By Mingeli Palata
Its an awfully beautiful Sunday afternoon, regular visitors to my house would he surprised to see me here and this is not only because I rarely spend my Sundays home but also because I am here in the front house trying to do up the landscape. It’s such a peaceful sight yet the same cannot be said about what is going on in my mind. Dear friends the thing is, when you watch the news and see kids that have been molested, like in my case, it doesn’t really make any sense until it happens to one of your own.
Allow me to take you back to that fateful and most recent Friday night, naturally after a long week I would link up with a couple of friends around our lovely Lusaka to hide somewhere in Rhodespark to hear the latest and to simply unwind the week. And so it was on the Friday that I linked up with ‘the usual suspects’ on what started off be to a promising evening. Little did I know that the next few minutes would paint a very grim picture.
I got a call from my little cousin and my first thought was an eminent invitation to one of those salsa dances around town, oh boy how was I wrong. Her message was simple yet thought provoking, ‘you better get home, my dear’. It wasn’t a prank; my kid sister was reported to have been raped. I obviously never really grasped the reality of that message until I got home only to see my aging mother turned into a sorry sight.
This prompted my quick arrival at woodlands Police station where the police officers on duty charged in response to my dismal temperament. Before I realized it, I had four officers at hand to withhold my anger. I looked at my twelve year old sister and couldn’t entertain the fact that some insane men had taken her advantage of her. As I peered deeper in her young eyes, a lot of thoughts came in my mind. I thought about the emotional trauma that this kid was obviously going through, I thought about the possibility of her contracting HIV, I thought about how this experience would affect her sexuality in future. Trust me; you wouldn’t want to be in my shoes.
The night earned itself some credit as the worst night ever such that as I made my way to the children’s section of the University Teaching Hospital, I didn’t know whether it was more important for me to be angry with the culprits or to sympathize with my kid sister. I could deploy all my available resources to making sure that the culprits have been brought to book but what would that change about my sister’s fate? I have too many questions with but a handful of answers. I guess you just never know, until it happens to one of your own!
Sad story.
Sorry Mingeli Palata.
Child Abuse pa Zed? :-?:-?
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5. 3RqU
Morning!
Sad Story :((:((
Ala this story is touching,nechilamba chapona :((
Oh! now that’s terrible 🙁
Cage all defilers and throw away the keys to their cells.
Our Law enforcers need to do more. This is sad and the crimminals shall contunue roaming our streets.
Lemme read first
It is making even more sad reading by looking at her picture ie if she is the one on this page :((
What the heck is wrong with some men????? i dont get it!!! Is it impossible to honestly control those John’s of yours???? Its not fair!!! capital punishment should be introduced! we dont need such characters in our society!!! Malabish!
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Ba LT iyi flag mwampela ya fake. You don’t treat your moderator like this ka. :-w
#7
Elimination is the best!!
Baby C, cutting it off would be better than capital punishment. in my opinion
Goodmorning,
hello 3Rqu & Jamaco, i always enjoy your contributions. stay blessed.
are this defillers normal or do they have sisters, daughters, mothers if they have then they are all mad pipo. We are never safe. can you really trust any one cos at times the men who defile these little ones are known. i have no kind words if i found one with my dota i would just chop it off and hand myself in to the police. Vetendin
Mhh! Baby I wish you where a judge, you could “chop” off a few eh? 🙂
Mhh! Baby c I wish you where a judge, you could “chop” off a few eh? 🙂
Mingeli, is that really your sister in the picture? I thought not. Do you have permission to use that picture? I thought not too. Ba LT, please remove that picture. It is obvious that the young girl is undergoing some trauma of some sort. Please do no increase her misery by using her picture over things she has no idea at all. Tesheti!!
hello Baby C you are right elimination is the best term. >:)
Local Mbuzi
Yess! with a sharp panga! and i would prefer the victim herself chops it off!!!
Moderator
You are right! so that they suffer for the rest of their lives! that would be sweet revenge
Candy :-h:-h
:”> this story is touching it has even made my face red:(
Question – how come Zed police are only out in full force during the day. You never see them at night or in the neighbourhoods only in town at the bus stops or traffic lights.
So so sad.
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# 19 you are right. Ba LT please do get consent from people to have thier pictures used on this blog.
Moderator!!
Thats very naughty!!1
Parents.Take care of your children.Ensure that no man or woman lays a finger on your child except in your presence.
