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Woman takes life after reading fiance’s Facebook status update

Rural News Woman takes life after reading fiance's Facebook status update

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A woman in Kasama has taken her life after reading her partner’s updated Facebook status on his impending marriage to another woman.

The woman who was employed as a civil servant at the time of her death is said to have read from her partners wall on Facebook that he intended to marry another woman despite having promised to marry her.

Friends of the dead woman who was in her 20s said the news took her by surprise as she had been planning her wedding with her partner. Shortly after reading the status she took unknown substances that eventually killed her.

Northern Province deputy police chief Lackson Sakala confirmed the suicide but withheld the victim’s name and declined to state what poison she took till the release of the post-mortem report.

Close associates of the deceased woman said she had been found lying in pool of blood before being rushed to the hospital where she was pronounced dead on arrival.

81 COMMENTS

  1. hmmmmm, shame. He is not worth your life my dear. RIP..

    Thats why mum keeps saying ififine ifima facebook tafyawama…esp for married people. Brings tuma unnecessary arguments mumayanda and sharing utuntu tonse pamulabasa. Bakalami poka abalume….He bought this, he did this….Bassop!

    • @ndobo no Bembas no Zambia my dear!! i can assure you Zambia will be the worst boring country without Bemba speaking people, we are always live, sharp and make things happen hun……

    • @Ndobo…what do you aim to achieve with that hatred ? High time you saw more than tribe in situations.Consider everyone as Zambian first before tribe comes in.Your attitude is not even funny for your own information.It just shows how insecure you are in life.

    • You dull zambians above, she didnt commit suicide because of facebook. She commited suicide because her fiance disappointed her. Even if she received the news via text message, phone call, written letter, face to face talk she would still have commited suicide. What ever happened to analytic thinking ba mambala imwe ala.

    • Missy some of your points are valid. Your mum is right you spend too much time on facebook. As ba kazi be ba poka bamuna babene…muchinje imwe ma solola your time is up!!!

    • Chalo bantu wabo mutwe nga gumugumu. Na chizungu siuziba the worst boring country! What an overkill!
      My father used to narrate the cha cha cha days to us like this When we were fighting for independence Bembas would throw one stone and flee leaving us to fight the muzungu alone. After the fight they would emerge shouting “uyo!” When there was noone. Crafty monkey eaters.
      Anyway Ndobo just shut up

  2. SO very sad to lose a life in this manner, surely we cannot put the blame on the social media but the man who has been cheating on the woman. I wonder how the other woman will take the news concerning the man. But yet again she should have been brave to face the guy and not resort to suicide and give the guy all the reason to go ahead and shamelessly marry to other woman. Facebook yamuletelela umukashana sure! MHSRIP

  3. Nick and I have a very romantic facebook page where we talk about his bad habit of taking a bath twice a week. He’s so funny!!! Last night he ate beans and ‘exploded’ in our little diesel car!!! What a smell!

    Thanks.

    • How old are you? aren’t you too young to be using a computer unsupervised. And what insensitive remarks when someone has lost their life

    • So Nick is a call boy? Small wonder he has a flappy tongued, uncultured woman for a fiancee. Poor soul!

    • Mushota please get a life. I bath my dog every day how can a human being bath twice in a week ????????

    • 1. It’s not Mushota. Come on, it doesn’t even sound like her. 2. Dogs aren’t supposed to be bathed every day, their skin can dry out. Maybe once a month unless they have rolled in something or got sprayed by a skunk.

  4. THESE WOMEN. HAU
    THE OTHER WOMAN WAS HERSELF THAS WHY SHE WAS PLANNING HER WEDDING . NO NAMES HAVE BEEN MENTIONED HERE.

  5. THESE WOMEN. HAU
    THE OTHER WOMAN WAS HERSELF THATS WHY SHE WAS PLANNING HER WEDDING . NO NAMES HAVE BEEN MENTIONED HERE.

  6. Facebook is not for the faint hearted.No wonder we have many pseudo directors,ceo and university graduates.Don`t be friends with your partner or spouse on fb.Mhsrip.

  7. Facebook is not for the faint hearted.No wonder we have many pseudo directors,ceo and university graduates on fb.Don`t be friends with your partner or spouse on fb.Mhsrip.

    • You are right Mo taim, being friends with your partner on Facebook is as good as checking his fon or diary. My husband and I are not friends on FB and i NEVER visit his page.

    • My husband and I are friends on face book for the last 4months since then I have come to know him better even when he has had a bad day at work I know when not to be nagging. Actually we are better than when he was Not my friend. I have even come to know some people who might be a threat for me without any fuss. All she needed was to be strong, life is not fair that’s is why always leave room for doubt so that even when your spouse hurts you, one is able to stand up and go on with life. MHSRIP.

    • The problem with Facebook is that just a simple status might make your partner either to feel jealousy or hurt.Imagine a husband or wife putting up a status by telling someone that he or she can’t wait to see them again.The spouse might think he or she is cheating while in reality it is somebody you saw a long time ago.Something simple like a like or comment has also potential to provoke unnecessary situation.I will never be friends with my wife.

