marriage, why did she cage him for all this time? Even you bro, din’t you talk about marriage and how it would be handled religiously b4 reaching this extent? It’s true Jehovah’s Witnesses’ teachings prohibits followers from marrying an outsider (non-believer) and a believer is one that shares their common beliefs to avoid future differences
Its a lesson to you men who think you know your partners. 3 years is alongtime for you to have known her and her wishes before proposing.JW’s are very complicated pple. I have a brother who converted JW because of his wife and her family . I guess its a take or leave it.
#48- how can i get in touch with you? sounds good! hahaha
ba witness they have good girs that man needed sex. nowayman busha amano tawakwata.
go real
Baby C Eish! So desperate ah?
I am glad that you and many others like you including me, have come to know the reality about our fellow christians (Witness). They will not allow you or me especially if you are Catholic like I am. It’s had to easily move on but you’ve got.
Mune ninshi asendela cash yobe?coz yo cash is not a witness.
Bro pa zedi bengi go on.
the story is just too short. when you seek advise lay all your cards on the table. who knows perhaps you wanted to taste the cherry before the d day. how can she tell you that. you guys are just trying to tease each other. by the way arent you both praying to the same God. the advise i can give to both of you is that you need to grow up and see life beyond your narrow interests. you can still be a couple even under different congregations.
You are posting comments too quickly. Slow down.
I LOVE THAT WOMAN SHE IS GOOOD
So in a nutshell, both of you are debating on who has a better imaginary friend? Come off it, God is God. Move on my friend … there are other women one out there who’ll take you with open arms and legs.
Bless.
Unakapasa GUD sex!.Or ulina na GUD money!.
#59 I am in Lusaka. Watcha your location?
The Problem with jehovo’s witnessess is that they are very selfish people. They want other pipo to follow their rules but will never follow other pipo’s rules e.g (1)they will always want u to read their books but will never read other scripture books from other churches. (2) if they marry someone from another church they will first ask u to join their church but will never leave theirs to join yours (3) they will want to preach to you but will not agree u to preach to so who do they think they are. Jesus was not a selfish person he embraced all the taxcollectors, lame, prostitutes etc so on whose teaching are they baseing their christianity. if anything i find them to be very stubborn.
Leave the birch,
You can wait for a miracle to happen…She can convert later!
SHE DOESNT LOVE YOU AT ALL.JUST LEAVE HER AND MOVE ON BRO!
please, please, please dump that lady before she dumps you. wake up she is just using you, she is a gold digger
she might be failing to move on due to pressure from her parents.which one of u blog members is married without your parents consent? i bet u are finding it very difficult to enjoy your marriage.so instead of heaping insults on her look at the situation fom a different perspective.mwandi hold on a bit.
she is just using you. she shouldnt have accepted dating you the moment she discovered you are not jehova’s witness.
#48 AM IN LUSAKA TOO
My dearest brother, Run like someone said. It doesnt matter whether you are JW or not, if she truely loves you, she will marry you!! She isnt displaying that right now. So Run bro, run.
I can be reached at [email protected]. Cheers!!
Mudala you have already realised there’s nothing for you, you even know she is using you, stop wasting your time and move on unless you tell us there’s something else you want or you hoping she would change and accept you one day. After refusing, even if she came back I wouldn’t take her back. Brother man, this enough trouble already, she has tortured you enough, it will only be worse for you.
ba “lonely” we hope you also not Jehovas Wtness…..Ha!!
she’s a you lady,she loves RB
pregnant her..then..she is going to be on your doorsteps….
Excuse me for changing the topic but guys i just cant help to say this…I am sure some of you have not heard but Mama Vera (our former first lady is getting married to the current President of Malawi…Mbingu! I dont know about you but i am happy. serves ka Fupi right…he thought he was the only one who had market. I hate that regina. she is such a shameless woman. Mama Vera I am happy for you.
#84 you are right give her to rb
slaughter her and run…… Dont forget to get HIV …very important!!
85 I have heard of this rumour i hope it is true i have always loved vera even when she was in state house she had no airs serves kafupi right.
Put your foot down, its your way or the highway. No two ways about it
Do you love her yourself???? If you do love her, you would have followed her to become a Jehovah’s witness. I think she loves you, thats why she may be holding on to you, hoping that one day you may change your mind and follow her. She could be what she is now because of her being a Jehovah’s witness and that could be the main reason you stick to her, because you have found something good into her.
ba Lonely can u plse disclose whether you are Jehovas Wi for the record, before someone falls in luv with u.
#48 what do you do for living?
#48, buxed or not, u’r still the same uptight, temperamental, boring freak that made a lass run for miner to rescue herself.
game has ened zed 1 togo 0
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Like everyone has said, its important to sort out such issues before marriage. Infact you should look at it before you even get serious with one another. Because certain churches are just better avoided from the very beginning. Pantu ba chitawala naba chimpempe balishupa.