Ine I have been to Dr Chokocha.If you lay a finger on my niece, efyo waile mwana.
Hello Everyone!!
It is really a sad story. Its about time men controlled their sexuality.Those bana ya mbuzi should go to Addis ababa drive for service(ofcourse paid for),coz if such a thing happened tomy sister, daughter or indeed any relative,not even the circus headed by Ephraim Mateyo or is it Kabonde, will deter me from inflicting the exacting retribution.
LT delete those insults on 26 please and prssibly ban him
LT dogs have come to the site. check 26 please
Sad in deed… Justice nothing else!
moderator :o:o
LT seriously delete those moderator comments ,they are very hurtful i will greatly appreciate
to moderator inshiku tashichela mumo we chisoso we i m sure uli MULOZI.
IT`S SO SAD ,MY NIECE OF 9 YRS WAS DEFILED (SP) BY AN UNCLE,A BROTHER TO THE MOTHER.APPARENTLY MY BROTHER HAPPENS TO BE THE FATHER TO THE GIRL BUT THE TWO DO NOT LIVE 2GETHER.BUT INSTEAD OF THE MOTHER TAKING ACTION SHE DECIDES TO KEEP QUET AND REVEAL AFTER DAYS.
THE FATHER REPORTS THE MATTER TO THE POLICE BUT THE MOTHER BECOMES UPSET AND `FWITILAS` THE CHILD AT THE FATHER`S SAYING THE BROTHER IF JAILED MIGHT DIE CAUSE THE PRISONS ARE PRONE TO ALOT OF ACTIVITIES SUCH AS SEXUAL ARRASMENTS AND HUNGER ,AND IF SUCH HAPPENS THEN THE FAMILY WILL MY BROTHER RESPONSIBLE 4 HIS DEATH. IT HAPPENED LAST WEEK SUCH ARE THINGS HAPPENING IN OUR SOCIETIES.THE CULPRIT IS LOCKED
#THE FAMILY WILL HOLD MY BROTHER RESPONSIBLE FOR THE CULPRITS DEATH IF HE WERE TO DIE IN PRISON
8-|8-|8-|sad indeed
sure chaipa
Caging these people doesnt save a purpose, they just end up becoming homosexuals in those crowded prisons that have become breeding grounds for strange illnesses. The best is to just Castrate them and you will be assured that they will never do it again. The islamic world has the lowest crime rates in the world and the reason is simple.if you rob someone your right hand will be amputated not only as punishment but for identification as well; if you repeat, then the left one is gone as well. Why cant we do the same with such abuse of children?
39. MEW
Too bad my Bro. way forward the NCC is still sitting can we submit that such people should just be castrated instead of being sent to jail where they will become homo’s. If such was possible iam sure as afamilly you could have reached a compromise and at the same time assured the community that the man will never do it again.
42. Engines
You are right!! They probably have Kids themselves who think and act just like them!!
So the Govt should become very sensitive about this issue. Complaining alone will not help!!
Sometimes people get Imbushi and Ichibata and do it. When we see these things we laugh. But wait until the above happens!! They would have moved from imbushi to Kids which now becomes a national issue!! Immediately you see those boys getting imbushi or ichibata send them to medical check up before it is too late!!
Pls RB and Dr. Mwanawasa address this matter to the Nation.
oh man, LT has thrown away 2 of my comments
Goodmorning everyone.
Sad report to begin the day with. Things have to change.
Hi Nine chale, is castrated an obscene word, LT wont allow me
Moin Nine Chale
“It was not fear of being sacked from the Republican vice-presidency that I gave up the job to Levy. It was just a practical thing. In the year I’m talking about, Tetamashimba was still in the UPND and therefore he has just expressed serious ignorance of what went on, although I am aware that whilst he was secretary general of UPND, the MMD used him extensively to obtain information on the goings on in UPND,” Kavindele said.
My comments at #26 were not meant to offend anyone. That is the truth of the matter. Some issues are worth talking about openly so we can understand the root causes of such a behaviour in male mammals. Humans to be specific. :-b
That sadly is a world wide problem.
ok, castrate fimo fimo…..These people have a mental illness and they wont stop at one, they need to be locked away to die. And women need to stop protecting family members that do such things.Its so unfair for our children……please..
MEW…Sorry man…atleast hes locked up
it has to be cut off. Defilement is very demonic
Moin Baby C. How are you dear?