  8. It should not have ended this way for this young lady. Older ladies must also prepare the young gilrs that dissappoints are part of the game on the way to marriage. These things happen and people who cheat on their partners will always be there. You can not hurt you family and take your life becuase a boy has another girl. My your Soul Rest In Peace. May be this was your time and how you must depart from earth. The maambala boy has a ghost on his back. Yanya iwe you will have a poor love life forver!

  9. What about honesty in the place of cowardice? The boy is a coward. I hope the other girl he has proposed to marry can tell him to his face that he is a coward, who failed to tell the other girl that their relationship was over. After all, “Inkobekela te cupo”. It is only difficult to appreciate this old saying if the boy and girl were dishonouring to each other before they got married by having sex before marriage, thereby the flirtatious boy became disinterested.

  10. I blame her pliz this is life given 2 us by God,our parents work hard 2 get us 2 the point in life!and you shud kill yourself over a man hell no,no man or woman is worth yo life tears yes maybe!life no!I feel 4 her but I feel 4 her family more!the guy will even move

    • I agree. Life is better than anything. Infact we are not living for joy but sorrow. We have to stand still to make it thru to Everlasting Happiness. Sorry!

  11. This is a timely warning to you Zambians, muleke ifyakukopa-kopa. This FACEBOOK thing is foreign and we should leave it to the foreigners. Anything and everything which comes our way, we are the first to grasp even when we don’t understand it. Wigs, so-called Brazilian Hair, Human Hair; even if it is shaved off dead pipo ifwe ku grabber. In Zambia today you will find even VIPs like ba Nkandu Luo, the first Lady etc, are wearing vima Wigs. What’s happened to our traditional way of life when our great great Grandmothers platted their hair? What happened to our natural and traditional beauticians who would prick a piece of wood through (ubutundu) the upper lip of a beautiful African (Zambian) young lady? Mwanya, mwakulafwa fye ifyo fine…..

  12. Nkope, and the technology you are using is too.

    Sign off and return to conventional ways of communicating.

    Don’t throw bath water with the baby!

  13. That is good for Muchinga women who takes pride of men they do not know and boost to their freinds. Good ridance rest in pieces mummy.

  14. …Go on ba Gundixy, copy anything and everything including that which is detrimental to your wellbeing as pipo. Go on taking DRUGS, teach your children (if you have any) how to fire a Pistol let alone, how to play violent computer games, teach them to watch live sex on TV at a tender age, speak the english language even better than the english themselves. You can literally do anything you wish since yours in “technology” and indeed democracy. Go on and have sex and even marry your fellow man (or woman) because in your small mind; that’s what the western world is saying you Zambians should do, the list is endless….

    • Nkope, you completely misunderstand.
      Some issues you raise have nothing to do with being foreign or Western. Our ancestors had spears and then guns for hunting, and they taught their sons and grand sons. How do you conclude I take drugs? My word! I hope you don’t have serious issues. Chamba is in every province of Zambia, and sometimes it is even called “fwaka yaciNgoni”. Is that Western?

      One can easily conclude you to be emotional or unsociable. You can’t raise your concerns contextually or clearly.

      And for goodness sake, don’t you dare say I have a small mind, which mind you might have.

  15. This lady got depressed after reading the FB wall. This is sad, mhsrip. I hope that cunt of a man never finds peace for causing this.

  16. There are many Facebook tragedies to boot. It is like allowing every Jim and Jack to read and interpret the scriptures anyway they want – you have useless religious gatherings. In the same way, we have had emotionally immature kids killing themselves over cyberbullying; others committing suicide because they have been blackmailed with their own nakedness shown on facebook; most recently a football star discovered his facebook fiancee who was alleged to have died was actually alive and well AND not who he thought she was (didn’t exist). Just a few examples. You need to be prepared when you get your little fingers and eyes onto Facebook…

    • I agree. The thing about electronic communication is that people find it easier to hurt others, especially if they are anonymous (see tribal blogging) but even if it is connected to their names. It seems more common for people to give bad or even just important news in a more impersonal manner (texts, statuses, email). There’s a place for it (maybe not for fb), but when people substitute for in-person or even phone communication, relationships are less personal. That’s not to say that hearing it in person or finding a letter would have prevented her death; it’s a more general musing. But the cases in the U.S. and Canada with the teenage girls committing suicide would not have happened without abuse of technology and the lack of empathy that seems more common now. MHSRIP.

    • The thing about electronic communication is that people find it easier to hurt others, especially if they are anonymous (see tribal blogging) but even if it is connected to their names. It seems more common for people to give bad or even just important news in a more impersonal manner (texts, statuses, email). There’s a place for it (maybe not for fb), but when people substitute for in-person or even phone communication, relationships are less personal. That’s not to say that hearing it in person or finding a letter would have prevented her death. But the cases in the U.S. and Canada with the teenage girls committing suicide would not have happened without abuse of technology and the lack of empathy that seems more common now. MHSRIP.

