FROM sex boosters promising wonders in the bedroom, there is now a growing trend by people turning to sex toys, especially in Lusaka, for sexual fantasy.

Shops selling adult toys have popped up around the city.

One such stall selling the sex toys is found at a market in Longacres.

The sales lady at the stall, Nina (not real name), said she has sold over 600 sets of a popular sex toy for women called Bunny since the stall opened in July last year.

The products Nina sells range from vibrators for women to men’s sex items.

There are also sex toys for gays, which Nina said are also popular.

But she said popular among her customers are married women.

“I have a lot of customers who are married women, and their major complaint is that their husbands do not satisfy them, either they always come home late or they are always tired,” she said.

She added: “I don’t know what happens in marriages, but women complain a lot about men.”

But Nina said some of her male customers also buy the sex toys for their wives.

“Can’t you buy a G-spot for your wife? It’s not a big deal,” she said.

Nina also said while most of her male customers are usually shy and would rather order the toys from their cars in the parking lot, the women are less shy about it.

“The men will call me and say bring to my car, but the women are very free about it,” she said.

She said her customers range in ages between 25 and 60 years for women, while for men, the ages range from 30 to 100 years.

Nina said using a sex toy is better than sleeping around, which may lead one to contracting sexually transmitted infections.

And what is the downside of the products?

Nina said the sex toys could lead to divorce for married women, as they “satisfy women more than a man will and the more you use it, the more you want it”.

Asked if she would use a vibrator herself, she replied: “If I had two kids, a nice job and I was disappointed by my partner, I would go for a vibrator.”

But relationship expert Walubita Siyanga said God created man and woman with everything needed for sexual fulfilment and they do not need a sex toy.

He said the reason married partners are seeking sexual pleasure in sex toys may be attributed to lack of communication on sex.

“I would advise couples to explore ways of satisfying themselves naturally,” said Pastor Siyanga, who is a marriage counsellor.

He also said the downside of using sex toys is that it is based on self-satisfaction and, therefore, does not “do much to build intimacy between the couple”.

“The meaning of love-making is lost because you cannot make love to yourself,” he said.

PRESIDENT Lungu was yesterday among several African heads of State and representatives of Government who attended the 26th session of the heads of State and Government of the African Peer Review Mechanism (APRM) forum at the African Union (AU) headquarters.

The APRM forum is a specialised agency of the AU which was initiated in 2002 and established in 2003 by the AU in the framework of the implementation of the New Partnership for Africa’s Development (NEPAD).

President Lungu was accompanied to the session by Minister of Foreign Affairs Harry Kalaba, Minister of Justice Given Lubinda, Zambia’s ambassador to Ethiopia Susan Sikaneta and special assistant to the President for press and public relations Amos Chanda.

This was at the on-going 28th ordinary session of the Assembly of heads of State and Government of the AU here, which started on Friday and ends on Tuesday.

APRM forum chairperson Uhuru Kenyatta said the number of reviews on governance has significantly improved as five more member states have applied to be reviewed.

Mr Kenyatta, who is Kenya President, said it is gratifying that the APRM forum has also witnessed peaceful elections and transitions in Zambia and other countries such as Ghana and Nigeria among others which recently held general elections.

He said contrary to “anticipation by the outside continent”, Zambia and other African countries which held elections recently have demonstrated that individual African countries can manage democratic processes peacefully.

He called for unity among African countries as the continent collectively pursues the Africa Agenda 2063.

And African Union Commission (AUC) deputy chairperson Erastus Mwencha said member states should support home-grown solutions to effectively deliver APRM programmes for African countries to succeed in governance.

Meanwhile, Namibia is the newest country to join the APRM forum with its President Hage Geingob, appending the signature to the ses-sion memorandum of understanding yesterday.

The APRM is a tool for sharing experiences, reinforcing best practices, identifying deficiencies and assessing capacity-building needs.

This is to foster policies, standards and practices that lead to political stability, high economic growth, sustainable development and accelerated sub-regional and continental economic integration.

Member countries use the APRM to self-monitor all aspects of their governance and socio-economic development.
AU stakeholders participate in the self-assessment of all arms of government (executive, judiciary and legislature), the private sector, civil society and the media.

The APRM review process gives member states space for national dialogue on governance and socio-economic indicators and an opportunity to build consensus.

Today’s Scripture

“They saw the works of the Lord, his wonderful deeds in the deep.”
(Psalm 107:24, NIV)

When You’re in Deep

The scripture says is Psalm 107:23–24, “They that go down to the sea and do business in deep waters, they will see the wonders of God.” Think about that for a minute. You and I were created to do business in deep waters.

In other words, we’re not supposed to have little dreams or little plans. We are supposed to have big dreams! We are supposed to go out into the deep things God has for us. But understand, when you’re out there in the deep waters, you can’t touch the ground. You can’t see the shoreline, and at times, it can get a little rocky.

You may not always see how things are going to work out. But the scripture tells us that deep calls to deep. In other words, God is the one who has called you to the deep waters. He is with you, and He knows there are deep things on the inside of you.

Remember, in deep waters, you are not alone. God is with you, and He’s causing those deep things inside of you to come forth. If you feel like you are out in the deep today, if you feel like you are overwhelmed, remember, you are in the right place and God is with you. You will see His wonderful deeds in the deep, and you will fulfill the plan He has in store for you.

A Prayer for Today

“Father, I surrender every area of my life to You. I hunger for every single thing You have in store for me. I choose to trust You out in the deep waters knowing that You have good things in store for me in Jesus’ name. Amen.”