#47 Miss Daisy, that word is not obscene but LT might have blocked it because someone used it offensively before.
#49 Zambia
What are you talking about?
#42 engine
Here is a question for you.Does castration stop the item from erecting?.As far as I know it doesn’t.It only stops a man from producing ma sperm, the rest remains the same.Ma issues from the item will still come out.Unless you meant chopping of the item itself, castration wouldn’t stop the culprits from committing the same offense. .
Indeed very sad, but ba LT I know that lady in the picture. Who gave you permision to use her photo? If you have no permission, please remove it.
Cutting it off or castration will not solve the problem coz sex is in the minds of individuals.To satisfy their demand for pleasure they can venture into oral fixation which is just as worse the actual…
Ba Nokia naimwe, nshili chisoso iyo. I am simply laying out ifishinka. Even the terms I used were very scientific and not profanity all. What was the purpose of studying biology in school if we cant apply it to our daily lives?
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There is no scientific evidence to suggest that once caged then one will never repeat the crime. This is why iam advocating for castrations.Once castrated it is scientifically imposible to engange in a normal sexual act. All sexual desires will be replaced with anguish for failure to have the slightest erection. The only side effect is that your wife will disert you in one way or the other and if you are single you might never marry. gentlemen and ladies i dont think this is too bad for a sexual offender. JAMACO #44 suggestions while valid might bring some animal rights issues and also strange illnesses into communitities.
Usually the perpetrators of such are the people the victims are close to! Someone who is trust worthy! In this case, uncles and cousins are the major culprits.
The reasons behind defilement are deeply social & spiritual. These are the areas that need attention. Castration is severe punishment but it wont stop the problem.
Well then taking them to the gallows is the way to go.
Morning all!
Sad story indeed & Mingeli is right, it can happen to anyone.
I dont support castration, but would go for more stiffer punishment like prolonged hard labour sentences.Such cases needs express trials & pictures of culprits to be published so that we know the animals behind these ugly crimes.
This should be able to deter would be offenders. This is really sad.
MISS DAISY,ENGINES AND THE REST ,THANX .WE HOPE THE LAW WILL TAKE ITS CAUSE
56. @tau
It does, ask those from southern province they will tell you that a castrated cow will never have an erection till death. There will be no production of sperms and all associated hormones. it will just be for the purpose of passing urine. The bottom line is No erection no sex, no testosterone(SP) no erection, no erection no desire, no desire no sex, no sex no defilment. see how it goes my friend!!
Engines
some bloggers did not understand the term castration ,its good that you have elaborated in details
# 66 Engine
That was crystal clear.I got it.Thanx.
63. @tau
Taking them to the gallows might serve but since those people will be killed that act will deny the communities the examples in the streets to deter would be offenders. you see, once you castrate them and through them in the streets news or is it stigma will be all over the hood including the local bars, it will also dominate the most effective Media tool ” womans talk”. That alone will help deter would be offenders. mind you its imposible for a castrated man to have sex and therefore to even keep a wife.
Sorry friend for whatever you and your little sister are going thru. i’ve been in such a situation but can imagine the pain you’re going through…… PLIZ PLIZ PIPO, LETS START POURING ACID ON THERE THINGS .. :(:(:( GOD HELP US…
It is a sad fact that this is happening in a Christian Nation. Remove the picture of a poor girl from the site. Remember, one day she will be a mother, Mother care!
Can someone enlighten me why there less defilements in islamic countries like SAUDI ARABIA? But to tell u the truth the only punishment for a defiler is to throw them into a drum of sulphuric acid so that they melt completely without any trace .never to be seen again.
It is a sad fact that this is happening in a Christian Nation. Remove the picture of a poor girl from the site. Remember, one day she will be a mother, Mother care!!
All the men should be elimimated, then it can be a better world!!! =))=))=)).
Zamtribe, morals. That’s what we lack. but that said, It also happens there. Only that our friends ba chaya yakumbuyo so the girl can still claim she is a virgin when marring her. You get the point my friend? And also saying it in the open will make the victim valueless so family members stay tight liped.
get our traditional leaders (men), community leaders (men), the church(men) and the most influencial men in our society to speak against sexual violence. it may just curb sexual violence
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Utility has no moral significance,only the person involved is well positioned to explain the reasons behind his action and level satisfaction gained from the illegal act.We need more behavioral management centres in the country.
sORRY TO YOUR YOUNG SISTER. i WISH HER RECOVERY FROM TRAUMA AND TO LOOK TO THE GOOD LOD GOD FOR HELP IN LEADING A NORMAL LIFE IN FUTURE. The Devil tries by all means to frustrate our efforts, but we can always look to God to recover and do well in life.