  17. Too sad indeed for the young lady. But just reading from the o ccaled face book can not make final conclusion that his fiance was marrying another lady. She could have first found out the all issue from the very gentleman or share what she felt to older people who have passed through such difficult times. Taking her life was the worst she could have done. MHSRIP

  18. The man is a liar and will face the same thing that the poor lady has faced. How do you promise marriage to two women at the same time. To the lady she should have been strong to believe that she will find another man better then the one who was double crossing her, she had a timely warning before marriage and she should have praised God for the revelation. To crown it all she was a civil servant who was able to put bread on her table. Surely young men and women when you are in a relation or marriage the best time to part is when your partner is flitting with another person it is even approve as the only way you can divorce if you can’t forgive. Her soul will not rest in peace.

  19. @ Chalo Bantu I wish you were right. unfortunately you are empty tins that is why Northern and Muchinga provinces are terribly poor. You talk too much with ZERO productivity! Your smartness is all about theft and corruption. What a People!

    • @HEYA u may be allowed to criticise bt dnt generalise hw does Chalo Bantu become people of Northern and Muchinga provinces ar terribly poor yes god nena saw it fit for all of us to be rich either in wisdom or materially if thats wat u meant pliz da rich u r shall share da riches with da nidy i thing u got my point.

  20. Too sad for someone who read a stutus on facebook to take her own life. Men please be honest to one another and let god take care of the deceased.

  21. there is no need to do what she did, if it was her parents who said they don’t need her better, a relationship, and may be it was a joke. don’t take these media things serious. pipo have created these dating sites, using fake photos, claiming they are men or women, and charging pipo for subscribing to mit their intented patners, but it is this smart guy in a room doing it, no one around. so be careful you pipo who believe in everything you read. this woman to me she is a fool, may her soul rest in her iternal hell.

  22. I think i’ve been disqualified from commenting on LT all my comments are still “awaiting moderation”i dont know maybe am part of the Tsarnaev family from Dagestan

  23. may God ve mercy on the man who on cheated her.thats very sad hw cn sum1 kill herself over a man.may her soul rest in peace.

  24. only de strong fb, if u r nt beta close account. wel he wl stl update his status wht wl u do nxt? hide in hell. rip

  25. Sorry guys, the veterans of LT bloggers not Ndobo and his clan, what happened to Maestro did he RIP with the PACT of PF and Under5 that seemd to have confused him.

  26. MEN SINCERERITY TAMWAKWATA HENCE NOWADAYS WOMEN HAVE NW BECOME LIKE MEN KULAMIDABULAFYE. SAD FO THE LOSS THO WE KNW THAT PIPO WHO DIE IN SUCH A WAY CAN NEVER INHERIT THE KINGDOM OF GOD. NGA ALISHIPAKO UMUKASHANA THAN WAT SHE HAS DONE. THE MAN NW IS GOIN AHEAD TO MARRY THAT WOMAN. BLOGERS LETS LEARN SOMETHIN FROM THIS

  27. Very sad to read about this, she should have accepted and moved on with her own life without this bustard..i one time asked my husband about a certain woman but he slaped me with a alot of words and denied it openly but later bafilwa and then they started writing on fb but i just ignored and not to kill me at all.

  28. I once worked in the ER at a hospital in a West Texas city. Suicides of teen girls were usually common during valentine and Christmas. Suicide notes often indicated unbelievable reasons for killing oneself. Things like”he didn’t buy me roses” or “he failed to take me out for dinner as promised” or ” I found him caressing my sister”, were a common feature. Young Ladies, get a life and deal with your sentimentalities and infatuations. Some of these are not worthy it. Really. May her soul rest in peace.

  29. I once worked in the ER at a hospital in a West Texas city. Suicides of teen girls were usually common during valentine and Christmas. Suicide notes often indicated unbelievable reasons for killing oneself. Things like”he didn’t buy me roses” or “he failed to take me out for dinner as promised” or ” I found him caressing my sister”, were a common feature. Young Ladies, get a life and deal with your sentimentalities and infatuations. Some of these ‘things’ are not worthy it. Really. A young life has been snuffed because of some ‘styopet’ man. May her soul rest in peace.

  30. I’m not on facebook & I don’t wish any time soon to create an account.I’m quite big tym happy with my resolve & I miss NOTHING

  31. THE PROBLEM WITH THIS CASE IS MAY BE THAT THE DEAD WOMAN GAVE IN TO THE MAN’S SEXUAL DESIRES. HE REACHED THE ULTIMATE OF HIS NEEDS.

    THAT IS WHY WE ENCOURAGE YOUNG PEOPLE TO STAY AWAY FROM SEX UNTIL MARRIAGE. THE MOMENT HE BREAKS YOUR VIRGINITY, HE WILL WANT TO STILL MARRY A VIRGIN! MEN ARE VERY SELFISH.

    WE LOVE YOU YOUNG PEOPLE GET THIS WISE ADVISE AND AVOID TAKING YOUR OWN LIVES LIKE THIS YOUNG LADY! WHAT A SHAME BECAUSE HE IS NOT WORTH YOUR LIFE!

  32. I find strange how people take facebook so serioulsy to an extent of takinhg their lives. I think there was more to it than just reading from facebook.

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