#91 Ain’t a Jehovah’s Witness
#92 Working as Accounts Assitant in Lusaka
#93 Ain’t ready to answer overzealous and out of context writers. Don’t even know u. Better keep your badly tasted comments to your good slef.
#97 what about age and any children?
#98 no children. About 30
Ba #97 send a picture thru…..u a bit intresting Ha!
My dear love has no barriers. If that lady is serious she would have advised you positively. As it is now, just look else where for TRUE LOVE.
#100 i PASS
#98 I meant i have no kids and about 30
#102 assisntant accountant or accounts assistant?
Accounts Assistant
pipo, why all these questions?
Wait for the rit person God will give you pray about it it shall surelly come.
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# 107 Thanx.
#16 GRZ student I have some good news for you. Actually everything has already been done in Zambia but the delays are coming from Moscow. I have certain information about the crooked operations at the embassy in Moscow. It is my intention to release this information tommorow. I am going to expose their dealings in my blog tommorow. Watch the space.
#107 Amen to that
just make her pregnant. If she takes contraceptives , switch them or tell her you are on contraceptives.
Ba alonso I hope u find your true love.
Bushe walyako imiku inga? Go in live! Live is wonderful.
religion should not be a barrier. Leka uku lyako waishya munkongole yaMA. Abasuma bengi man.
#48.Lonely soul? iam also lonely. What do you think?
Based on the info you surrendered,you are not true to yourself man!Info limited hence you make bloggers speculate many a time. Just go and find you kind.She ain’t! Leave her.Ichishimba do not look back.Just go go go!
Just Shakafuswa, Pule or RB her. You mean you don’t know these things.
The comment that the girl is not a “true” Witness is right; and that is from the perspective of a Witness. I wasn’t strong about where I stood at the time I married an non-believer, and your girlfriend certainly sounds the same way. What she is probably suffering is a torment of conscience; that she has been dating you for 3 years says that she’s not serious about her faith; however, that she can’t commit to you doesn’t mean no love exists. She is facing an internal dilemma. But consider for yourself: A happy marriage requires shared goals; if she ever fully returns to her faith, her goals will be different; and I recommend strongly against “faking”-you would be miserable. so would she.
Leave her now before it’s too late.
I was born and raised as JW. JW wives get their identity from their husbands. If they are an “elder’s wife”, they are looked up to more than if they are a “unequally yoked.” She could end up resenting you or constantly trying to convert you so that she can be looked up to by the JW community. She will always feel superior to you and feel like she wants you to change. Marriages rarely work when one feels superior to the other or if one tries to change the other.
I know this because I was married to a non-JW while I was a JW. It ruined our marriage. Now that I’m out and a mainstream Christian, my marriage is much more healthy!
Love conqures all. There is no love stop living in denial and move on.
How yu fi ask a next man weh fi do wid yu own gal? Go ask yu granny, tcho! A foolish bwoy dat.
#120….good and practical advice.
If you could assist your lady friend to understand that the international headquarters which directs Jehovah’s Witness is a ‘nanny’ administration, her heart would doubtless draw nearer to yours. Jehovah’s Witnesses do not understand that decisions are made for them by their ‘nanny administration’ of which they are totally unaware. Decisions which firm believers need to make individually according to their personal faith are kept from them and made on their behalf, unknown to them. Specifically,for example, The B.C. Society Act, a statement of B.C. Government law concerning charitable organizations which includes churches and Kingdom Hall congregations is kept secret from members.
The B.C. Society Act, Schedule B, has very specific requirements for charitable organization memberships which the ‘nanny’ administration in Brooklyn New York does not want members to become aware of. It is “Caesar’s” law and they are disobeying it in ignorance, because their ‘nanny’ has chosen to keep them like mushrooms in the dark and to feed them only what it wants them to consume, devoid of their own personal choice according to their own faith. Anyone who would like more details is welcome to write me: [email protected]
WOW! Look at all the help you’ve gotten! I’m really impressed with your countrymen for that. (I’ve never been to your country, but from what I’ve seen her I am very impressed with her people.)
As one raised in what Jehovah’s Witnesses call “the truth” I can tell you that there are only three reasons a Jehovah’s Witness would spend time with you–a non believer. To convert you; to use your resources, and as a ‘ticket’ out of this high-control religion. In the USA where they are headquartered JW’s are only 1:300 Americans, but they represent nearly 1:2 child-custody case in appeals court. If you want a good marriage and happy family, this is NO way to start it.
124 and 125 this is very good advise i am sure the ball is in the young man`s hands.