THERE is nothing wrong with the Zambia Police Service directing its high-ranking officers not to marry foreigners because this is a security measure that has been in force since the Kenneth Kaunda era, former Church of God overseer John Mambo has said.

Bishop Mambo said the criticism that the Police Command has been subjected to after an internal memo from the senior command to police officers not to marry foreigners was leaked to the public was unfair.

He said there was nothing new about the directive because it was common knowledge among high-ranking officers that it was a security risk to marry non-Zambians as it compromised the security of the country.

He said it was unfortunate for outsiders who did not know the policies that governed the police service to start criticizing the decisions and directives by the higher command and the circumstances under which they were issued as that would compromise the operations of the service.

He said allowing senior officers who held sensitive positions to marry foreigners exposed the country’s security which could result in serious consequences which Zambia could fail to deal with.

“First of all, that circular was not for you and me. It was for the officers who understand the policies of the service but because it was leaked to the public which had no clue of what happens in the inner circles, it is news to them yet the officers understand these things.

“The truth is, there is nothing new. These are things that have been in the service as way back as Dr. Kaunda’s era and this is a security issue. We cannot compromise on the security of the country because by marrying foreigners, we are putting the security of the country at risk and the junior officers have a choice whether to marry within or go for foreigners and risk not getting promoted,” Bishop Mambo said.

He said those commenting on the subject needed to approach it with an open mind as there were rules and regulations which governed institutions.

“It is just like in our churches; the fact that I am a bishop does not mean that I can serve mass in a Catholic church because we have different beliefs.

“Women are so influential in homes that an officer cannot resist the temptation of revealing information that may be used against our country and so let us approach this issue with an open mind and the caution it deserves,” he said.

THE Rainbow Party has described as propaganda, social media reports that its leader Wynter Kabimba has been frequenting State House to reconcile with President Edgar Lungu in a bid to be adopted as a running mate in the Patriotic Front (PF) in the 2021 general elections.

Rainbow Party national coordinator Robert Chikwelete said there had been

‘innuendoes and malicious propaganda’’ against Mr Kabimba that he was contemplating abandoning his party and returning to the PF where he was allegedly seeking to be the next vice-president.

Mr Chikwelete said Mr Kabimba was a principled leader who was not going to leave the Rainbow which he founded under an ideology that would completely change the way politics were practised in Zambia.

He said in an interview that Mr Kabimba was a dedicated leader who was going to work hard until the Rainbow Party formed government under a socialist ideology which he said was being vigorously sold to Zambians.

Mr Chikwelete said the people who were fabricating stories that Mr Kabimba was frequenting State House had been shocked by the stability and popularity the Rainbow Party was enjoying and had embarked on malicious propaganda meant to cause confusion in the opposition party.

He said the Rainbow Party was aware that some of its former members were championing a crusade to weaken the party because they had realised that it was the only party with the possibility of forming the next government.

“There has been propaganda on some social media that Comrade Wynter Kabimba has been frequenting State House in a bid to be considered as a running mate to President Lungu in the 2021 general elections. These reports are totally untrue meant to derail the progress the Rainbow Party has made.

“The Rainbow Party is the only political organisation that has shown stability and we are massively selling our socialist ideology. Comrade Kabimba is not going anywhere and remains the leader of our party. We are going to form the next government under the socialist ideology under Mr Kabimba,” Mr Chikwelete said

He called on party members not to listen to the political gossip against Mr Kabimba but continue with their mobilisation as the Rainbow Party was preparing for the next general elections.

He said the Rainbow Party, as a mature political organisation, was not going to engage in politics of name calling, malice and vengeance because its priority was to serve Zambians in the best possible way.

Mutati faction MMD National Secretary Raphael Nakacinda says Nevers Mumba the former Party President intends to borrow cadres from the opposition UPND to attend an illegal convention on March 19th,2017.

Speaking when he featured on Millennium Radio on Thursday Morning Mr Nakacinda said his Party has information that the embattled former Party leader is planing to go with UPND cadres to an illegal convention.

He wondered that maybe Dr. Mumba was calling for a UPND convention instead and was just wrongly calling it an MMD convention, and further warned the UPND that they may get a rude shock that the convention Dr. Mumba was calling with borrowed UPND members was to make himself president of UPND.

He added the UPND leadership will wake up to a rude shock to find out that the person they have embraced has created his own faction within the UPND.

“We know Nevers Mumba and we believe that he is plotting to take take over the UPND, remember that this is the same person while serving as Republican Vice President called a press conference while President Mwanawasa was out of the country. Soon there will be a Hakainde faction and Nevers Mumba faction in the UPND.”

He warned Dr Mumba not to go through with his plans as doing so will be breaking the law which he assured him will land him in serious problems.

Mr Nakacinda said his former President should realize that he cannot continue to break the law with impunity because the law will break him.

He said in terms of party mobilization as the Chief Executive Officer of the Party he is the first to know if there are any movements in the Party and that no one has been mobilising members for the purported MMD convention.

He further doubted whether Dr Mumba had the financial capacity to hold a convention as no sponsor will be willing to support a masquerader and an illegality.

On political violence Mr Nakacinda said there are certain individuals in political circles who seem to attract violence wherever they go.

In an apparent reference to UPND Vice President Geoffrey Bwalya Mwamba, Mr Nakacinda said it is unfair to blame political parties when it is specific individuals who are violent.

He said before moving to the UPND from PF Mr Mwamba instigated violence in the PF to the extent that coffins were seen everyday in town and that since joining the UPND youths are openly moving without shirts portraying their muscle with pangas.

He urged the public to condemn people that have been using money to fan political violence by using political parties.