The past is one and now it time for your young sister to look to the present and future.
But Jendie #76,
Have you not noticed that these same men are the ones perpetrating the vice? We need stiffer punishment like hanging the culprit by the b a l l s while chopping off the manhood. What exactly wonders through the minds of men? What pleasure do they derive from such activities? God please come quickly
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74. your flag Baby C
I hope you ae not serious!!
Iwe you know fyaliwama sana but these Chaps have gone too far!! Lock them up!!
Jamaco
Am serious + you rigged nambala one yesterday!
Lusaka
I like that! Chop,chop,chop with their balls in the air =))=))
Yes Baby C. It is too much mwandini
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82. your flag Baby C
Ok lelo try again to get l-)
Still you can not chop chop chop with balls in the air please!!
What are you going to use nga tatukwete ifwe?
Umwinko? =))=))=))=))
no stiff punishment will deter men from such vices. we need to work on the minds of men and boys…. mind u, it cant be done over night….
if yesterday u looked at a girl and was tempted to defile her, then 2 day you looked at her (or a different one) and imagine you’re in the act, then u may b 2moro’s perpertrator.
Lets shape (avoid corupt minds) of our men/boys’ in whatever way possible…… i mean anything that guides our thinking ( music, food, movies, literature etc)
Nine Chale…okay, makes sense.. you well?
Baby C, how you keeping up?
Jamaco ulimwaume mukamba. You have a point. Not all men are irresponsible and its unfair for Baby C to state that all men should be eliminated. I mean these guys need us.we need each other. Those defiling young girls shpuld be punished severely.
I heard that some men in Europe which had been castrated because they were a risk to society have gone to the extend to take hormone treatment (testosterone = male hormones) to get erections again! You see it seems to be reversible. The doctors should put a stop to this!
SULPHIRIC ACID IS THE SOLUTION.
Ours is a sad world, the contradictions are so many and the victims so innocent. Just here, many would support porno but at the same time sympathise with victims!! very sad indeed.
Drug abuse and sexual degradation of many forms of which porno is one is causing this kind of behaiviour. Many chaps exposed to porno have developed a very negative atitude towards women and girls. To them, they are simply objects to satisfy thier lusts.
But I must admit that no all such sexual crimes are induced by exposure to porno.
This is a fear every parent has daily… safety for their children especially vulnerable daughters.
Scares me daily.. :o:ox(x(
ok, i know you have very beautiful sisters nothing close to the one on the picture and that has only helped to remove credibility (to those of us who know you) from your beautiful story … if only you had said it happened to someone else and also not used someone else’s picture. Careful LT and MP that picture can land you in court ….
Vitendeni ivo! Vijubeni Ivo
Nemifwalile ine kutu baiche. try to dress up please.
Thats indeed my sister in the photo. the fact that i have explained my way of living on a bit higher note does not mean my sister has to look different from the current picture. She is the one
muli ba .c.h.a.b.e c.h.a.b.e. ,i mean you are not even ashamed to talk of dressing whilst refering to a child wat ideas are u trying to put across , were do u come from ? mwisa namukolwa coz nangu ninkolwa nda lemba ifya mano very disappointing l-)
But why so many peeps outside the country blog…Get a joB Baby C!!
Meting out harsh punishment will not solve the problem. This problem, like all others vices, is deeply embbed in most people’s minds. Only teaching, educating and reprogramming people’s mind will produce positive results and that has to be in homes, schools, places of worship and prisons.
I AM AN UPCOMING LADY POLITICIAN VYING FOR PRESIDENCY. My main priority will be to deal with defilers. I will make sure all defilers to have their stinky horses chopped and make them eat after that burn them to ashes. I can assure you Zed will be a country to reckon with where defile cases are concerned. CHOP, CHOP,CHOP IT OFF,MAKE HIM EAT AND BURN HIM TO ASHES PERIOD.
Yeah, they say you never know how it feels untill it hits close to home.I understand how you feel coz it happened to my sister. My heart goes to you and all who are going through such.