By Fred M’membe President of the Socialist Party
Seeking morality, justice or whatsoever without compassion is cruelty. I don’t personally know Mary Chirwa – the director general of the Drug Enforcement Commission – and I don’t know how she looks like. But if the videos circulating on social media are truly hers then she has been cruelly betrayed by someone she trusted and shared a very intimate relationship with.
This type of betrayal of a relationship of intimacy is worse than unreliability or deception, worse than many acts of harm. It is a special sort of violation, one that jolts against the background of what seemed to be a relationship of deep trust with particular strong expectations of loyalty and intimacy.
Betraying intimate trust requires that trust is given. A relationship of intimacy builds security and lowers normal protections. Many, sometimes for the first time in their adult life, feel they no longer are travelling the dusty roads alone. The intimate secrets of our heart, body can be shared, respected and honoured. When our partner attacks us at this deep level, we tend to see this as disloyalty and betrayal, for it is very difficult to withstand attacks that are directed against one’s self-image at a very deep level.
For whatever reason, transgression, it is extremely cruel to circulate such videos. There are more humane ways of dealing with differences or hurts.
Why are some humans so cruel to others? Where does this behaviour come from and what purpose does it serve?
“Humans are the glory and the scum of the universe,” concluded French philosopher Blaise Pascal in 1658. Little has changed. We love and we loathe. We help and we harm. We reach out a hand and we stick in the knife.
Someone who gets pleasure from hurting or humiliating others in this way is a sadist. And they enjoy it. But why should human beings be so cruel to each other? And how do we justify such acts of sheer inhumanity?
The conventional explanation is that people are able to do terrible things to other people only after having dehumanised them and start to see them as objects without the right to dignity, or even life itself.
Whoever circulated those videos is ready to see Mary dead because if she is not strong she can commit suicide. Throughout history, people have committed all kinds of cruel, degrading, and evil acts toward other people. Many believe that for cruel acts to be even possible, the victims must first be dehumanised by the perpetrators. But is this lack of empathy always at the heart of human cruelty? When one publishes or circulates such videos he is thereby denying Mary’s humanity.
This lack of empathy has always been at the heart of human cruelty. Cruelty emerges when something is wrong with a person’s empathy circuit. A cruel act is generally designed to provoke an emotional reaction from its recipient – meaning that its perpetrator.
OMG THIS MAN HAS VERBAL DIARRHEA
It’s extremely cruel! So says Mr Cruel himself.
SHE SHOULD RESIGN ON MORAL GROUNDS
KKKKKK YAAAAABA PA ZED
Even if she resigns from her post ………
The president should keep her on an advisory role and appoint someone tougher………..
Seems like the enemies of anti corruption don’t like her…………..
Oh, This sounds like the POST EDITORIAL. We miss The POST Ba Membe
If that presidential photographer is entangled in this scandle in any way as innuendos have it………….
He should be dropped ASAP before he embarrasses statehouse ………..
His name is being mentioned way too often in stories far away from photography
Thats Wisdom
Context please… what did I miss?
Well spoken Fred
Sad news
Imwe Bantu, ever believe him/her when they tell you that they “have delete everything”. Ni boza! It will pass ma sista. You are caught up in rushing flood waters, hold on to something made out of love.
Could it be that those who serve in sensitive public offices have their bedrooms bugged with audio-visual devices planted by Intelligence officers? President Sata warned chief Jumbe that he knew what was going on in his bedroom. Zambians must pass a law where spying on citizens should be illegal unless authorised by a High Court judge. The New Dawn government must revisit the Cyber crime law and make sure that security officers do not abuse their authority by listening in on private conversations or activities. They may be the ones who would leak such recordings in order to serve the interests of the highest bidder.
This must be investigated. We need to understand exactly what happened here.
Could it be that those who serve in sensitive public offices have their bedrooms bugged with audio-visual devices planted by Intelligence officers? President Sata warned chief Jumbe that he knew what was going on in his bedroom. Zambians must pass a law where spying on citizens should be illegal unless authorised by a High Court judge. The New Dawn government must revisit the Cyber crime law and make sure that security officers do not abuse their authority by listening in on private conversations or activities. They may be the ones who would leak such recordings in order to serve the interests of the highest bidder.
ZICTA please show us what you made of. Identify the chap who posted the video and let the Law catch up with him/her. We are in a Christian nation and our behavior should be befitting of such. Naleka
Govt has the intelligent resources to investigate and identify the source of the reported scandalous sexual video. If the producer of the video who thrives on defaming women’s characters is based at State House, then this chap is prone to detonate a destructive human explosive at the nerve centre of Government.
For the first time , Fred you have written something moving and touching. You almost made me cry.
Human reactions are amazing when a social crisis threatens a given group of people. UPND cadres have gone into some Olympic frenzy in competing for a gold medal in a game to WRAP up a descent “chitenge” over Mary Chirwa’s waist (musana). For Anthony Bwalya being forced to enter the race means that the sex scandal has affected the “seat” of Govt. Sadly, the damage is severe in that the story has spread like wild fire in social media as it is being reported in different languages at a global level. This is a curse on Zambia.
Ba presido after mwatamba ka video otherwise naimwe namubembuka ukutambila ba nkashi.
Sad news
The Bible says man will cause injury to his fellow man