We all know that ba chitawala niba problem but even u, there is nothing for free she is giving some you don’t want to take care of her needs? Just support her so that she will support u back
#115 Where are u at? I think we can end the ‘lonely syndrome.’
Ufwile walilowa mambala iwe………….She cannot let go ka??? Akumupela fruit iyoyine palya ulefwaya kambi boyi.
# 115 I feel u. We are in the same boat. We can certainly do something about this coz thats the normal thing to do.
Ba lonely twaliumfwana bwino Yesterday lelo mwaya kuli baJLu?
#132 I cant answer to things I dont know especially to an apparent pathological lier
Let her go, she is selfish!
yabapo, yenda! let her be.
Who the hell is this lonely. this is not a dating site. There so are many on the internet.you are being unproductive. Spending the whole day writing useless comments?.If i were your employer i could have fired you right away.Go back to work! Shaaaa!
i had vera but i think it is painful to see here going away
# 136 Lets not forget that we human being and we need to give each other a helping hand. I would actually fire you as well if i were your boss by reading and contributing to on this site.coz you are stealing company time you know? But i cant do that. you know why and also stealing company time just everyone reading my comment.(yes its cool laugh) But am right tho.
My brother and countryman please if she LOVED you she would followed you where you worship i mean we worship one GOD and hence let her come if NOT let GO AWAY from you and FIND someone else. ITS possible to LOVE again after a BROKEN relationship u KNOW?
ONE LOVE AND FOR LOOVE WE LIVE
#136 you heartless Mia.
#136 Where your heart is supposed to be there is proper chilli and where your brains are supposed to be you have a cauliflower(s.p). Man get some sense in your head!!111
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#141 Chishimba u are nuts!!!! Ahhhhhh!!!!!!!!
I have been in that position before. Let her know that you are a man. If she loves you, then she should let go off you so that she remains committed to her family. Things will never work out as long as you have different faiths
YOU SAID HER PARENTS KNOW YOU, YOU HELP THEM NO MATTER IN WHAT WAYS. DONT YOU THINK THE GIRL DOES NOT LOVE YOU, SHE AND HER FAMILY ARE AFTER YOUR MONEY.THEY VERY WELL KNOW THAT YOU ARE NOT A WITNESS.THAT GIRL HAS A LOT OF MEN, TO HELP HER FAMILY.MY DEAR THIS THE TIME TO LEAVE THAT GIRL BE CAREFUL GIVE IT A QUIT THIS EVENING BEFORE SHE ENCLOSES YOU IN A BOTTLE THAT WILL BE YOUR END YOU WILL BE WORKING FOR HIS FAMILY THE WHOLE OF YOUR LIFE.DONT WASTE TIME. A CHEWA PROVERB SAYS ( ZENGELEZU ZENGELEZU ANALINDA KWAU KWAU )
OUT OF TOPIC,SOME ADVICE GUYS.AM A LADY 33 YEARS ONCE IN LOVE WITH A ZAMB GUY AND I LEFT THE COUNTRY YRS AGO AND THINGS NEVER WRKED OUT WITH MY ZAMB GUY COZ OF DISTANCE ACCORDING TO HIM AM STILL SINGLE NO CHILD BUT WORRIED OF MY AGE IF I WILL MEET A GUY WHO WILL BE READY TO MARRY ME AM NOT DATING ANYONE AS ITS NOT EASY TO FIND A MAN IN THE FOREIGN LAND.
A QUZ TO U GUYS ,WHT DO U THINK OF A LADY OF MY AGE NOT MARRIED WHN U GET TO KNOW THE AGE.AM NOT A PROSTITUTE AS ONE MIGHT SAY,I HAVE A JOB ,AM BEAUTIFUL AS MOST SAY AND DECENT.GUYS RESPOND IF U WAN INSULT DO SO BUT THOSE WITH HONEST AND POLITE ANSWER DO SO COZ I HAVE NO GUY THT I CAN ASK THIS QUZ.
Jehovah’s Witnesses do not stop any one to marry a non Jehovah’s Witness but they encourage to marry in the organisation but if you feel you can marry a non Jehovah’s Witness again the encourage that your marriage is legal not just to be leaving with an opposit sex without having proper marriage certificates. So getting married to a Non Jehovah’s Witness is a personal decision. Not even parents can decide for their children. They are so many of us who are married to non Jehovah’s Witness but because of our good conduct in our marriages and respect we have for our husbands we have made them respect us and they are studying the Bible to be come Jehovah’s Witnesses. She does not lve u tht muc
JW’s hav double standards. they can be nice to you even when they do not like you. I was once there before. I fell in love with a JW and i was willing to become a witness because he was my everything but his parents refused because I am catholic. So I told them i would become a witness but they could not hear it. In the end i got very hurt becuase i believed he loved me and he would fight for our love. So my advice to you my bro is what your girl is saying is what my guy said to me. Run before its too late. you will get badly hurt. JW’s believe thier church is the only true church. she will not go neutral with you on the choice of church. Her commitment to her church and family wont let her
# 145 Chama Says. Iam a Zambia and based in Zambia. Am intrested. give me your email address and we can chat. Iam waiting!
#145. Beware!
I married a JW, her father was an elder and had to strp down because of the shame it brought, i was not a jw. I eventually became one, but as my wife(now former wife) decided to divorce upon unscriptural grounds according to JWs, therefore i am no longer one either, my advice is don’t go near this hypocrytical religion and see if she can see how ridiculous this all is, she will always put Jehovah and the society before you, if you can’t get her to see that then i’m afraid it is time for you to evaluate the situation and decide whether it is worth continuing.
#145 U are very honest and should not be crucified for that. I too Iam single and looking for a lady of my life. Let’s see whether we can come up with something.
Thx guys atleast i know tht thre single guys out thre .Its not a dating site and very hard to give out my details to anyone but i will keep on trusting in God tht i mighty meet one of u guys whn i vist zamb or here in south africa .For those who re still looking dont just search in all direction coz u mighty and up in the valley ,dont be pushed by age jst wait upon our God.
For my bro let the holy spirit direct u as the blessings of the lord adds no sorrow so if the lady is yours u wont fight for it.
#152 THAT IS GOOD ITS TRUE God will give you the right person at the right time. trust his word
LONELY…I, DR. Kubwela Kumanda will date you for a small fee.
Kind sir with the problem, come and see me at my shop, stand number 29, Soweto market and i can solve all your problems…and then some!
GOD is the only answer to all problems and its free of charge and not anywhere in soweto market
Jehovah Jireh is the provider of everything. Let us not be cheated and trust GOD. Remember everything that comes from the LORD is pure and full of love. GOD bless you and keep praying
NO Mrs Howard, if you want, you can come and see me too! I was offering my services for free, being the kind soul that i am!
Dear Nasokonezeka,
In God’s plan nothing can stand in your way. The fact that you have told her your intentions then pray about it and God will see you through. The only problem we have as Young peolpe is that we want to find our own life time partner without asking God first. Maybe it might be that it is only a learning process but God will always be with you as long as you ask him to choose a wife for you. Keep on pray for her and her family that he may reveal to you the right partner. Dont lose hope. God bless you.
I am begging you! Don’t convert to becoming a JW! They are a cult! You will find many more girls out there that will truly love you. Go get one!
Ask me I will tell you. You still love this girl and that’s why you are seeking advise. People here will tell you to ditch her but you will be alone at night missing her all night long and all these bloggers will be with their lovely partners most of which are even worse than your JW gal friend. SOLUTION: Stand your ground, you are the man of the relationship. She’s been three years with you for one reason, she cant do without you. Tell her that you becoming a JW is impossible and not up for discussion. She will accept that with time. Thats how I sorted out my JW gal friend. She has accepted it. But they will always try to convert you, just take a firm (no nonses) approach.
My friend the other thing you can do is to follow the desire of your heart and then face the consequences there after. The christian way of doing things is not by force but by persuation and convincing others by good deeds. Pray about and God will give you the best. It might be not the one or the same girl but God wants you to learn something. Be prayful and patient enough to wait upon the lord give you a loving wife.
Be real otherwise you will regret in marriage. You are both not ready for marriage. Do not marry just because of the feelings
I would like to Educate you guys that Marraige is not something easy as it looks to be. Know it from today onwards thats it is actually a Sacred Institution.
Therefore, before a man and a woman enter into a wedlock, they should first get acuainted to each other. In so doing, you will enjoy your marraige and the marriage will be of value to both the man and the woman.
just forget her and go on with you life
It seems to me that the JW ladyfriend may be desparate to get out of the Organization, which is why she is clinging to the boyfriend as her only contact with the normal world. She knows that to marry outside the Organization will mean her disfellowshipment and being cut off from her family and any JW friends she has. I would be very open with her and ask her if she is looking for a way out of the Organization. It’s a very major step with serious consequences for her. Find her thoughts on that question. There is plenty of help on the internet for those who are desparately seeking to get out. Convince her that there is a life outside the Organization.
just let go and commit everything in the hands of GOD there are so many women GOD fearing and are not married nor dating.pray to GOD and you gona find your own limb.what is meant for you will owez come back to you and you will never struggle over it.
fellow your own heart, not the thoughts of others. you know whats right or not. listen to what you feel is right and go with that.
move on ma bro….leave her, u will find pipo lyk me to marry, by the way, which church do u go to.
Young man pretend to be a watch tower fu.ck her nicely and then dump her.
Give her some blo-jobs,let her taste the salt-liquid and then dump her.